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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

I'm short on time this AM so I haven't read all of the responses, just overlook it if I'm repeating what's been posted already.

Assuming that the issue has already been discussed in depth and in all sincerity with all parties involved, I'll just address the question at hand: how do you break the Bi barrier?

Assuming you're asking about physical semantics, I begin by having two male subs on opposite sides of the room, casually dressed.  I may assign one sub to attend me, as a body guard would, while the other sub and I go about a non stressful public activity, say, grocery shopping followed by an informal lunch where I can break the ice by engaging each sub in casual conversation to introduce them to one another.

The next session would be a formal BDSM training session, and it would be short.  It would consist of working on their service positions half clothed, on opposite sides of the room or at a comfortable distance from one another. 

Sessions would then progress to being clothed in only the thongs or break away velcro nylon shorts that I prefer, still at a comfortable distance from each other for most of the session.

Each initial session would be followed by much discussion on an individual basis, allowing me to gauge their reactions to various stimuli, comments, feelings, responses, etc.

Eventually, ready or not, the alpha sub would be given a BDSM related session in front of the beta sub, and that session would include first contact: they would be directed to stand side by side, arms touching, or back to back, shoulders and ass cheeks touching, while I play or torment either or both.

From that point I assign increasingly challenging tasks to one sub, the other, or to both, until we reach a point of mutual understanding and agreement as to what the expectations are for each sub individually and as a pair.

Baby steps.  Talk a lot, play a little, talk a lot, play a little. The time frame depends entirely on the two men involved and how well they cope or progress.

When it works, there's nothing more rewarding than two or three devoted male subs who engage well with each other and take joy in their individual roles within the dynamic of our relationship.

TexasMaam