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RE: length of spanking... - 3/20/2007 7:01:59 AM   
onestandingstill


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I'm not one who's hit sub space yet, but in long scenes I get much more centered and focused on the psychological journey & energy exchange.
I haven't had a good 3-4 hour spanking in so long it's sad.
For me those are the very best spankings ever.
It gives me time to really get to feel and process the extreme sensations and feel the energy ebb and flow between me and the person I'm sharing that with.
suzanne 


Thanks suzanne...might I ask, in a long session over an hour or 2, what are you being spanked with?  Does the intensity start slow? and increase?  Explain how the energy ebbs and flows...I am not understanding this ~~ basically cause it's never happened to me.
Please tell me what you are thinking and feeling during these spankings?
Thanks

Usually it's many different implements, lol and in no apparent order usually.
Often it's bare hands, paddles, canes, crops, floggers, belts and such.
What happens is after the initial burning like hell as the nerves adjust period I reach a point where I still feel the sting and forces of the blows, but the anxiety that often accompanies hard pain passes.
I go through accepting I can feel this extremely uncomfortable situation and still have a calming peace inside that I am well cared for.
It's knowing the person who's spanking me is trying to cause the most extreme sensation and at the same time has the ability to cause me great pain without hurting me long term.
It's a journey of sensation that the person willingly is leading me through.
Knowing in the end I was his good girl and he's proud of the pallet he's created on my skin coupled with the heat of the intimate contact and the smell of our sweat mingling is a most comfortable and desired place to be.
It's like the nervous and anxious energy pent up in me is released from me in the walk of pain and extreme sensation and it's replaced with one of relaxation, comfort, and intimate skin to skin contact grounding me to the one who's left me spent and content.
I also dearly love the warmth I have eminating from my butt the rest of the day and some of the next day reminding me of the heated sensual exchange I had with my partner. It's like I get to feel his touch long after we've parted & keeps my thoughts closer to him.
I love the marks and bruising I get to carry up to two weeks behind a heavy scene too.
To methe bruises are like a vase of flowers set on my table.
Each time I see them I'm reminded of the affectionate exchange that put them there.
suzanne

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/20/2007 3:28:29 PM   
myobedience


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Status: offline 		Thanks soooo much desertdancer and suzanne. 

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/20/2007 9:08:14 PM   
PghSpanking


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Status: offline 		I am more familiar with long slow sensuous spankings.  They include some nice warm up slaps, alot of rubbing, more slaps, more rubbing.  The swats slowly build up in intensity.  Once some warmth is achieved, the implements can be used.  But in this kind of spanking they are used for sensation, not to inflict real pain.  Even the harshest implement, like a cane, can be used for sensation and erotic play by lightly tapping it all over the bottom.

Often then the hand is used again, for slightly harder spanks, then more rubbing.  That pattern of hand spanking, rubbing and implements can be repeated for hours.  It can be a slow sensuous dance between spanker and spankee.  For the spankee, the energy slowly builds up to some nice warmth, to some tingling, maybe some light stinging, more heat.

It can seem like a concert, with the introduction piece, the slow and fast songs in the middle, intended to take you up, then bring you down, up and down, constantly building to the crashing, explosive finale that takes everyone's breath away.

For many spankees, they get aroused during that sensuous spanking play.  From the intial slow wiggling and squirming, to the moans, whimpers, and gasps, it is a slow mind blowing slide into orgasmic bliss for some.  Some can get very aroused, but arent able to orgasm.  For some lucky spankees they can orgasm during the spanking, from JUST the spanking!

For the spanker, some get aroused by watching the skin turn color from white to pink to red in most cases.  For some, its the sound of their bare hand striking the ladies bare bottom.  Naturally, having a bare bottomed lady over their lap, wiggling and squirming is arousing.  If she wiggles enough her hip will brush against him or press against him, which I also hear is arousing LOL

Giving a good spanking is a skilled art form.  It requires knowledge and alot of practice.  For spankos, it is an acivity that easily stands alone, without any other activities.  For BDSMers it often is just a part of the scene or session.  For spankos it IS the scene or session.  There is some overlap, but there are some people who are JUST into spanking.

There are organized groups in different parts of the country, like Shadowlane in Vegas, Crimson Moon in Chicago, IWS in Indy, DCS in DC,  other groups, as well as the spanking group in Pittsburgh PA.    These groups host spanking parties and munches.

Just some thoughts on spanking.

