SusanofO
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Well BrainSlug83 - I just didn't understand why your first statement to me ever had to include saying things referring to my "stupid profile." I rarely get offended, but that statement, plus the assumption you jumped to about mail controls, were really irritating and didn't sound particularly like the came from someone who was very adult-like. I didn't understand why you jumped on me, and still don't. I don't particularly care anymore - I just thought it was odd. I would have pharsed my response a lot more nicely - I am certainly capable of that (I've been messageing on these boards for over 2 years, and am normally very diplomatic to everyone) - but not when someone says things like "your stupid profile", etc. It's just not very diplomatic. It's immature, and presumptious. So, I can be very nice, and usually, I am. But - don't dish it out if you can't take it. Because Ill dish it right back, bub.
I am not "moody". What I was was offended. And for that reason.
Your interpretation of how the "friends only" software works is wrong (IMO) - but do what you will, it's your incoming and outgoing mail, not mine. Yes, a person can indeed specify what kind of "friends" they seek - TVs, Doms, Dommes, subs, couples, etc. - anything that is listed. That isn't any gaurantee that is how anyone else will interpet it - I agree with you there.
I did change my re-locatable option (good to point that out). However - I do not control the mail-control softtware, but that is my (proably very accurate) interpretation of how it works.
It is true a click on bringing up "freinds only" will also only bring up folks who have also checked "friends only". However, that point clouds the issue and your interpretation of why most people check "friends only" as well as other preferences in conjunction with that really is not accurazte, IMO. I could be wrong, but -If someone checks "friends only" they can still specify whether they seek freinds who are any of the other preferences. Sorry if you don't believe me - contact Admin support. They know for sure.
I am glad you have had people contact you, and that you do indeed bother to read soemone's profile, and I do wish you good luck. I am sorry I gave you a hard time, but was taken aback by your initial contact toward me. Normally, I'd assume people who were so focussed on the mail-control preferences were not willing to also read profiles - the way you worded what you said about all that made me think you were just e-mailing submissives in a mass-mail campaign, and not reading their profiles at all. Maybe that's not what you're dong but it tends to be one of submissive's pet peeves, when men (you or anyone) do that. But personally, I don't care. People are gonna do what they wanna do. I am certainly not going to stop them.
Poeple will, unfortunately, leave their profile un-touched as far as indicating they even have a Dom, and yes,when you contact them sometimes, some Dom says you cannot speak to them, or a submissive says that. It'sjust plain weird, IMO. That is what I was talkinng about earlier. I don't think that's fair either - and think it is idiotic people cannot manage to simply take 5 minutes and say "Daddy won't let me talk to you if you write " - or something, and not make you waste your time contacting them.
Some submissives are cheating on their Dominants - not pretty, but that is the reality. Some Dominants are cheating on their submissives, who knows why? If they are Polyamorous - it might be a different scenario, and maybe their Master or Daddy just doesn't like someone, or the submissive is having him say for her she doesn't want to talk. Within bounds, I guess, but pretty rude IMO if she's answering e-mail from somone and saying she'll talk on the phone.
I say she has her priorities screwed up, doesn't know what she wants, etc. - none of which is your problem. Count your blessings you found out now if someone cannot run their life well, which a person like this obviously cannot. You saved yourself some future misery by avoiding someone who looks like they've got problems. A rude awakening, but fortunate, too. Who needs her?
If you have an issue or toher questions on the software, Amin. Support - can answer your questions about "why" it is set up the way it is. I don't work here (but I know a few things). But I cannot change anything, at all, about how any of it works. I was just tossing out a few suggestions and observations, based on my experience. Take what you will.
- Susan
< Message edited by SusanofO -- 2/28/2007 7:26:02 PM >
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