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myobedience -> height differences (3/1/2007 9:56:17 AM)

I am considered tall or modertely tall for a woman.  I am 5'8"
I have noticed a few women who are 6 ft while browsing profiles.
I have also seen 5 ft or under.
 
My question is, do any of you women find it hard to consider a dominant who is way taller than you or the same height or shorter than you?
 
Does the height of a dominant play into part of your psyche?



mystiquenz -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:05:56 AM)

goodness ... this tickles my interest ... height.  I'm nearly 6' there are a few Dominants locally who are taller, and many are shorter.  The dynamic for D/s or M/s, doesn't state that your dominant needs to be the same height, taller or shorter. 

This girl had thought that shorter dominants would need an apple box, but not too long ago, she scened with a short one, and it was surprising how his lack of height, was not an issue ...

I think it is all in the mind, and whether you can be flexible.  If you cannot be flexible about height adjustments, what else can you not be flexible about?

Good thread!




juliaoceania -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:12:28 AM)

My Daddy is taller than me by about 3 or 4 inches. I would have been attracted to him if he were not as big as he is (he is a big guy). I have dated men that were shorter than myself, my former dominant was about an inch shorter than I am. I am very tall, if I had trouble feeling submissive to shorter men it would have narrowed the playing field significantly... although I found someone taller than me.

It plays a part in it for him, he does not like me to wear heels and he expressed I was in the range of the tallest sort of women he will date. He has been attracted to many taller sort of women, but he likes them shorter than he is.

I am not attracted to men that are more than two inches shorter.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:14:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: myobedience
My question is, do any of you women find it hard to consider a dominant who is way taller than you or the same height or shorter than you?

Many do.  For me, it doesn't matter.
quote:


Does the height of a dominant play into part of your psyche?

Yes, but not to the extent that I'd not be with someone due to height.

Most subs prefer being dominated in very literal ways- this includes being physically smaller and less capable, being able to be physically thrown around, and even mentally dominated by someone cognitively more adept than they are. 

How far they take this desire or preference depends on the person.



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:20:05 AM)

I'm 5'10" and most guys I've dated were my height or a wee bit shorter.  In truth, I wouldn't want a dominant who was more than an inch or two shorter than me, nor would I date anyone that much shorter than me.  I don't feel as girly and feminine if I'm a lot taller than a guy.

My Master is my height, maybe a smidge taller.





StellaByStarlite -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:20:27 AM)

Hello. =)

I'm 5'2, so most men are taller then I am, anyway. =)

If I were single and looking, height wouldn't be too big of an issue, really. Although.. there is something hot about a man who can tower over me.

Cheers,
Stella




sub4hire -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:33:34 AM)

I am 5'8 and never considered me on the taller end of the scale before.  I'm about average height.

In men...it has nothing to do with being submissive or dominant.  It is merely my person preference.  I've alway's liked men taller than myself.
Doug stands at 6'6.  Doesn't make him any more or any less of a dominant to me.



onestandingstill -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:35:56 AM)

I don't let the stature of a man get in my way of seeing the soul inside or in my decision factors as far as dating someone shorter than me.
If the person is someone I connect with the hight is not relevant to my desire to be intimately involved.
I'd also like to point out what detracts me from a lot of shorter men is the whole short man syndrome of being more gung hoe or over bearing because of their own insecurities in their size.
I internally feel  like I'm a little larger and more giraffe like with a shorter man, but in the grand scheme of things that's not a deal breaker for me.
While I don't allow my preference for tall men to affect my choices in men, I feel to sit in a large mans lap gives me that little girl all safe and loved feeling more deeply and more comfortably than I can feel with someone smaller than myself.
So while I'm sensitive to height the lack of it in a shorter statures mate isn't that big a deal in my choices and is definitely not a deal breaker for me.
suzanne




kate -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 10:59:56 AM)

i am 5'5 and maybe it is shallow... but i like tall men...i like a guy so that when he holde me i am at chest level...always have....but that is just a peronal thing



myobedience -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 11:16:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

I'd also like to point out what detracts me from a lot of shorter men is the whole short man syndrome of being more gung hoe or over bearing because of their own insecurities in their size.

suzanne



I was in a very small Catholic Chruch for a baptism, no more than say 300 that morning, and I turned around. We were in the front of this small church cause it was my nephews baptism,  I had to look at the floor to see it was flat and did not rise at the front like some modern church buildings do.
In Jr Hi and Hi School when us girls had to line up by height, I was always 1 or 2.  At the Dragonboat competition, sizing into the boat is dependent on height, core tightness (firm abs) and agility.  Out of 20, I was 4th in height.  And half the team was men.  
Anyway, in church, I looked back and found myself looking over the heads of at least 3/4 of the congregation.  And only a small percentage were old people.
 