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/21/2007 3:57:50 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		The sound of a well placed swat on a womans ass is such sweet music!

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/21/2007 4:32:31 AM   
fairerthanshe


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Status: offline 		"For many spankees, they get aroused during that sensuous spanking play.  From the intial slow wiggling and squirming, to the moans, whimpers, and gasps, it is a slow mind blowing slide into orgasmic bliss for some.  Some can get very aroused, but arent able to orgasm.  For some lucky spankees they can orgasm during the spanking, from JUST the spanking! " ~ quote from PghSpanking

Greetings all,

i am one of those blessed who cums just from spankings.  the scene You describe with the combination of swats and rubs, slowly increasing in intensity and frequency, is what i love...for additional gratification, having benwah(sp?) balls inserted in my cunt after the initial spanking is magnificent. then the duality of sensation becomes almost unbelievable as the swats send tremors to the balls which create earthquakes of pleasure through my pussy.

i find myself raising my ass to receive the next swat rather than tucking it under or trying to avoid it.  there is so much pleasure to be derived from a good spanking - truly my absolute favorite thing!

well wishes,

fairer than she


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RE: length of spanking... - 3/21/2007 7:03:52 AM   
myobedience


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Status: offline 		WOW !  Thank you fairer than she and PghSpanking for the input.

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/21/2007 2:24:27 PM   
CrazyC


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

The sound of a well placed swat on a womans ass is such sweet music!


shhh your making me hot. LOL

I am with fairer. It can be soft or hard but i can cum just from a spanking alone.

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/24/2007 6:15:33 PM   
SirDiscipliner69


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ORIGINAL: myobedience

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Spankings have durations depending on the means done.

Percussive play can last for 8 hours or it can be ten minutes

Depends on the intensity

Key factor to reach subspace is rhythm

Following a good scene music can bring out the best in a bad percussionist

Slow buildup is essential

I have used can or belt EXTREMELY intense immediately and then focuseed on aftercare for a few hours

My Hand is My most expressive implement but I do enjoy My Belt and an array of others

I am sure We might come to a mutrual agreement for those in need of really finding out what good percussive buildup is all about by someone who really enjoys what He does and focuses on it.

Ross
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Thank you Ross, this was very descriptive...  might you explain percussive?


Percussion pertains to various methods used as one might use on a drum, bongo, tamborine, or other instrument of pleasure to be played for My pleasure and bidding.


Decriptive is as it has been done many times before and never boring in doing so

Ross
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RE: length of spanking... - 3/27/2007 11:45:36 AM   
sunfleur


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Status: offline 		i'm one of those subs who gets sexually aroused by a spanking... almost always.  there are times (depending on my mood when entering the scene) when it's more painful than pleasurable.  there are times when i'm thinking.. ok, enough already.  but most often i'm thinking... more more more more more more.. ahem.. ok you get the idea lol    as for the amount of time, it varies every time, from a few whacks to a few hours.

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/27/2007 11:55:24 AM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		Dang, dancer… WELL said!   Did somebody say ‘frothy’?  <blushes>
 
Ya know, I’ve really not been spanked much, so thank you suzanne for including all the other…implements.  Though, at a dungeon where I’ve played…the Spankers insisted on being separate from the rest of us pervs; they considered BDSM far too edgy for them!!!
 
Still, all the same stuff dancer mentioned holds true for me; lordy…long scenes are awesome!
 
Percussion:  hand, paddles, canes, floggers; even whips, huh?  Surely cats, at least.  Anyway, I find all these things a delicious way to start out…
 
bearlee

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/27/2007 6:29:22 PM   
Totalmaster4you


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Status: offline 		A few of the spankee's spoke of subspace which is where all the really good Dom/Dommes try to take their sub/slaves. My understanding is it is the reason for that BDSM(when it clicks) is so intense and powerful when compared with the vanilla world. In subspace a sub/slave can disconnect from societies rules etc. and allow the sub/slave to really feel all the sensations she's experiancing. In there a sub/slave can feel many emotions; being cared for; trust; knowing how hard her Top will work to bring them these pleasures( after a long session I've perspired heavily and having My slave curl up in my lap, purring softly thanking Me makes it all worthwhile). No one mentioned rubbing the genitals to of the rythem of the spanking/whipping so that the the two sensations overlap. Repeatedly doing that will cause the mind to bring up the feelings and sensations of the other without physically doing it. This is one of the techniques to teach the sub/slave to orgasm from spanking or whipping alone. The idea of a begining, middle and end should be used to create the rythem, the intensity and the length. If the sub/slave is new to the activity a Dom/Domme usually begins low intensity etc. and stretches the intensity and duration teaching the sub/slave that they can endure more than they thought. In thinking about otk, the rubbing, etc. the physical contact builds trust and and feelings between Master and slave.....a connection. No matter how sore My arm, hand or shoulder gets it's worth all of it to look into the eyes and see that dreamy subspace look.

