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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 8:25:49 AM   
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Your partner comes home having had a miserable day, and is quite frustrated and/or angry. What would be  your response or what would you do?


Leave him alone for the most part, he likes to game on Galaxies in peace when angry.. Bring him beer or biscuits if he seems to want them.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 8:26:53 AM   
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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 8:56:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Tell him the washing machine's broke, looks like we're having sandwiches for supper 'cause I forgot to lay something out , and I think that damn dog in the back yard's pregnant! Oh yeah and ....Hey bring me a soda baby...pleeeease?

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 9:06:23 AM   
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Your partner comes home having had a miserable day, and is quite frustrated and/or angry. What would be  your response or what would you do?

Gee that's exactly what happened tonight.

I greeted him at the door, let him put his stuff down and breath, kissed him, invited him to my bed where we laid and snuggled together and decompressed.  Then we decided what we felt up to and went into downtown Austin to celebrate a friends birthday over dinner, went to a fun bar and hung out for awhile where I encouraged him to get a chocolate martini which helped relax him, treat himself and he said was the best he's ever had.  Then we drove home and separately checking email.


Wasn't there some prior threads this person could have read  instead of you adding to this dialogue...It seems when you have an opinion you chime in...You mean to tell me in all the posts in prior threads someone hasn't responded in the exact same way you just did?...However, if you find the question to be at all tedious where you don't have a specific opinion or you find of little relevance you post prior conversations and links...Am I wrong?

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 9:43:04 AM   
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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 9:53:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Here.  Let me bollocks the whole thing up.

Nobody yet has mentioned 'how' they knew that their partner had had a bad day.  It was just assumed, and assumed that the partner didn't want to share.
...I don't like for people to hold too much in for any length of time.


in our case, that wouldn't really work. it's fairly obvious to me when He's had a bad day, because He is extremely on edge. if i have any doubt, i just ask how His day went, but i usually don't ask what happened or anything like that because it tends to put Him more on edge (due to the nature of His work, He can't talk about His work 99% of the time, and while my schedule is more hectic than His, His job is more stressful than mine for that reason). if He wants to and can tell me something, He will. otherwise i've discovered it's far more beneficial to stay out of the way than to push a conversation, and we know each other well enough by now to figure out when the other is having a bad day. it's fairly obvious to Him when i've had a bad day because i'm either in a lot of physical pain, vocal about whatever went on that pissed me off, or both.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 9:57:18 AM   
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I was thinking about the idea of creating questions that reveal how people think, and how we use that method in choosing mates. I don't think I've really seen anyone discuss it here, so I thought I'd throw one out that kind of tells me about a person's thinking and how it fits in my philosophy regarding relationships.

The answer to the question would vary a great deal based on gender, but it might be the same across basic roles: top or bottom.

I'll try to keep the question gender and role neutral, but it would be interesting to see what the answers are based on gender and role. Here's the question:

Your partner comes home having had a miserable day, and is quite frustrated and/or angry. What would be  your response or what would you do?


Its certainly happened in the past with my owner, hell its happened with me.  What I try to do is either give him space or listen to him rant so he can let it out and try to give him as much space as he needs while trying to make sure that he's at least comfortable/got whatever he needs (such as a snack or whatever).

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 9:58:50 AM   
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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 10:03:49 AM   
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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 10:05:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: scottjk
Your partner comes home having had a miserable day, and is quite frustrated and/or angry. What would be  your response or what would you do?


I would still require that he greet me in the prescribed manner, but after that I would probably let him have some "alone" time, if that's what he wanted.  If I sensed that he needed to talk about it, I would let him know that I am there to listen.  If he needed a hug, I would be happy to provide that, too.
 
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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 12:25:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressDiane

Tell him the washing machine's broke, looks like we're having sandwiches for supper 'cause I forgot to lay something out , and I think that damn dog in the back yard's pregnant! Oh yeah and ....Hey bring me a soda baby...pleeeease?


LOL thanks for the laugh.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 12:37:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: scottjk
Your partner comes home having had a miserable day, and is quite frustrated and/or angry. What would be  your response or what would you do?


He works at home, so it's me coming home to him, to find him upset or irritated. Generally that means he's still working.  So, my response:
 
- Enter the room as quietly as possible.
- Put down my things
- Get him a stiff drink.
- Strip in front of him, still no talking.
- kneel, ask him if he'd like to take a break and take his frustrations out on my throat, or could I drink down his bad day, or.. something along those lines. (Offering oral service.)
 
Sometimes, he'll take a sip of his Gentleman Jack, smile, and tell me he appreciates it and will take me up on it later.
 
Sometimes, he'll say 'Now that's the ticket!' and will stand, have me strip him, and will very aggressively throat fuck me.
 
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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 1:18:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		It'd depend entirely on how the frustration and/or anger was shown, frankly.

Yelling and bad temper would have me retreating.

A general air of *fed-upness* would stir me to show, in my own way, that I've noticed.

I'd probably carry on doing whatever I was doing. I'm used to someone that doesn't require me to be guessing about these things.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 4:37:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I let Him sit on His rock, go make pleasant sounds in another room (like the sounds of fixing supper) let Him gather Himself, wander in with His favorite drink and give Him a kiss, and trust that He will come find me or will call for me when He is ready for my company.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 5:11:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy
Wasn't there some prior threads this person could have read  instead of you adding to this dialogue...It seems when you have an opinion you chime in...You mean to tell me in all the posts in prior threads someone hasn't responded in the exact same way you just did?...However, if you find the question to be at all tedious where you don't have a specific opinion or you find of little relevance you post prior conversations and links...Am I wrong?


It really depends- some of the time I'll have posted my thoughts similarly enough recently enough that I'll just throw links up, specially if I personally don't have anything really to add, sometimes I'll repost an old post to add to the links, and sometimes I don't really recall a topic like that (it happens) or want to take the time to search through old links and just zip off a post.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 5:17:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: scottjk

Your partner comes home having had a miserable day, and is quite frustrated and/or angry. What would be  your response or what would you do?


Probably would depend on what they are angry about... but, in general (say it was about work or just a general bad day) more than likely, I would give him some space, ask if he would like a drink and/or something to eat, and listen to him if he wanted to talk.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 5:50:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mstrjx



Nobody yet has mentioned 'how' they knew that their partner had had a bad day.  It was just assumed, and assumed that the partner didn't want to share.



I alluded to that in my first sentence.  I read his body language and facial expression.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 6:01:19 PM   
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It all depends on what he wants from me and it can be any number of things and quite possibly one right after the other.  My challenge is to give him what he wants when he wants it and not when I want to give it.



In some things I am far from being predictable.... The way I choose to sooth my mood when upset can be a large variety of things and having my girls responding to me in the way I want is indeed required.  In fact, them trying to do what they want to do will only take my mood in the wrong direction. 

As I briefly think about this... I am beginning to think that I am at my highest micro-managing moments when I am in a sour mood.

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 7:29:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy
Wasn't there some prior threads this person could have read  instead of you adding to this dialogue...It seems when you have an opinion you chime in...You mean to tell me in all the posts in prior threads someone hasn't responded in the exact same way you just did?...However, if you find the question to be at all tedious where you don't have a specific opinion or you find of little relevance you post prior conversations and links...Am I wrong?


you say that like luckyalbatross HAS to be the cm librarian. i think people forget sometimes that she's a human being with opinions and a poster like the rest of us - nobody pays her to dig for threads, and hey, she even has a decent opinion every now and then :P

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RE: What would you do if... - 2/24/2007 11:08:16 PM   
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Offer him a blowjob.


I think I'm in love.

Wanna get married? 

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