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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:47:09 PM

patina

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Yes we are "fussy" as this is the person who is going to control our lives. This man will now make the decisions for us, he will tie us up and beat us. I think we have every right to be "fussy" about who he is, and what kind of person he is. There are so many fakes, wanna be and players on the on-line sites, this one is no exception.

Sometimes we get lucky and make a few friends along the way who will help us to learn how to judge better. These Masters like You are not in need of a sub but are willing to give their time and experience to new sub to help us out. I have met several on here and I really appreciated their help.

Sometimes even when we think we may have finally found that elusive Dom something happens and like a dream it disapears. We have to start all over again. I have learned to leave my profile untouched to no longer say I have found my Master. I will now wait until his collar is around my neck before i will truly believe it. I have been looking for 5 years not on this site but looking that long anyways. I refuse to settle for less than what i know i am worth.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:57:05 PM

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COMPLETELY off topic, but... the word patina, and it's definition is one of the most beautiful in all of the English language, in my opinion !

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:57:57 PM

WhiplashSmile

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

I haven't read this whole thread, but my answer is that I'm picky.

I recieved literally hundreds of emails and less than 15 were from people in my age range and in my local area (and I'm defining "local" as within a 3 hr drive.)

Of those 15, only one has been worth persuing and I hoping things continue to go well with him (we're meeting for the first time this weekend).

For me, I have a pretty large list of deal breakers "must have no children nor want any" "Must love animals" "No prison record" "must be ok with my religion" "must be ok with my social and political views" etc.

I totally agree with what you are saying. I myself have a list of deal breakers on my profile... I think I need to add to the list now. After reading your post, it made me think about the political and religion aspects of things... Thank You!

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:03:00 PM

Wildnfreehrt2004

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For all the above reasons, hurrah!!

Plus, some of us are out leading a full life instead of worrying about whether we have a partner or spending 100% of our time searching.... Now if there is someone near who is alpha dominant/never switches, over 50, with integrity, honesty, single and not in a relationship, looking for a long term monogamous relationship instead of the toy of the week, not gay, has a job/fiscal responsibile, social skills and (weep) a reasonable intelligence, taller than 5'6" (argh, ok) who is mentally healthy and not addicted to drugs, alcohol or smoking, with a chemistry that makes me weak in the knees.... oh wait, is that being fussy? looks at list and keeps being able to communicate at a somewhat advanced level, knows which fork to use, has good hygiene, AND have similar ideals of Ds ...

(kicks foot in dust) yep, I'm fussy.
But relationships are not just what you look for from them, it's also about what you have to offer that counts more....

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The yardstick is a lil high, and I'm okay with that.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:17:52 PM

VeryMercurial

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Also, unless you are willing to "settle" for someone usually undesirable, you need to take
your time and be selective.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:30:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

quote:

KatyLied: Wow. Do you know how difficult it is to find a good vanilla guy? It's 1,000 times more difficult finding a good Dom. I fear it is impossible. ::sob::

Anyone see The Daily Show last night? It was "Fashion Week in God" with Samantha Bee, and she asked this question. It turns out all the good ones are married, gay...or God! Who knew?

E.

God: Samantha, you look FAAABULOUS.

SB: [dimples] Well, after all, I was made in your image.

Yes, i saw this and found it hysterical! LOL

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:31:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: puella

COMPLETELY off topic, but... the word patina, and it's definition is one of the most beautiful in all of the English language, in my opinion !

One of my personal favorites as well, puella.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 9:04:10 PM

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I have to agree with the op as to why are there all of these single women out here and none of them are getting any quality Domidong?

I scrolled back a page or two and looked at the names and profiles:

1) auniquegift: No profile...probably a dude.
2) GeekyGirl: Nice profile some pics and loves horses. Wants some tappin'
3) Zsuzsanna: nice profile some pics looking for some friends to hang out with...(which means fuck)...sexy!
4) Screamergirl: Pics profile...cool..hot.
5) Angelic: Nice pics..Profile...Was a pig for four years....But now wants a serious relationship Fuck!...timing is everything boys!
6) Mirkal: Dines at the "Y" didn't go any further.
7) Quiverr: Nice profile no pics....I would really like to fuck whatever it is hiding under that box.
8) Bandit25: nice profile no pics ..Huge Eagles fan...Lets call your ass "Hotel California"...And it's time I checked in!
9) Puella...Nice pics...Blue avatar..lol ..nice profile. hottie
10) Dawn treader..pics, profile ..what more can you say..smokin'!!!
11) Patina: nice pics, profile...says she's not "bi"....You attract more bees with honey!

So!!! Why are all of these "hotties" SINGLE??? Well I collected all the available imperical research, crunched the numbers....Fed it into the computer....and now the reason for why these women are desperate and are lonely and can't find a man on CM.....(drum roll.... domiguy walks out, dressed to the nines in a tux, takes center stage and addresses the audience...taps mic several times to make sure it is working) "Uuuhh ..Humm"'..... "The reason why these women have never found anyone on CM, is because," (crowd goes silent with anticipation)..."Because they have no "tit" shots in their profile"....(Domiguy walks offstage as the crowd errupts with applause.)