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/27/2007 10:52:34 PM   
azzmaster


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Status: offline 		the purpose of the spanking is both to give me pleasure and tach em a lesson... i spank em as long as it takes, which is 2 say as long as it takes em to beg pretty unuff 4 me to stop and agree to do anything i say with no backchat

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/28/2007 9:38:06 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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ORIGINAL: sunfleur

i'm one of those subs who gets sexually aroused by a spanking... almost always.  there are times (depending on my mood when entering the scene) when it's more painful than pleasurable.  there are times when i'm thinking.. ok, enough already.  but most often i'm thinking... more more more more more more.. ahem.. ok you get the idea lol    as for the amount of time, it varies every time, from a few whacks to a few hours.

Spanking can be very sexually arousing for both spankee and spanker.

Mindset can lead to hedonistic approaches and endevours that culminate in lusty particiaption of carnal delight.

Slow build up and anticpation seem to bring on the erotic nature of spanking.

The submissive laughing look given while administering strokes leads to more and more interchange wiithin the cycle.

The asthetics of redness on the buttocks is most enjoyable especially when the heat radiats from the glow...this heat and glow gives way to warmth and moisture of anticipation of what it to come next.

Some hard buildup last a few days for the badges of glory to be displayed for all to see.

Ross
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RE: length of spanking... - 3/28/2007 9:44:00 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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ORIGINAL: Bearlee 
Ya know, I’ve really not been spanked much, so thank you suzanne for including all the other…implements.  Though, at a dungeon where I’ve played…the Spankers insisted on being separate from the rest of us pervs; they considered BDSM far too edgy for them!!!


I have found it true of a local yahoo group that also finds anything beyond spanking too edgy...

So how is it you have not been spanked much?

Or is this just a personal ad?


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RE: length of spanking... - 3/28/2007 8:27:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		....been to long now since my last spanking  * sighs* I miss the sound of Master's hand smack smack smacking on my flesh.  I miss that pang that happens low in my belly when he draws his fingernail over my sin and makes me shiver.  I miss how I can feel my bottom cheeks blushing as hotly as my facial cheeks....


Oh yeah, been to long now...


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RE: length of spanking... - 3/28/2007 11:37:39 PM   
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RE: length of spanking... - 3/29/2007 3:30:01 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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ORIGINAL: desertdancer

....been to long now since my last spanking  * sighs* I miss the sound of Master's hand smack smack smacking on my flesh.  I miss that pang that happens low in my belly when he draws his fingernail over my sin and makes me shiver.  I miss how I can feel my bottom cheeks blushing as hotly as my facial cheeks....


I am sure you might learn a new dance to shimmy to in My company as I am sure We might be able to come to some mutual agreement in being able to supplement your daily need for spankings.

There is aa definite difference in the sound of spankings..from the full hand cupped...whummp.....to the flat arched hand ...spllattt....the the skittle hand thrash....thhhhiskkkttt....and many many more.

I being a  true conisour (spelling) of hedonistic spankings that loves what He does I am sure I would be able to ressurect your longing interest in the art of sppanking.

I can let you know that your bottom cheeks will definitely be redder and hotter than your facial cheeks.

I do one on one sessions with willing candidates.

Ross
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RE: length of spanking... - 3/29/2007 3:59:48 AM   
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I have been reading several of your posts, it says you are currently online Now however I do not know how to reach you  to pose  some personal questions,,re: spanking.. Well  just  one.. I could not pull you up on collarme  either as to send you a note  via  e-mail.

Mia

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/29/2007 4:01:00 AM   
PrettyGirl2Learn


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Status: offline 		By the way  anyone and all  what does ths ice-cream cone mean???


Mia

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RE: length of spanking... - 3/29/2007 8:58:05 AM   
dixiestar69


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Status: offline 		the one that sticks out in my mind lasted probably 2 and a half hours and transisioned from His hand, to a brush, to a crop, to a paddle then to the cane....I couldn't sit....I miss those...*sigh*

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