LadyHugs
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Dear LadyVenom, Ladies and Gentlemen; In my mind's eyes, the assembly of Dominant Women is not a sorority. We're lucky to have the majority of Dominant Women who are civil, respectful and filled with knowledge. Unfortunately, for the majority of us who identify as Dominant Women, there will be those who will not live up to, in general terms and in broad terms, our personal measure or standards of acceptable and positive representatives of what most ladies are. In my mind's eyes, those who see Dominant Women as competition must be struggling to grasp for submissives/slaves that they cannot gain on their own so they must distract and tempt. I can only assume that these women who must participate like sport/competition have not developed their sense of being, their self confidence, their skills and or knowledge lacks so, that they are extremely insecure and must disrespect those who are respected, as to raise themselves. This has been a historical trait we seen throughout civilization and history--which is known as politics. In my mind's eyes I see, any slave/submissive that I must compete for is not what my life needs. That gives too much power to the slave and or submissive seeking and those who get involved into the drama. I dislike drama--especially in my private life. So, I don't mind other Dominant Women 'steal' slaves and or submissives away; those who want to stay and or serve will stay. I have to agree with MsCfromMelbourne's assessments, that people, even Dominant Women create their own karma, their own reputation and their responsible how others see their spirit of 'intent.' Other ladies and gentlemen that have posted thus far, have indeed made excellent points. In my personal experiences, the approach by a stranger; such as other peers--I look at the 'spirit of intent.' With an effort to read it in a positive manner, then keep boiling it down--one can get a decent touch on the 'intentions' of the other Dominant. Being a seasoned Dominant myself, I know I don't know it all--that gives me my strength, as I know a lot. I have gotten great laughter from Dominants to whom come on quite fierce and 'know it all' to which it really is a sad state of the person. We (in general and broad terms) want so much to be accepted and respected, that it is my personal belief based on my observations; we've placed a burden on those who know little to know much and forced to 'impress' instead of learning, growing and being their own woman. My personal advice is similar to the other's. You must be responsible for your own reputation, good name and how other's perceive you. Just know there will be those in the community who make it a mission to be 'scene police' and or 'M/s, D/s, S&M and or BDSM vigilantes. Some make great efforts to destroy a person due to personality conflicts and or prejudices. Life really--nothing new. People will see either positives and or negatives in others, regardless of what you do or say. The main focus is being true to you and your world, as that is all you can control -- yourself. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs
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