< Message edited by domiguy -- 2/27/2007 10:00:59 PM >

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 9:25:02 PM

YourhandMyAss

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I used to have a segment on religion and I finally just deleted it and put up a love song, which I took down and put up something else differnt.

quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

I totally agree with what you are saying. I myself have a list of deal breakers on my profile... I think I need to add to the list now. After reading your post, it made me think about the political and religion aspects of things... Thank You!

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 9:38:28 PM

LDRandAstarte

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ORIGINAL: MarieEge
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Others that approached me just wanted a sex toy and they didn't see me as a human being. I have no interest in being used or abused.
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You say that, like it's a bad thing. ~smile~
While it may not be right for you, it is exactly what others, Dom and sub alike want, seek or need.
We have found each other and are perfectly happy as each others "significant other", and a "sex toy" is precisely what We seek.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 10:01:22 PM

wandersalone

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The comments from the people below show the complexity of looking for whomever you are looking for - do you want a dom/me, sub, slave, top, bottom, poly, bi, straight, gay, sadist, masochist, kids, liberal, anglican, pagan, gorean, over 50, under 20, experienced, wanting training, into edgeplay, lives in the mountains in California, income level, job type, education, background, nationality, physical type, personality .... you get my drift...the list can go on and on and if people are looking for an ongoing relationship there are a multitude of variables that come into play both vanilla and kink

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ORIGINAL: LDRandAstarte

quote:

ORIGINAL: MarieEge
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Others that approached me just wanted a sex toy and they didn't see me as a human being. I have no interest in being used or abused.
[clip]

You say that, like it's a bad thing. ~smile~
While it may not be right for you, it is exactly what others, Dom and sub alike want, seek or need.
We have found each other and are perfectly happy as each others "significant other", and a "sex toy" is precisely what We seek.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 3:30:13 AM

puella

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I object to your objectification domiguy! hehe ... and besides I am showing the exact amount of tit in my pictures to keep the amount of trolls making stupid comments in my inbox to a level which I can manage.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 4:30:12 AM

chrissyslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirDominic

Wow, some really amazing answers to this thread, even from some of the women I really respect on this site.......

Can't say I blame MasterChav for throwing up his hands and giving up because there has been an enormous amount of misinterpretation of his question. I also notice most guys have (probably wisely) stayed silent. But heck, where Angels Fear to Tread, and all that! So I'll throw my own two cents into the mix.

MasterChav's question was this: He has seen many subs who say in their profile they want to find a Dom/Master, i.e. they are actively looking. Apparently they have not been able to find anyone remotely compatible at all in two or more years of searching. His question was why is this so?

I can certainly understand a sub, or anyone else being particular in what they want. When is it taken too far? When is it taken to the point where being particular becomes wanting a fantasy man so perfect that he simply doesn't exist.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

As a sub/slave with a mentor and under some consideration, I feel the need to second Sir Nasmaste's observations. I felt a bit embarrassed for the slew of nearly hostile responses (or plain hostile) to what I thought was not only a good question, but stated without any personal "can't find one myself..boo-hoo" tone to it.

Too many of the responses when well beyond the typical "have many different opinions/perspectives" allowance that we most of us are willing to be open to hearing. And this was not stated as condemning of such sub/slaves (although a few negative possibilities were offered). May I suggest that lacking a clear biased slant to a reasonable question, that rather than assuming where he, or she, is coming from and responding on the basis of our own assumptions that we simply ask what the conditions or reasons are for asking this OP's question? Or at least offer him a cigerette before we blindfold him and let the verbal shots fire away?

The fact this this is a valid observation and was myself wondering why such long looking times either way, while recognizing that there could be a variety of reasons that might be offered. In the short time on CM (not quite 2 months) I have received MANY decent inquires and at least the intial communications there seems to be plenty of very good possibilities...in fact for me seems too many overall to give full/proper consideration of them. Although I have placed my active looking on hold for now pending some consideration, I think I could be quite content in a variety of connections.

My concern if I resumed looking would be more how to trim the list down to just a very few, and even in that process I would feel like I was being over-picky for my reasonable needs/desires (okay... my profile saying I'm looking for a "superior situation" which might seem picky but more than a few have met that condition).

If there was an acceptable way I could apologize to MasterChav's for many of the group's responses (mostly by sub/slaves/switches) I would do so, but all my place here is to say I think he seems a worthy caring/helpful master, very observant, and more than patient with the many overly negative responses to his honest question which has stimulated some interesting insights about this observered pattern. So thanks Sir for being willing to ask it, and please try to overlook the slanted responses.

