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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 7:05:43 AM

onestandingstill

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Being it's spring I think the notion of a plant if she's a plant person would be an excellent idea.
Maybe some narcussus bulbs and a clay pot with gravel so she can grow a little pot of daffodil types of flowers on her kitchen counter would be nice.
This close to easter there should be a nice assortment of spring pots in your local grocery store floral section for under $10.
Hyacinth smells wonderful and if allergic to flowers she can leave it in her yard or on her deck depending on where she lives.
I always prefer a live plant to flowers that are withering in a few days.
Of course I'm a plant person.
Flowers are indeed an Old Fashioned sweet gift from someone I'm dating even though I prefer live plants. It still makes me feel special they'd go out of their way thinking of doing something nice for me.
Maybe something useful would be appreciated too like a spring umbrella, or a silk scarf.
It's a moderately priced gift that would show you were thoughtful as well.
Some think lotion to early is too personal a gift, but I think a nice scented lotion from a bath and body works or something would be nice as well.
Good luck to you & I hope you enjoy your date what ever you decide to take with you.
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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 7:34:08 AM

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I'll have to be one of those ladies who doesn't like to receive flowers.

I find cut flowers to be rather sad because I think they are dying.
*shudder*

I have three flowers gardens at my house, if I want flowers I step outside and spend quality time with them. My gardener and I designed the beds so that something is always growing or blooming from spring through fall.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 7:56:54 AM

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As one allergic to flowers and to most scents, i have taken gifts such as this in the way they were meant, but still had to later dispose of them. Flowers always seem that way to me.

Do you need to give a gift? I would think not, but a small token that would be a reminder of your first session together is kinda sweet, if that is the way it is meant. A figurine, inexpensive bracelet, small flogger or paddle, a magnet or card with a great saying on it. Even just a greeting card that says thanks and you are looking forward to getting to know her better.

It is the thought that counts and expensive gifts just say "i am trying to buy your attention" or i feel the need to.

just my opinion. good luck

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 9:18:04 AM

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Dear Tenire, Ladies and Gentlemen;

A gentleman who might be more familiar with the cuisine should make suggestions as to fit her dietary choice and restrictions. By saying what you are interested in, a lady can see the price. Then she can choose something same price or below. Then as a gentleman you order for both.

I use this etiquette to this day. It is the same as the etiquette of my parent's day. I remember my father saying how much he appreciated a lady he took out, not to exceed what he could afford. It was in the Depression and a treat at a diner was an expensive treat -- a luxury.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 9:20:49 AM

MsKatHouston

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quote:

I'll have to be one of those ladies who doesn't like to receive flowers.

I am another and for the same reasons. I would prefer a plant or something else. However, if I received flowers I would appreciate them for the kind gesture. Most people close to me, though, know I am not a fan of cut flowers.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 10:33:21 AM

thetammyjo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

quote:

I'll have to be one of those ladies who doesn't like to receive flowers.

I am another and for the same reasons. I would prefer a plant or something else. However, if I received flowers I would appreciate them for the kind gesture. Most people close to me, though, know I am not a fan of cut flowers.

I should hope that by the time I'm actually scening with someone they would know me well enough, wouldn't you?

I have vases for those cuts flowers and I always say "thank you" but I lost the ability to hide my feelings completely years ago so I'm sure they can tell the "thank you" is a bit weak.

This time of year, a box of Clariton would be a great gift for me -- bloody damned allergies.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 12:21:11 PM

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I would hope so too...

How about an economy size box of Puffs with aloe?

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/2/2007 4:15:52 PM

thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

I would hope so too...

How about an economy size box of Puffs with aloe?

That would help too though it's really my eyes that have bugged me the last two years. Never had itchy eye problems until last spring.

