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RE: Sub light speed - 3/29/2007 3:32:14 PM

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As for me, I'm always cautious about anybody quick to sign over their life within a day or hours after meeting. I have this "I want to get to know you policy" and it tends to somehow preturb these types.

I just had this happen to me this week. We hadn't even chatted or spoken via phone and his first email was an offer to move in. Which normally I would have laughed off but the extent to which he went to in the email of leaving his job, packing his car, ect to move in immediately without any knowledge was a bit disturbing. It has happened a few times in the past after meeting someone at an event in person as well and I just don't understand it either.

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/15/2008 2:27:55 PM

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I like to take a bit to get to know the person first.

I've found a lot of women have tried to just jump right into something with me.
Their first message they're calling me Master and asking to fuck me and pleasure me and all of that.

Most of the time, these have just been horny women who wanted a bit of "risky" fun for a while.

Now, if they had just said that to start, let me know they're horny and find me sexy and want some... well, I'm sure something could be worked out.
But coming to me under the guise of a slave? I don't think so.

A Master and slave have to still be compatible on various levels. The Masters and slaves I've known have never had a lasting relationship with another who they just didn't click with. The sex and kink might be great... but it leaves them feeling... lacking.

I want to find a slave who gets me. Who I can enjoy and who will understand my interests.
There's more to pleasure than just my body. They need to pleasure my mind as well.

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/15/2008 2:41:22 PM

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I like to take a bit to get to know the person first.

I've found a lot of women have tried to just jump right into something with me.
Their first message they're calling me Master and asking to fuck me and pleasure me and all of that.

Most of the time, these have just been horny women who wanted a bit of "risky" fun for a while.

Now, if they had just said that to start, let me know they're horny and find me sexy and want some... well, I'm sure something could be worked out.
But coming to me under the guise of a slave? I don't think so.

A Master and slave have to still be compatible on various levels. The Masters and slaves I've known have never had a lasting relationship with another who they just didn't click with. The sex and kink might be great... but it leaves them feeling... lacking.

I want to find a slave who gets me. Who I can enjoy and who will understand my interests.
There's more to pleasure than just my body. They need to pleasure my mind as well.

Thanks for the comments on this thread. Wow, I can't believe how much time has passed since I started this thread.

The online stuff can be passed of as somebody trying to cyber out a fantasy. I still remember when this offer happened, she live within a hour or so of me.   Was wanting to show up at my place in a few hours, even turning her car keys over to me and all. She was most interested if I was willing to take full and complete Ownership TPE of her ass the moment she showed up.

Now, I've had similar experiences twice in the real time, where somebody wanted to move in and start things up right away. It just blows my mind.   Normally, you hear stories about Doms/Master trying to rush things like this.

Anyways, it's not my style to move at this break neck speed. I want to get to know somebody and see how well we really click and all. There are other aspects besides sex and kink that I'm looking for.

There's a lot of mental aspects to BDSM for me, and well frankly without it I find things rather lacking. If I'm not feeling a connection, want and desire for somebody. It's a Dead End relationship before it even starts.   I just want to take things at a natural pace and not force it all within a moments notice.

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/15/2008 2:55:03 PM

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Exactly. There's more to it than just owning someone. You have to own a special someone. ;)

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/15/2008 4:57:21 PM

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I had some thing that happened online today, that has happened in the real time before.

That is when a submissive attempts to move at light speed by wanting to move in the same day you meet. I would have just called this an online fluke, however I've had it happen to me twice in the real time before. I've noticed each time it was with the slave oriented submissive type.

As for me, I'm always cautious about anybody quick to sign over their life within a day or hours after meeting. I have this "I want to get to know you policy" and it tends to somehow preturb these types.

I'm interested in hearing from Dom/mes if they have gone through this before?

I'm interested in hearing from "sub/slave types that like to move at Light Speed" as well, and reasoning why?

Also what anybody else has for feedback on these type of light speed of creatures.

LOL you do seem to have shown your patterns early :)

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/15/2008 6:26:39 PM

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I know...that's what was so scary....we had just met. Had a nice dinner and a nice walk/talk session in the park. When I said goodnight, she asked when I wanted her to move in...and she ....was...serious!

I just had a really weird thought... perhaps she thought she was interviewing for a position, like au pair, nanny, housekeeper... so after the interview, assuming she got the job, she'd move in in order to do it. Perhaps she saw her "slavery" as in the same ilk as those positions.

That said, it's still weird. Just maybe a bit more understandable if that's the case.

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/15/2008 6:43:38 PM

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I totally agree with this statement.......If someone is local though, i don't mind meeting face to face fairly soon....i want to look into the their eyes, hear their voice..and find out how much chemistry there might be real time. For me, it's almost a red flag if someone pushes to hard too fast....i wonder what issues they're hiding.

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In my quest to find the right Dominant man for me I have been quite picky. I want a match that will both content me and push my limits. At the same time I will not just jump into such a trusting position of D/s with just any person. I must know you, talk to you, share communication with you, learn your limits and you mine.

The very idea of just jumping into a sudden relationship, much less move right in and share a home and space and privacy - well really... if D doesn't want you to have privacy - then you have none. It would scare me shitless. Giving your will, your control, and your body vessel over to D MEANS something and should be thought about first. For myself. And I would expect my D to want to get to know me as well me know him before he commands me, controls me, lets me pleasure his every desire ...

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/16/2008 5:43:38 AM

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There are just as many doms who push for everything immediately. I don't think it's a sub vs dom thing, but that there are people out there desperate for a good relationship with no idea of how to create and keep one.

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/16/2008 6:22:43 AM

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Light speed was certainly the way we handled things. Things just seemed right and appropriate.

We talked briefly online and then soon after my ticket was bought with no return in particular in mind. It felt right and happy and good. My life was in a state of flux and I was able to make such a choice/decision. Was it stupid? Probably. Do I regret it? Only when I'm shoved in the cage and Taggard has a spray bottle in hand. LOL That last line was a joke.

I don't regret this decision that both (rather, the three of us) made. It wasn't forced on anyone and was a natural progression that just happened rapidly. If we had waited a month or a year, I think that I would have ended up here in the long run. :)

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RE: Sub light speed - 8/16/2008 8:46:50 AM

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I have.

She wanted to spend her life as a lazy, perpetual teenager.

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