Now, care for a cig?...or a blindfold?

chrissyslave

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 4:33:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterChav

I keep an eye on the list of female subs on this site and the thing that strikes me the most that I see the same names over and over again. I read their profiles and they are actively looking for owners / Doms / Masters etc and have very attractive profiles and most attractive pictures, too.

So why haven't they found anyone? Some have signup dates that are months old and they must have received 100s of offers yet they're still here? Are they too fussy? Are they Timewasters or made-up profiles? Or out of all the offers they must have received are there really no suitable Doms?

What's going on? And before someone says "maybe they're just looking for friends", I'm talking about the femsubs who state on their profile that they are looking for Doms, owners, etc.

I find this entire question utterly facile. If you cannot answer it yourself, then you shouldn't be on here.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 5:10:59 AM

puella

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I am starting to think there may be more to my OP in the offtopic forum, Anger by Default?, than I had initially realized. heh

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 5:17:30 AM

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MyMasterStephen, I am certainly glad you brought that up because as I was reading through this post I was further wondering why is it that anyone gives a hoot why and for ever how long someone has been out there looking for their partner. What really gives with this, and do these people that question this really give a damn at all at the end of the day. It seems it is more self promotion disguised with some silly disconcerning question. So OP are you going to save me from the ruins of these forever long list of time wasting doms, piff to that. What is a time waster anyhow, someone that does not jump or cave to your demands. *thinks I should be posting that in the what bothers me about these online communities all these silly acronms made for people that do not suit our own fancy* OP in my perspective your question was more a burnout of time more than anything else. thank you.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 7:31:52 AM

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i am so lonely. i have a 16 y.o. child who thinks he is 30 and is always in trouble. all i want is Someone who will appriciate me for who i am and what i do and not think that i have no other choice. Someone who wants ME, as well as the slave i am. i do not want to find myself in another relationship with Someone who does not see the humanity in me and my family, Someone who cannot or will not accept that as a human i have responsabilities to my child and immediate family as well as my tribe and community, not to mention school. i am tired of "setteling" and i know there is Someone out there who is the other side of my coin, but the search is depressing. most that i meet only want to do the phone or online thing and i need Someone who can actually touch me. Someone who truely wants to be involved in every aspect of my life, even the not so pleasent things that happen. i need Someone who is willing to be supportive of me and my life. but it appears that i am searching for a pipe-dream.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 7:36:39 AM

DixonTSmiss

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Apettiger...

do not give up my fair lady...there is that someone you seek, they maybe right in front of your eyes . I would love to be your friend as i can relate to the problems with your son.
Best wishes ma lady. Keep on smiling

Mistress Robyn--Supreme TS Goddess of IL.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 8:43:24 AM

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If i just wanted a one time thing, an occassional play partner ... then i have no doubt within a few minutes that i'd have several lined up. i need more than the occassional play time and at times i'm torn between needing a 'fix' til the One comes along or waiting it out.

i am probably fussy. i'll admit it. i'm picky and stubborn and probably too damn strong-willed for many that do contact me and by God, i'm not planning on settling for any Joe blow that comes along. Just because i'm told that i'd look good on my knees by practically every man who has seen my photo (and it's not posted for that specific reason) ... or that He knows i am the one for Him, does not mean that i know that. i do believe that until i personally make the choice to be someOne's sub/slave, whichever term You want to put in there ... that i still have a say in things.

i believe that in my every day life, i am a complete and whole person. On any given day i make my own choices, i run my own business, i have my own house, i take care of my children, i make my own money, i pay my own bills. i fix what needs fixing or i call someone if i can't. i do what i can to help my friends and family ... it's who i am.

i NEED someOne who can compliment that. Not complete me. Not 'fix' me ... teach me what i don't know. Teach me what He/She likes or how He wants things ... guide me. Protect me. Control me. Get inside my head ... before asking (or demanding) to get inside my pants. Break my stubborn-streak, take me to the edge and back again without leaving me hanging there.

i may be asking too much. May sound like i want a 'fairy-tale ending'. i do in some ways lol ... and maybe i'm just being too fussy. But i've had parts of that before so i know it's all there ... i don't expect anyOne to find me to be 'perfect'. i'll be the first to admit i'm not. He/She doesn't have to be perfect either. Just 'perfect' for me :)

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/28/2007 8:52:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterChav

I keep an eye on the list of female subs on this site and the thing that strikes me the most that I see the same names over and over again. I read their profiles and they are actively looking for owners / Doms / Masters etc and have very attractive profiles and most attractive pictures, too.

So why haven't they found anyone? Some have signup dates that are months old and they must have received 100s of offers yet they're still here? Are they too fussy? Are they Timewasters or made-up profiles? Or out of all the offers they must have received are there really no suitable Doms?

What's going on? And before someone says "maybe they're just looking for friends", I'm talking about the femsubs who state on their profile that they are looking for Doms, owners, etc.

I've found loads of suitable Doms, they are all under my patio now

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