I personally have had a painful expereince with the "short man syndrome" altho he was 5'10" but also rather on on slim "petite" side  for a man.
 
I do find it hard, within my psyche, to look down to the eyes of a man shorter than myself.  Had nothing to do with anything except my personal perference but I found it began to play into my psyche when any <5'8" doms contacted me.
 
I was just thinking about this last night...so thought I'd ask if others thought about this.



behindmirrors -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 11:43:10 AM)

I'm only 5 feet tall, so finding a Dom shorter than me is a bit difficult. If they were a good person whom I got along with well, I can't say I wouldn't consider it- it's just that I haven't had any time when that has been an issue before.

My Dom is 5'10". It seems to work well- I fit right into that comfortable, safe-feeling cuddly spot in his arms. [:D]

behindmirrors.



nissa -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 11:45:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: myobedience

I am considered tall or modertely tall for a woman.  I am 5'8"
I have noticed a few women who are 6 ft while browsing profiles.
I have also seen 5 ft or under.
 
My question is, do any of you women find it hard to consider a dominant who is way taller than you or the same height or shorter than you?
 
Does the height of a dominant play into part of your psyche?

For myself, absolutly. Since I am tall myself, I perfer those who are taller than I am.



babyboyk -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 11:55:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: myobedience

I am considered tall or modertely tall for a woman.  I am 5'8"
I have noticed a few women who are 6 ft while browsing profiles.
I have also seen 5 ft or under.
 
My question is, do any of you women find it hard to consider a dominant who is way taller than you or the same height or shorter than you?
 
Does the height of a dominant play into part of your psyche?



although i am considerably taller than Mistress, the height issue is unimportant (though, She is way stronger than me, lol) what matters to me, is that Mistress knows what She needs/wants from me, and by heck is She gonna get it



ownedgirlie -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 12:15:09 PM)

I loved what a girl once told my Master, as we were in a 3-way IM conference:  "I think if you were 4 feet tall you would still tower over me." 

Height never mattered to me.  Then again I'm kind of short so it's never been an issue.



hisannabelle -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 12:19:01 PM)

i find taller men more attractive, on the whole, because i like to be dwarfed. however, He is just a couple inches taller than me, and weighs less than i do, so i don't necessarily stick to that attraction to tall, big-built men as a general rule. but it is there :)



KatyLied -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 12:23:34 PM)

I am 5'9" and I deftinitely prefer tall guys.  And tall for me is in the 6'2" - 6'4" range, I like 'em TALL.  And please don't embellish your height, that's a big pet peeve of mine..  My limit is a guy who is shorter than me.  I just can't see it happening.  



Artsslave -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 12:26:32 PM)

This girl is very petite, and Master is quite larger than i am. It's an enjoyable experience, but i was attracted and drawn to him because of who he is. i've been with men who are bags of bones, and i've been with men who have quite a bit packing. i've even been with one who was quite literally more than a foot taller than i am. Once i was interested in someone who was shorter. Although i am attracted to size, what really matters is how i can connect with them, and how he can fill his role as a dominant. A strong, confident presense is larger than a tall man.



heartfeltsub -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 12:36:00 PM)

my ex-Master was a couple of inches shorter than i am, but He used to say, "I'm still taller than you, when you're on your knees, so it all works out just fine."

heartfelt



Artsslave -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 12:43:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub

my ex-Master was a couple of inches shorter than i am, but He used to say, "I'm still taller than you, when you're on your knees, so it all works out just fine."

heartfelt


Good point!



littleone35 -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 1:52:05 PM)

I am 5 foot so i don't think i would find a man shorter then i am  I do perfer tall men so i am glad my Master is a foot taller than me.   Maybe if is because i am so short (hence the littleone label) is why i like tall men.  Even if my Master was 4' tall he would still be larger than life to me.  If he had all the qualities  (and i was uncollared) i was looking for and was only an inch or 2 shorter i might condiser it  i am not sure but i might.

Matt's littleone



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