MaamJay
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When I collared my husband (turned out to be a mistake but I had been training him for a year at that stage), I had matching gold anklets made, set with opals bought from Coober Pedy, where they had been mined out of the underground hotel room W/we stayed in! W/we chose anklets for practical purposes, easy for him to wear professionally under trousers and about the only jewellery he could tolerate wearing (I'd bought him a gold pocket watch rather than a wedding ring as he hates anything on his arms/hands!). W/we decided on a formal ceremony, attended by some bdsm friends and a few "vanillas" to whom W/we had "come out" and who were willing to share in this experience. I wore a gorgeous full length black velvet dress with deep V neck, lacing up the back from the ass upwards and a chiffon fishtail. he wore black trousers, a waistcoat, and his favourite ladies shoes! Being a CD it took him AGES to pick his favourite out of the 50 or so pairs he had by then LOL! (Also being a CD, no surprise that he was very keen on a formal ceremony so he could Stand and Model *grin*).
The ceremony began with a description of O/our background, how W/we had journeyed to this point, and what D/s means in terms of the power exchange. W/we chose to portray male submission as akin to a knight serving his Queen, to ensure it was seen as a position of strength rather than weakness. W/we also explained how important a commitment this was. Then came a short series of commitment questions, ensuring that he understood what he was agreeing to, especially in terms of My one day finding a Master also to share O/our lives, and potential training of other subs. I then made a pledge to him, promising to cherish, control, look out for his welfare, encourage him to grow etc. He then offered himself to Me, detailing his main strengths with which he would serve Me, and saying what he was looking to Me for in terms of his personal development. Then W/we made a series of statements that I have included below:
him: Knowing my power, i kneel humbly before You.
MJ: Knowing your power, I stand before you and accept the power you yield to Me.
him: Knowing my intelligence, i am guided by You.
MJ: Knowing your intelligence, I seek to guide you.
him: Knowing my creativity, i am inspired by You.
MJ: Knowing your creativity, I seek to inspire you.
him: Knowing my wit, i gain pleasure from Your laughter.
MJ: Knowing your wit, I share in your laughter.
him: Remembering my honour, i am loyal to You.
MJ: Remembering your honour, I value your loyalty.
him: Knowing my courage, i place myself at Your mercy.
MJ: Knowing your courage, I shall be merciful to you.
After that, W/we explained the significance and symbolism of O/our choice of collar (the anklets) and why I was choosing to wear one also (W/we saw them as two halves of a shackle, in that he was shackled to Me as 2 halves of a whole). W/we also saw lots of symbolism in the opals ... coming out from underground, revealing their beauty only after refinement, fire in the stones seen in the light (of O/our love) and mounted on a solid base (that of O/our prior relationship). At that point I fastened the anklet on his ankle first, with him making a final commitment promise, then had him fasten Mine. Sadly he later dishonoured the collar and the pledges he had made *sigh* but at the time, it was a very meaningful ceremony.
Master and my sub side, violet ... it was quite different. W/we had been living together 24/7 for nearly 2 years and i was beginning to crave the collar. i don't think i actually begged ... but i did drop a few big enough hints LOL! After 1 year He and i had gone out to dinner and exchanged rings which symbolised O/our commitment to work towards a collaring, sort of like an engagement ring and very special. As the 2 year anniversary approached, and my hints "took", He agreed that He was ready to collar me, believing i was ready to be collared to Him. So then W/we discussed the collar (and designed the bracelet i have described on another thread recently) and had it made. He wasn't keen on a public ceremony, so W/we both wrote words of O/our own, describing what this meant to U/us and also set out a contract. On the appointed day, which was significant in terms of it being the anniversary of the day He set out to move to be with me, W/we went to a quiet place by the river and read O/our words and exchanged some simple vows. He put the collar on me, then W/we went to a favourite restaurant for dinner. i was wearing a black dress with a gorgeous purple full length cloak that i had had made for me, He wore a black shirt and trousers. It might have been less showy, but it was every bit as meaningful, and of course, that collar is still going strong!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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