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justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:25:50 PM   
janet1965


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Status: offline 		I was punished for an email someone sent me. i answered politely. he answered wanting to meet.   Even though i said no to meet,( im collared, owned).      My choices were. 200 lashes with a flogger, 100 lashes and sleep chained on the floor for a week, or go home. 
i took the 200.      
Was He justified in doing this??
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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:30:04 PM   
sillygirl09


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Status: offline 		Personally I do think it's a little harsh.  Are you sure there isn't more to the story than what you've said?  If you really didn't encourage this person at all I wonder why such a tuff punishment.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:31:51 PM   
justheather


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Status: offline 		Well, I dont know but your profile is still worded as though you are searching except the word "was looking for" is in front of the original text, so before you end up with 200 more lashes, maybe this would be a good time to properly edit your profile.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:31:59 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: janet1965

I was punished for an email someone sent me. i answered politely. he answered wanting to meet.   Even though i said no to meet,( im collared, owned).      My choices were. 200 lashes with a flogger, 100 lashes and sleep chained on the floor for a week, or go home. 
i took the 200.      
Was He justified in doing this??


How do you feel about it, is he justified?

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:32:15 PM   
topcat


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Status: offline 		Dear Janet-
 
Really, you are the only one that can answer that, but there are a lot of things missing. What exactly was the offense? That you answered at all? Was the transgression something specficlly forbidden?
 
Really, if you are asking this here, you are likely in for more punishment. That may be, in fact, justifed.
 
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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:32:33 PM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Sounds like your D is very insecure or you need to give a little more story here.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:33:04 PM   
janet1965


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Status: offline 		It is as i've stated.       I nearly died when He told me punishment.    I was new to slavery, hadnt a clue it could be so extreme.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:33:14 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		That depends on your relationship.  Lots of subs would love the 200 lashes, some would say that Master/Mistress can do whatever he/she wants, and some have stuff like that as a hard limit.

Generally, I would say if you learned from it, then it did it's job, if not, then the whole thing needs to be reanalyzed.

But that's just me.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:35:02 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Were you told to not answer any emails from anyone?  Had this happened before and you did it again anyway?  It's awfully hard to say something about someone else's dynamic.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:35:18 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		It seems to me you need to define what you want from it and make sure this master is what you want. I do not know how new you are, but it can get more extreme than this. I would think long and hard about that... you consent or you do not. If you consented to this and want to maintain the relationship it really does not matter what we think.. it really is not something I think we can answer for you.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:41:55 PM   
sillygirl09


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Status: offline 		I have to agree here, your profile sort of implies you are still seeking.

quote:

ORIGINAL: justheather

Well, I dont know but your profile is still worded as though you are searching except the word "was looking for" is in front of the original text, so before you end up with 200 more lashes, maybe this would be a good time to properly edit your profile.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:42:08 PM   
Kinkypupper


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Status: offline 		Does not matter how you feel its justified.
It matters what your Master decides.

You are not a submissive but a slave correct ?

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:42:13 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		If you think that's extreme, then you'd better talk to him and get a few things straight.  If he gives you 200 lashes for answering an email, what is he going to do if you really fuck up?  Again, this isn't something anyone else can answer for you.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:43:05 PM   
janet1965


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Status: offline 		At the point i answered, i was told i could carry on speaking to my friends.     this one went over board.               i tried explaining.   He now accepts as He's spoken to him as well.      The question, though badly worded, was the punishment justified.         

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:43:56 PM   
ldmila


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Status: offline 		silly question love...of course he isn't justified...there's no "justice" involved here...
if you re still around after the 200 lashes, this means you liked the dynamic and he was right enforcing it...
perhaps you liked the right he had to infict something like that, and not the punishment per se...and remember, its the right YOU give him...
submitting to something like that can be awesome...but you already know that...
don't sweat it...
if you wouldn't like the possibility of a repeat, just let him know...

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:46:39 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Ok...I know this is the popular view...that a slave has nothing to say about anything, but it seems to me that prior to meting out 200 lashes, a dominant would be sure that his slave knew the kind of punishments he meted out for which types of infractions.  Slave or no slave, 200 lashes is not something I would take for answering an email.  Having said that, what I mean is that if I was told not to answer and told what the punishment is, then, of course I would since I went ahead and knowingly did something I knew I would be punished for. 

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:50:31 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Frankly I think this is a very good case of exactly how punishment is done wrong in the scene and sets a Ds relationship up for utter failure.

There was no understanding or clear delivery of orders, there was no follow through on the dom of what the orders were for or the likely consequences of such disobedience, there was no attempt at understanding on the part of the dom for the behavior that was being punished, there was no clear and direct consequence for the behavior, the sub was left completely freaked out and rushing to a board of strangers for advice, only for the dom to finally take a few minutes and give their supreme approval which completely negated the need for any of this kerflaffle.

Well done job all around.

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:51:50 PM   
janet1965


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Status: offline 		I'd actualy met someone between talking to Him and actualy visiting.       No punishment.        an email that intertwined 200.lashes.           Hell. im still seeing Him, dont want to stop.               just wanted to know if He'd gone overboard.        

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:52:58 PM   
MistressDiane


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Status: offline 		In your OP it didn't sound like a friend that you had been talking with and if it was your friend they would have known beforehand you were collared correct? Did you tell your master about the proposition when you received it giving him the opportunity to look at it or after  the fact. Did he explain to you WHY he felt you were going to be punished?

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RE: justified punishment - 2/17/2007 6:54:10 PM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Hey LA LA, was that last bit sarcasm or are you joing my evil sick and twisted fuckers club?

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