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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Having street smarts will only take you so far. You need intelligence beyond street smarts to move up beyond the street. There is street education, high school education and college education. Talk to one of each and see the difference. Used to be that all you needed was a high school education. No more. Technology has gone way beyond a high school education. Education or lack of it is probably why so many still seek in here.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

For us it's watching Talk Soup and reading Entertainment Weekly :)

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

I appreciate all of the thoughtful replies.

Honor and compassion rate an 8 as well, to me (maybe even a 9). I am not at all interested in some intellectual w/no heart. I've always rated having a heart higher. But I have a hard time w/people, who either won't talk, or say they "can't", for whatever reason.

Part of the reason don't want to deal w/these types anymore, is that I was married for years to a very quiet person, and found it eventually drove me nuts. Because even though he read a lot, he'd never discuss it - at all. I am just not a good match for anyone who isn't willing to have a decent conversation.  
Aw, that's understandable. Past experiences do have a lot to do with our priorities. See, to me... my owner's quiet demeanor radiates peace and tranquility. It's a vital part of him I cling to in times of turmoil, lol.
He and I will discuss thing, especially those matters regarding our relationship. But it's so weird... most of our time spent together is in silence. Given my past, I cherish the stillness. =)
I just brought this up because I hear people say things about how they are "going to get inside a subs head", and I started wondering how, exacty, they plan to do that, exactly - since I rarely see this topic mentioned in much detail, sans vague mentions of things like "communication", (which, to me, can mean just about anything, really (people mostly don't detail what they think it means, IMO, when I've seen it mentioned.). 

To me, you can't "get inside someone's head" unless you are willing to gradually get to know them, and since the convo doesn't usually start w/bdsm and activity talk (at least not for me, right away anyway), I figure one of the best ways to get to know someone is by having deeper conversations about "vanilla" topics, mostly.
- Susan

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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

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ORIGINAL: StellaByStarlite


Signs of life in the mind are a higher priority then the body beautiful, yes. But not as important to me as kindness, compassion, and a sense of honor.

Well said Stella ... i like this

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ORIGINAL: QuietlySeeking

I have a very diverse group of friends and I expect her to be able to interact with them.  I don't expect her to be able to argue the historical accuracy of religious texts with my Historical Buff friends, nor do I expect her to understand the inner workings a internal combustion gasoline engine....I do, however, expect a more enlightened response than "When I push on the gas pedal, it goes!"
Haha.. whatever! That would be my response. I mean... you push the gas, it goes.. what else does a lil' car dumbass gal need to know?
Hello! When you push the remote On button, the TV goes on!
When you turn the faucet, water comes out!
That's about as far as my mechanical knowledge goes, rofl
(unfortunately, that was a direct quote) *laughing*

She can possess any one (or group) of the qualities for which I'm looking, but if she can't stimulate me mentally....she's gone.

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**I am asking where folks place things like appreciating reading, and having things like "deep thoughts" and conversational ability, on their scale of "needs" from a partner. How do you rate these things, say, on a scale of 1-10?

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Education, intellect, the ability to discuss everything from your day through politics and current affairs to abstract philosophy, is essential, providing its not lecturing or diametrically opposed to my own thinking.