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Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 6:45:21 PM   
skirtboy43


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Status: offline 		I've given collarme's chatrooms a fair shake, and I have to say (in a girly voice) that that's 6 hours I'll never get back.   I'd guess, I'm no statistician, just a silly little flouncer, but I'd guess 60% of the chat consists of salutations and departures.   Do some people like this?   I mean how can they?   It makes watching paint dry or grass grow seem like a weekend in Vegas with 4 fem-dom pros, loads of lovely dresses and skirts, nipple clamps, a bottle of vodka and an eightball.    
Surely the point of all this is release, a bit of fun, the occasional tickling of a fancy, a good spanking, some humiliation.........
I'm just asking, I don't mean to offend (okay, I do)
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 6:48:04 PM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		Very, very boring!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 6:51:42 PM   
skirtboy43


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Status: offline 		Is that because it's a chatroom, or just this particular chatroom?    I'm new to the whole concept, in theory, tho', shouldn't it be possible to have fun?
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 7:07:41 PM   
porthuronsub


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Status: offline 		I actually find it interesting to see others' views on different topics.  i don't spend alot of time here, but do occassionally drop in to see what was written about different topics.  Some of the topics don't interest me in the least and I don't bother looking at them, others are areas that I am interested in trying some day and I find them to be informative.  There does seem to be some online friendships formed here and that isn't all bad either.  If you are really into this it could help to find out about upcoming events, munches ect. 
There is alot of salutations and such here, playful speak if you want to call it that, but I think that is representative of any chatroom.  They aren't for everyone, maybe you need the stimulation of actual conversation...not everyone does or wants it.

Diane,  I have been meaning to ask...do you ride those dirt bikes?

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 7:53:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I guess you expected to go in there and get entertained, get off or have other people immediately flock to you and shower you with attention?  It's hysterical when people complain about how boring a chatroom is. Do you realize you are part of the problem? Duh.  A chatroom is never boring when I go in it IF I feel like starting an interesting conversation.  Get the difference?  The point is, you have to put effort into it.

I have chats regularly on my site and they are always lively, either interesting conversations or really hiliarious and sometimes stimulating games and whatnot.  The times I have gone into Collarme chat rooms I've enjoyed myself, and if there's nothing going on, I make something happen.

If a room of people is dead and a real bore, consider yourself the first person to blame.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 7:59:22 PM   
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have other people immediately flock to you and shower you with attention? 



I have too many people flocking to me and too much attention.


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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 9:12:24 PM   
porthuronsub


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If a room of people is dead and a real bore, consider yourself the first person to blame.

Akasha



I would have to think that when he is invited to parties he finds them boring as well....I think he is probably one of the wallflowers you see at parties.  Not mingling having fun, just standing off to the side watching others have fun then complaining afterwards about how "boring" it was.

After looking at his profile I would think he would be more at home in a political chatroom. 

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 9:16:14 PM   
porthuronsub


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I have too many people flocking to me and too much attention.


Diane
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Being popular is a real bitch isn't it   lol

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 9:23:12 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear skirtboy43, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Chatrooms are active people exchanging conversation, whereas message boards are post and post a response/reply like here.
 
Chatrooms have a pulse and life of their own, where it depends on who is in the chatroom at the time sets the tone and behavior at that time. 
 
When people come in and become difficult, it makes others uncomfortable and disrupts the flow of the room.  It is something like entering a common room, or a parlor to which if someone advertises the need to be spanked, humiliated or some cyber scenes--all have to consent --otherwise, its just a distraction in a negative manner.
 
Most come in to discuss serious lifestyle questions, seek advice or network information.  That seems to have been the original intent to the designs of Collarme.com's chat rooms.
 
If you do find someone you wish to chat with alone, there is a way to invite them to a private chat in the collarme.com's home page, message section.
 
