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Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:10:41 AM

BeachMystress

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How many of you are annoyed by subs who write to you with comments about how beautiful your breasts are or how horny your photos make them? I usually just roll my eyes, but occasionally it does annoy me. I am not a male playtoy or sex object and never will be. When men tell me how sexy they find me (other than hubby, who is allowed) I tell them that is their problem, not mine. I demand normal respect and restraint from strangers, male or female. Just because I am a Dominant Woman and may wear corsets and such does not mean I am sexually promiscuous or welcome crass comments.

And if a male can't manage to keep that in mind, and feels he must comment upon my large breasts, I find it needful to comment that the bulge in his pants looks awful small. That usually ends in a conversation about judging people by "size." Funny how they have to have their nose rubbed in the irony of complaining that I judged them on something that isn't their fault, when they just did the same to me. *shakes head* They also don't get the fact that a respectful sub would never press his opinions upon a stranger in such a rude way. *sighs*

What are your feelings on the subject? Do you ever find being told that you are sexy, that you have lovely breasts/ass/whatever-part-they-jerk-off-to annoying? Do you ever feel the subs who make such comments are treating you like a sex object?

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:20:49 AM

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I had an amatuer porn site for a while. What made me stop doing it wasn't that I got uncomfortable with doing it, but that I got angry about 1) all my "fans" assuming that since they found me sexy, I must want to sleep with them and 2) having to feed their fantasy in order to keep them as "fans". That wasn't why I signed up to do the porn!

Men are simply much more stimulated by sight than women are. This isn't universal, by any means, but I feel it's true for the majority. They also seem to feel that we are obligated to respond in a favorable fashion if they find us attractive. AND, they also expect women to respond to cock shots in the same way they respond to nekid pics. We don't. It can take a lifetime for men to figure this out. Gay guys have it easier...they all speak the same language and are from the same planet. LOL

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:26:11 AM

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well most of the time i just get commented on my eyes but on other sites I have let them know that i am a phone sex operator and then i have guys asking me for freebies..that bothers me..i do it as a job not for fun and if you arnt willing to pay me for it then im not interested..

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:27:58 AM

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Hell i love it!!! Besides men are just talking with thier cocks anyway, telling women what they think they want to hear...But what woman doesnt want hear she is hot or sexy???

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:32:12 AM

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thor gets treated like a sex object sometimes... but subs soon learm there is more 2 azzmaster than a handsome face and a huge dick

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:35:53 AM

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azz what the hell is your problem is your self esteem so low that you need to compliment yourself?..Mistress Beach i appoligize for the hijack

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:45:56 AM

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my DDs are a blessing (because Daddy likes them) and a curse however i don't want to be treated like a sex object because of them. it's one of the many reasons why i don't have personal pics of myself here.

i used to have pics of my DDs on AFF before deleting the account and would have lewd to crude comments/messages about them (and they weren't nude pics either). within 24hrs of joining - i had 30messages in my inbox and about 40 more in my bulk - all from men wanting a piece of the DD action ...many suggesting ways they would fuck and/or bound me while playing with them. one guy suggested i join him and a few friends at a motel for a weekend of gangbanging (i think not!). some of the guys wanted that white guy/black woman sex fantasy ...others were vanilla doms with very sick kinks - one included being abducted in broad daylight (he was reported to the site). there were a small percentage few i did have the chance to meet in person who treated me like a woman.

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:46:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kittensmailbox

Hell i love it!!! Besides men are just talking with thier cocks anyway, telling women what they think they want to hear...But what woman doesnt want hear she is hot or sexy???

It's not that we don't want to hear it. Yes it is nice when someone finds something about you that they are attracted to. The problem comes in when they don't greet you properly, they don't give you due respect and the expectation is to respond in kind, have every other sentence in your conversation about the particular body part that turns them on, and to have an actual conversation with most is impossible because they have no communication skills other than to say how attractive they think you are. To each his or her own, but I am not interested in hearing about how you wank your wee willy to a G'rated picture that I may be displaying.

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:48:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Attendedkarma

azz what the hell is your problem is your self esteem so low that you need to compliment yourself?..Mistress Beach i appoligize for the hijack

Carly Simon said it best

you're so vain
you probably think this song is about you
you're so vain

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 10:55:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Attendedkarma

azz what the hell is your problem is your self esteem so low that you need to compliment yourself?..Mistress Beach i appoligize for the hijack

I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure azzmaster was just joking.

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 11:15:50 AM

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I get what the OP means I think. Its one thing to be complimented in a way such as "Hello, I just wanted to say good morning and let you know that I think youre photos are incredibly beautiful. Thank you for taking the time to read this and have a good day" as opposed to "Hey Mistress, nice tits"

Most people wouldnt walk up to a stranger on the street and say hey I want to fuck your tits. Then again we do live in a crazy world

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 11:24:40 AM

bayboundse

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We get emails from Dom males and sub females wanting to talk to my sub/slave. It says in our profile we are a couple looking for a female. They say she is sexy blah blah blah. Its all crap becuase they do not read our profile. If they said "Hey your a lucky Dom to have a sexy sub" or "You are very sexy" and did not try to pick her up it would not be so bad.

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 11:25:52 AM

bayboundse

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oops sub females in the first line "We get emails from Dom males and sub females" should read "We get emails from Dom males and sub males" Rant typo sorry

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 12:44:53 PM

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I have found that I can control those types of responses to a certain extent simply by choosing a different way to represent myself. For a while I had a pictures that showed me in "fetish" type clothing. My tits were jacked up and bursting out for all to see

and I was getting all kinds of "drooling messages" before they ever said Hello lol I agree that it is inappropriate for them to behave that way but they do it anyway! Once I changed my pictures in a manner that did not make me look like a "Sex Goddess" then if they said anything like "your are beautiful" it wasn't the first thing they said. Men are certainly visual creatures and I find controlling "what" they see of me helps keep thm in check. Granted I "can" wear anything I want in my pictures but once I figured out I was getting better quality responses by not showing myself in sex goddes clothing, I liked the control I found to keep those pictures for later down the road

Just my thoughts.

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 1:04:08 PM

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I don't get alot of those messages anymore. I am pretty glad about that. It was rather disconcerting getting messages about my beauty, when I have never posted a pic. I think many men are fuelled by their fantasies. I am glad I am not longer looking for a partner.

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 1:12:23 PM

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I know in this medium my pic is the first connection I make. My post speak more about me, and Beach your posts do the same. So I take the "fuk meat" in stirde and let the profile do the work. I get my respect, or lack of, through my posts.

Slurp!

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 1:24:13 PM

michaelOfGeorgia

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did i miss sending You an annoying, lame and degrading email today...well, darn...LOL

<makes a note to send an email to BeachMystress making shallow comments about what Her pics do to men>

(just kidding)

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 1:31:12 PM

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Simply tells me they're thinking with the wrong brain and what seems their true motive in contacting me.

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 1:34:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

I know in this medium my pic is the first connection I make. My post speak more about me, and Beach your posts do the same. So I take the "fuk meat" in stirde and let the profile do the work. I get my respect, or lack of, through my posts.

Slurp!

Was wondering where you were Troll. Hadnt seen you about causing mayhem and weak knees amongst the boards this morning

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RE: Being treated like a sex object? - 3/7/2007 1:41:55 PM

michaelOfGeorgia

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here's an interesting point to ponder. why post a nude or near-nude pic if those that post them don't wish to hear shallow...maybe even complimentary...replies?

i find it odd that, those who post these pics are surprised to get those time of emails...it's like on Jerry Springer...LOL

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