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HayaSierra -> RE: Long distance punishment ideas. (4/7/2005 7:59:16 PM)
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Greetings everyone,
There are only a few things to keep in mind with online means of punishment -- they must fit the "crime" and they must be able to be controlled and checked properly -- unless you trust your sub enough that such is not an issue. As such, orgasm denial may not be the best punishment for everything. For one -- you have no way of knowing if she is actually doing what you are telling her to do, second of all, orgasm Denial has nothing to do with the price of tea in china (Her forgetting her journal entries). The punishment and discipline has to follow the lines of what her issue was in the first place -- so by some means any Discipline and punishment you enact for her disobedience has to be in line with Journals and Journal entries. There are a few methods you can employ, and feel free to mix and match with others as you might need:
One: Deny her access of the journal and the right to journal. Perhaps she may only Journal per pen and paper, and must send those entries to you per mail.
Two: Perhaps she must Journal more -- Perhaps having her write essays of particular subjects in her journal in addition to normal entries.
Three: Start her off on a research project involving the improvement techniques for ones' memory -- and have her post all her discoveries on such into her journal, or prepare a report and put that into her journal.
Four: Have her write her daily Devotion or Submissive Rules if you use such at the beginning and end of every journal entry she does post. This is a lot of typing for absolutely no use other than to make her type it.
Five: Snail mail her a copy of a guide to submission and pleasing of a Dominant -- and have her type it up by hand, and post such into her journal. Make sure to make the entries private view only to be visible by you so there is no copyright issues. Avoid online tutorials as they can be copied and pasted. This will give her plenty of work, and involves journaling! If you wish to use an online resource, find one that is not well known -- and print the pages up, then send them to her to type up again. You need to make sure she can't just find it and cut and paste it.
All of these are perfectly checkable, and all of these are tedious, and in my humble opinion more horrible than orgasm Denial.
I'm glad you have had a time to talk things over with her, but if you ever face time issues again, perhaps there are other methods that can help out with that, such as attempting to settle into a routine or set schedule, and more means for communications. We at my household generally use anything from phones (MCI Neighborhood complete saves me lots of headaches with that), to Messenger programs, and even e-mail. My current household is scattered about the united states, and until we can realistically get everyone situated better, we are making do with what we have. But there is a schedule, there are protocols, and there is plenty of checking up on folks. Especially since they actually do have studies, assignments and the like to attend to, most of which have to be checked up on frequently. And when it comes to disciplining and punishments, they know, should they even be 1000 miles away, I can still enforce my rules on them. All of this together makes it very demanding, but having a set schedule and a routine, even as a Dominant will help out a lot, especially as being an efficient Dominant with completely devoted submissives is an actual job -- not a hobby.
Sierra,
Haya of Ka Azdor Estate
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