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DixonTSmiss -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:08:59 AM)

It's called playing to the crowd--much like a actor in a play is inspired by the quality of the audience.....I like to play to the desires of the submissive; there happiness with the scene brings out the best of my creativity to control that scene.

Mistress Robyn



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:11:50 AM)

Thank you.  Your philosophy seems  logical.  Do you feel you are servicing her
and her request if you were to do something to her that she requested?



ownedgirlie -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:12:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

When he incorporates and does things you have requested of him, is that not  submitting to your request?


No, it means he has considered the situation and has found it a good enough idea for him to want to do, that perhaps he hadn't considered before.  It's all about his pleasure, after all.   I happen to enjoy giving him pleasure.  The ideas I have submitted to him for consideration are things that I think he will enjoy, or ideas that will develop my own submission and benefit him as a result.  So maybe in a twisted way he is submitting to his own enjoyment?!   Huh...



ONEDEMANDINGMSTR -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:13:54 AM)

Exactly!!!!!  You got it!!!!!!!



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:14:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

I'm not talking in reference to a friend cleaning a freind's house.  Between a dom and his sub only.  If your sub said 'please do me like this tonight'  and you do, are you submitting to his request?


You missed the point behind the house cleaning...it was the INTENT with which is was done. I could have easily done it with the intent to submit and serve. I didn't.

Doing something nice for someone, like fulfilling a submissive's request, isn't submission or being controlled if that's not your intent. It CAN be, but it doesn't have to be.



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:14:20 AM)

Thank you.  Whats it called when he decides your request is worthy of execution and he starts to do you as you requested?



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:15:33 AM)

Many thanks to you as well Dixon.



ownedgirlie -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:15:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

I'm not talking in reference to a friend cleaning a freind's house.  Between a dom and his sub only.  If your sub said 'please do me like this tonight'  and you do, are you submitting to his request?


Ah...well here is the disconnect.  "Please do this tonight" is a demand with "please" attached to it, and something I would never say.  Versus, "Master, I had this great fantasy of doing this, thinking you might enjoy it.  Would you consider trying that?"



ownedgirlie -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:17:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

Thank you.  Whats it called when he decides your request is worthy of execution and he starts to do you as you requested?


It's called my Master liked the new idea and has made his decision that he will do it if and when he wants, and how he wants.  It's called he enjoys his slave's creativity and participation in the relationship, and that she is constantly thinking of new ways of pleasing him. 



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:17:31 AM)

Would your owner do something to you that you LOVED but he was indifferent about and received not much or no personal pleasure from?  If not in your situation, would that sometimes happen with others in a dom/sub relationship?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:18:50 AM)

I don't think the "tonight" does anything more than add specifics to the request.  I could ask "Master could you please wear the black Hugo suit with the gold tie and cufflinks with the black leather shoes when we go to dinner with my mom?"

It's still a request, a very specific and detailed request, but still a request, and it's still completely within his authority to decide whatever he wants to do with it.

In all of these cases Create- the dom is the one who decides.  That's what matters.



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:19:11 AM)

What's the actual act called when he services your request to perform something on you you asked of him?



ownedgirlie -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:19:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

Would your owner do something to you that you LOVED but he was indifferent about and received not much personal pleasure from?  If not in you situation, would that sometimes happen with others in a dom/sub relationship?

There are things that I LOVE that he will never do, because he doesn't want to.  I would hate for him to do something that didn't genuinely come from him, simply as a way of appeasing me.  It would have little meaning to me then.

I can't speak for other relationships.  I am sure there are many dominants who conduct their submissives much differently than my Master conducts me. 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:20:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount
Would your owner do something to you that you LOVED but he was indifferent about and received not much or no personal pleasure from?  If not in your situation, would that sometimes happen with others in a dom/sub relationship?


There are different levels of pleasure.  Many masters enjoy pleasing their sub and enjoy getting reactions from them.  The slave needs to just suck it up and take it. 



ownedgirlie -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:21:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

What's the actual act called when he services your request to perform something on you you asked of him?

I am confused as to this question.  If I've asked if I can massage his feet and he agrees, then the act is called massaging his feet. 

My Master doesn't perform on me.  He uses me to his liking as he wishes to.



azzmaster -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:21:35 AM)

a sub may request anything they want. if a dom feels like doing it they will, or might do it as a reward. if the sub misbehaves then obviously requests r not going to be granted. say someone asks me to assfuck them. hey, i'll do it , no problem, lol



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:25:26 AM)

Thank you.  So if there is something new you would just LOVE to try out,  it could never become a reality for you if he did not like it or was not interested in it?



MsKatHouston -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:26:27 AM)

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What's the actual act called when he services your request to perform something on you you asked of him?


I think many people are scratching their heads at this because, for me at least, it seems obvious. 

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I am confused as to this question.  If I've asked if I can massage his feet and he agrees, then the act is called massaging his feet. 


Exactly. 

Sometimes it's called rewarding, sometimes it's finding out a good idea, sometimes it's being nice, sometimes it's being inspired...

What it is not is switching or submitting. 



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:26:27 AM)

Does a dom ever submit to a sub's request?



CreatfreeAccount -> RE: Dominants submit to requests? (2/27/2007 9:27:39 AM)

Thank you.



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