Good luck to you.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/16/2007 10:29:52 PM   
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I guess you expected to go in there and get entertained, get off or have other people immediately flock to you and shower you with attention?    Yes, well that's sure what happens at a real party, with real people: when I'm out shaking my petouty, everyone notices!  It's hysterical when people complain about how boring a chatroom is.   If so, it's a lot more "hysterical" than an actual chatroom.   Do you realize you are part of the problem?   Huh?   Duh.  Oh I get it!   The problem is that conversation requires two interlocutors.   Every time I'm in a chatroom I feel like I'm Oscar Wilde compared to everyone else.   And I'm no Oscar Wilde!   A chatroom is never boring when I go in it IF I feel like starting an interesting conversation.   If I, or several other people, start an intersting conversation, I get tossed - why bother?    Get the difference?  The point is, you have to put effort into it.   My turn, "Duh!" except that sometimes, as in "flogging a saucy skirt boy," you are simply wasting your time. 

I have chats regularly on my site and they are always lively, either interesting conversations or really hiliarious and sometimes stimulating games and whatnot.  And who doesn't love a little bit of "whatnot!"   The times I have gone into Collarme chat rooms I've enjoyed myself, and if there's nothing going on, I make something happen.   Really?   Because you're not making much happen here.   I'm not really seeing an argument, just a lot of platitudes.

If a room of people is dead and a real bore, consider yourself the first person to blame.   Why on earth would I want to do that?   First of all, I blame the hostess (unless she's wearing leather and knows well what a bad boy I am) for inviting all these bores, then I blame the bores, only then do I blame me, but only for wasting those moments in between when I realize that I'm bored and my departure.  

Akasha    Kissy, kissy Akasha!    I shake my frilly little skirt and do a curtsy!
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 12:56:49 AM   
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 Huh?   Duh.  Oh I get it!   The problem is that conversation requires two interlocutors.   Every time I'm in a chatroom I feel like I'm Oscar Wilde compared to everyone else.   And I'm no Oscar Wilde!   A chatroom is never boring when I go in it IF I feel like starting an interesting conversation.   If I, or several other people, start an intersting conversation, I get tossed - why bother?    Get the difference?  The point is, you have to put effort into it.   My turn, "Duh!" except that sometimes, as in "flogging a saucy skirt boy," you are simply wasting your time. 



Dude.....

I wouldn't worry about the chat room at all if I were you. Besides, you sound like you're having fun here.....and to give you a compliment, I have laughed my ass off reading your inane posts. I like your sense of humor.... you've made fun of yourself in real good spirit and at the same time livened-up this section of the boards.



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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 5:03:21 AM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Many times, people are paired off in "private" conversations, but keep up the Hi's and Goodbye's out of ettiquette protocol, it's all about the politeness.  So, while it looks as though people are sitting around just saying Hi and Goodbye, they're really talking to each other.  Sucks for the newcomers, but it's part of chatroom. And why I don't go to them anymore, either. 

I will say that, compared to say, ten years ago, chatrooms have changed.  There used to be cool, intelligent people having fun and conversations, but they shifted to trolls and wankers.  Seems like it used to be easy to start convesations or full-scale parties in Yahoo, MSN, and other chat sites.  MSN became a pay site, and Yahoo is nothing but smut.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 8:39:04 AM   
AAkasha


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ORIGINAL: skirtboy43



I guess you expected to go in there and get entertained, get off or have other people immediately flock to you and shower you with attention?    Yes, well that's sure what happens at a real party, with real people: when I'm out shaking my petouty, everyone notices!  It's hysterical when people complain about how boring a chatroom is.   If so, it's a lot more "hysterical" than an actual chatroom.   Do you realize you are part of the problem?   Huh?   Duh.  Oh I get it!   The problem is that conversation requires two interlocutors.   Every time I'm in a chatroom I feel like I'm Oscar Wilde compared to everyone else.   And I'm no Oscar Wilde!   A chatroom is never boring when I go in it IF I feel like starting an interesting conversation.   If I, or several other people, start an intersting conversation, I get tossed - why bother?    Get the difference?  The point is, you have to put effort into it.   My turn, "Duh!" except that sometimes, as in "flogging a saucy skirt boy," you are simply wasting your time. 

