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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/24/2007 8:04:57 AM   
cabernet


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Status: offline 		I agree with the poster before who said to just use warm water for the enema (or cold.)  Soapy water causes the tissues of the rectum to dry out.  There are also "wine" or some other form of alcohol enemas.  These are very dangerous because the alcohol is absorbed directly into the bloodstream without being filtered through the liver and can cause blood alcohol poisoning.  So the shot of tequila would be good, but by mouth!!  lol


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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/24/2007 12:21:20 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		And go slowly and take your time!
I've inserted a good sized butt plug into a tied sub before but I took about 10 minutes to do it easing it in and out and stretching the muscles slowly.
When you get up to the flared wide part go slowly and leave it (the widest) part in without pulling or pushing for about a full minute to give the muscles time to stretch.
Also, vibrating butt plugs I think are the best because the vibrations relax the muscles too.
And once you have it in you can turn it up full blast and go have a cup of coffee for a while!
And use plenty of lube! I use Astroglide, or "I.D." water based lubes. I put it in the anus as well as on the but plug copiously.
Anal play should feel good and be sensuous! If it's at at all painfull "SLOW DOWN".
And as some mentioned already, start "small" and work up.
Put a slim vibrator in first then something bigger around then the butt plug.
And once you have a butt plug in a bit keep a gentle pressure on it and maybe push it in more ever so slightly before backing it off a bit.
I really enjoy ass play with a sub so this is one of the things I really enjoy doing.
It should never be painfull.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/24/2007 7:57:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Bearlee

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 I just use a ball-syringe thingy which is for anal use but only holds a cup or two of water.  And using plain water IS the easiest on your body.

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Flushing with one ‘ball’ full of very warm water, emptying immediately and repeating IF necessary keeps me clean and healthy; enemas aren’t something one should do regularly, as they will upset your body’s balance and ability to carry on ‘evacuation’ on it’s own.  Of course, every body is different, but I find that this routine will keep me ‘clear’ for a couple hours, anyway.  As quick and easy as this method is, you can repeat as needed without worry.
 


Agree 100%...works very well for me also.
 
Another suggestion (apologies if someone posted it already)...silicone toys.  They are the easiest to keep clean if not using condoms...boil them, bleach them...you might even be able to bake them, though I can't vouch for that.  They also don't fall apart like cheaper toys.  But never use silicone-based lube on them!
 
Tasha

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/24/2007 9:39:33 PM   
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Hello. I'm new to ass play in general and sometime in the near future I plan to start practicing ass play on myself using an assortment of buttplugs and toys. Since through my reading I've neer found an answer to the following question of mine, I decided it would be a good idea to ask it here.

What is the best way to prepare your ass for anal play of any sort? I've heard of enema's as one solution, but is that all that one needs to doto make sure they're clean back there and ready? If  do use an enema, how long before the play starts should I do it, and how long will that keep my rear free of "obsticles"? Are there other ways to keep myself clean and ready back there?

Thanks for taking the time to read this.


A former submissive of mine asked around the Toronto scene of homosexual males trying to find out how she could experience less pain while being, umm, anally violated.

She was told the easy way was to get the mindset and attempt to have the sphincter muscle act/feel like she was having a bowel movement.  She said this worked, whereas all the cucumbers and butt plugs and celery stalks did not make it more comfortable for her.

I suppose it worked for her.  She truly enjoyed being taken back there.

Sinergy

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/24/2007 11:21:31 PM   
Trunks1056


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Status: offline 		FYI I've tried anal play on myself before, using a couple of plugs of my own and a lot of lube, both thin water based and gel consistancy lubes. I already understand the basics of anal play and all, but the reason I asked what I did in this post was because I didn't know if there was a generally accepted way of cleaning yourself out before play with a mistress or master. While I haven't worked myself up to getting in the large plug I own, I have fit the medium one in myself without discomfort and I do oftentimes enjoy using Anal Beads that I have too.

Quick question, I remember seeing one of the replies saying that I should NEVER use Silicone based lubricants with toys made from Silicone. Why is that?

Oh, and thank you for the kind words Diane.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 3:30:03 PM   
Badkitty0810


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Status: offline 		Using a silicone based lube with a silicone toy will cause it to break down.

If you'd like further information on enemas, let me know. I know someone who is very well versed on the subject and who can provide a wealth of information.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 4:32:51 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I have heard it said that you should just bend over and sing songs by Burl Ives.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 4:44:52 PM   
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I have heard it said that you should just bend over and sing songs by Burl Ives.

Ron  


Odd that. I heard it was BoxCar Willy songs or any other train songs.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 4:46:45 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		could simply be regional differences, I will look it up and get back to you.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 5:10:30 PM   
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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 5:58:50 PM   
davida93291


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Status: offline 		As a gay man I have topped quite a few men over the years.  The subject of anal cleanliness has been of some interest to me.  I finally concluded that the digestive system does a completely acceptable job of cleaning itself if it is operating properly.  No special cleaning efforts are necessary or desireable for the inside.  You do want to make sure that the area around your anus is clean.  I recommend you shower before play making sure to clean that area.  Toilet paper is not adequate.