I have chats regularly on my site and they are always lively, either interesting conversations or really hiliarious and sometimes stimulating games and whatnot.  And who doesn't love a little bit of "whatnot!"   The times I have gone into Collarme chat rooms I've enjoyed myself, and if there's nothing going on, I make something happen.   Really?   Because you're not making much happen here.   I'm not really seeing an argument, just a lot of platitudes.

If a room of people is dead and a real bore, consider yourself the first person to blame.   Why on earth would I want to do that?   First of all, I blame the hostess (unless she's wearing leather and knows well what a bad boy I am) for inviting all these bores, then I blame the bores, only then do I blame me, but only for wasting those moments in between when I realize that I'm bored and my departure.  

Akasha    Kissy, kissy Akasha!    I shake my frilly little skirt and do a curtsy!
Skirt Boy [wearing a lovely demin mini.


If you are getting thrown out of chat rooms, you are not following whatever their rules are. Now it all makes sense. Clearly, you are desperate for attention there, just like you are here. You claim to be provocative, but really, you aren't.  Been there, done that -- you're schtick of the misunderstood sissy is really overdone.

At least you bring to light one of the other problems with many sissies -- their uncontrollable need to be the center of attention and tendency to throw a tantrum if they don't get their way.  I'm clearly not going to be giving you any more of that attention you so desperately need. And if it's so bad that you look for it in chat rooms and by being sissy-edgy on forums, that's pretty sad.

*plonk*

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 9:56:16 AM   
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:10:51 AM   
beltainefaerie


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Status: offline 		I think that many of the people who are in the chat rooms have known each other in the forums for years and are actually just hanging out with friends.  They already know each other and don't necessarily care to know others.  I haven't really been in them more than a few times and I was generally unamused/unimpressed.  In chatrooms I have been in other than on this site, there is often a lively discussion ongoing that one can pick up on and contribute to, thereby getting to know people and having fun.  I did not find this the case on collarme, but I do enjoy the forums quie a bit.  In any event, that is my experience.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:17:48 AM   
skirtboy43


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You are so sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet, thanks for the compliment: a little sissy's just got to do what she's got to do!    A curtsy to you!
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:22:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		AAkasha I wholeheartedly agree with both of your posts here. I happen to adore chatrooms, be it CM or other servers. For over a decade I have enjoyed them and I also found my dom of 6 years in one  .

OP you said you invested a whole entire whopping six hours.. um.. that really isn't much time to try and fit into a new environment. If you're being kicked then you aren't following MOTD and yup most folks don't tolerate that kind of crap for long.
It is much much more interactive than the boards, it is faster paced and often chaotic. Just like on the boards, if you show a modicum of manners & sincere interest then you will receive that back.
If you go in and troll (hmmm OP trolling?? nevah  ) then once more you run into trouble.

If you're looking for fun cyberplay I have to say CM isn't really geared towards that but I know of many sites that are, feel free to mail me on the other side for info.

This brings me to something I have wondered for awhile now.
Why is there such a division between CM chatrooms and CM boards? With the exception of a few, most seem to use ONLY one or the other..not both?
 
Last bit, OP like my mother used to say when I whined about being bored. You're only bored if you let yourself be. Now go clean your room lol.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:27:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		Going by the experience I had while you were in chat at the same time not too long ago, I'd say the issue is that we're not there to give you jack-off material.  It was pretty clear that was what you were looking for and the room  went dull because no one wanted to bother with your nonsense.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:30:56 AM   
AAkasha


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Going by the experience I had while you were in chat at the same time not too long ago, I'd say the issue is that we're not there to give you jack-off material.  It was pretty clear that was what you were looking for and the room  went dull because no one wanted to bother with your nonsense.


Thanks for clarifying that -- pretty much as I expected. Men like that who look for wanking in chatrooms are the worst kind. They ruin it for the legitimate subs.

Akasha


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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:34:55 AM   
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