I suggested that you make sure that your diet contains an adequate amount of fiber to avoid constipation.  If you are eating enough, you should have two bowel movements a day.  There should be a fairly large volume of feces and they should be soft but not runny.

You can experiment with this until you figure out what you need.  Then get about that amount every day.  Consistency is important.  You want to know about when you can expect your bowels to empty.  If you try to load up on fiber for a special occasion, you won't be able to predict the result.

Do not force the bowel movement.  That may lead to incomplete emptying.  

Do not attempt to play in the time leading up to bowel movement.  The result will likely be the hastening of the bowel movement so that it occurs while you are playing.  You will not be able to stop it and may well not even be aware that it is happening.  I had this happen once (not fortunately while I was in) and I can assure you that it is most unpleasant.

The best time to play is going to be the hours after your bowel movement.

What I have outlined is my experience observing a lot of guys.  If you meet someone at a club or take your date out, there is no time for him to clean up when things get hot.  Yet none seemed to have a difficulty.  Cleanliness was just not a problem.  You could be different.  When experimenting with fiber, as suggested above, I suggest that you check on your interior cleanliness after a bowel movement to see if there is any residue.  You can do that be inserting your finger to see what you encounter.  That way you will know if you are going to require further cleaning.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 7:44:13 PM   
Aileen68


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I have heard it said that you should just bend over and sing songs by Burl Ives.

Ron  


Have a holly jolly Christmas...yeah that always puts me in the mood for a good reaming. 

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 8:11:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know anything about the enemas.  Lube is a godsent, use obscene amounts of it.  And as you go working up to larger insertables be sure to relax your muscles.  It's normal to worry about the pain and then tighten your muscles, but some deep breathing, and calm goes a lot way with anal play.  Enjoy!

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 10:00:33 PM   
mythi


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Enema links from my Favorites list, no particular order:

http://www.puckerup.com/enemas/?&=
http://www.enema-web.com/simple_enema.html
http://www.malesubmission.com/faq/enemafaq.htm#Temperature
http://ezinearticles.com/?Enema-Tips-And-Tricks-And-What-To-Put-Into-An-Enema-And-Why&id=418209
http://www.enematips.com/

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/25/2007 11:42:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I (Rowan) have been trained with these lovely anal beads designed for the singular purpose of training the anus for penetration.  They begin very small, and gradually become quite large.  Also, just before penetration, it is a good idea to penetrate yourself with one or two fingers (or an easily-accessible toy) to make yourself ready.  Generally, once the anus has been opened, it stays that way for a little while, so opening it some before anal play makes penetration much easier, and much more enjoyable.

Hope I've helped!

~Rowan

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/28/2007 3:12:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		use lots of lube, practice a little to get used to it and when you do, finger it a litlte to get it ready

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 3/28/2007 3:45:58 PM   
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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 4/1/2007 4:21:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		No matter how well you prepare, there is every possibility of a mishap when engaging in ass play.  Washing is a good way to prepare and there are nozzles available which fit to a shower hose you can use to clean yourself out thoroughly.  The process is not without its down-side but at least you have some security in the knowledge you are as clean as you can be.  This can be part of your preparation before you go out especially if you know you will be engaging in ass play.  Always use a water-based lube and plenty of it.  If you are worried about "size" you may wish to consider an inflatable butt-plug.  Wearing a butt plug can get you used to being penetrated but work up gradually both in size and in the time you leave the plug inserted. It takes time for your body to adjust to a foreign body inserted in your butt!
And I also reinforce what has been said before. Use a condom over your toys before they are inserted, not only to make clean-up easier but its also healthier.  No matter how well you clean up after use, there is always a residual smell.  Using a condom prevents this problem. 
Plenty to think about but when done with due care and consideration, anal play can be very satisfying for both parties.  Good luck.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 4/1/2007 4:44:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		The bulb-type anal syringe is really the best for the body because repeated enemas can eventually cause the body to become dependent upon them for elimination.  The bulb-syringe can be puchased at any drug store and using just plain warm water will clean out that much of the rectum as is normally necessary.  Since you probably won't be inserting anything that reaches the colon why clean the colon?  Good ole Astro-Glide tends to act as poo teflon and by itself makes the experience so much better.  When using a condom, make sure it fits snugly on the toy or risk going on a spelunking trip later.

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RE: What's the best way to prepare your ass for anal play? - 4/4/2007 8:05:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't prepare my ass for Daddy unless he is particulary clear about what he wants.  As a top I want a bottom with an ass that comes as is.  I don't need my bottom boy preparing cause for me the journey as jsut as good, maybe even better than the destination.

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