I do not like it.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 12:17:54 PM

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This might come off sounding bad, but I had the best intentions behind it and She seemed to appreciate it. Some time ago, like 7 or 8 years ago, i had a first date/meeting with a Domme. She told me during a few conversations prior to us meeting, that She loved strawberry milk, and She had also mentioned at some other point that she loved Doritos. So, when i picked her up, i had a bag of doritos, and one of those little disposable coolers filled with ice and strawberry milks. I more just wanted to make Her laugh, give a gift that was thoughtful, original and non-threatening, yet let her know i'd been really paying attention to our convos. She seemed to really like it. But writing it down, OMG does it sound silly, foritos and milk for the first gift! lol.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 12:53:07 PM

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I got a box of bendy straws from my sub once. I won't go into the story but it was a very appropriate gift. It made me laugh, it cost less than a dollar and showed me he was paying attention.

Key here is pay attention to her. :) Having a sense of humor is, to me at least, a great trait for a sub to have also.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 2:37:19 PM

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Flowers are always a winner... doesnt hve to be an expensive bunch.... I wld also appreciate a nice plant bt not all would agree I reckon.

Irish subs - in my experience are not good at this kind of token giving - mores the shame !

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 2:51:19 PM

SLAVEBOY32

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<gulp> may not live in Ireland, but i'm all irish.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 3:05:02 PM

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Hello willingservant,

Some Mistress's display a wish list, or gift list on Their website's. If your Mistress does not have a website, My advice would be to call Her and inform Her that you wish to present Her with a gift. Your Mistress will appreciate this a great deal, as She may have something in particular that She may need, or desire.

Quite a few of My slave's present Me with gifts, it is a wonderful gesture, and always appreciated

.

It is not the expense or cost of a gift that is valuable, but the gesture it is presented with!

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 3:11:47 PM

willingservant0

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Thanks E/everyone for the repsonses and advice! To answer some of the questions posted:

No, She didn't say anything about showing up empty handed, but i was so nervous i forgot to bring something anyway. Now i feel like a schmuck for not starting it off on the right foot.
W/we talk daily, so have an idea of Her likes and dislikes. W/we've met once in person to feel each other out at a resturant, talking over drinks.

There were several great ideas, like the IOU cards, that i didn't even think of.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 3:17:39 PM

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I'm with SweetDommes on this one. This is not a first meeting, and it's not a dinner out. They've already done that. This is their first play session. There is nothing untoward about a play gift for a play meeting.

I'd advice against flowers. Mostly because they are such a pat answer. They say nothing about the people involved other than 'I'm fulfilling my societal duty of giving/receiving a gift'. In a situation where a gift is -not- expected, flowers can be really sweet(for instance, on that first meeting). If she's hinted, or outright expressed(or commanded), that a gift would be good(or part of your duty as a sub), then I think a more personalized gift is a better plan. Something that let's you stand out in her mind.

Unless you are pretty certain she's easily impressed by money, and you -want- a strong and continuous financial element to your relationship, an expensive gift is a bad idea. Something personal would be best, relating to your conversations. Something that shows you've paid attention to her, that is specific to her interests(not necessarily kinky interests).

Something kinky could be good, if there is a personal touch, it has humor(that you are -sure- she'll appreciate), or is something that doesn't specifically require you in the picture(hedonistic bath stuff...can be used alone or with a pet).

Of course, if you haven't paid attention to anything about her aside from the fact that she's hot, and wants to tie you up and do bad things to you, than I'd recommend expensive kinky toys. And to be ready for a wild, though short, ride.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 3:20:43 PM

Celeste43

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Since it isn't a financial domination relationship I would suggest burning a cd of music she said she enjoyed, or something along the same lines as one of her favorite artists. A book relating to a topic you discussed would also be nice. And just because you forgot to bring it with you beforehand doesn't mean you can't send it afterwards with a handwritten note telling her how much you enjoyed being with her.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 4:00:05 PM

thetammyjo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SLAVEBOY32

This might come off sounding bad, but I had the best intentions behind it and She seemed to appreciate it. Some time ago, like 7 or 8 years ago, i had a first date/meeting with a Domme. She told me during a few conversations prior to us meeting, that She loved strawberry milk, and She had also mentioned at some other point that she loved Doritos. So, when i picked her up, i had a bag of doritos, and one of those little disposable coolers filled with ice and strawberry milks. I more just wanted to make Her laugh, give a gift that was thoughtful, original and non-threatening, yet let her know i'd been really paying attention to our convos. She seemed to really like it. But writing it down, OMG does it sound silly, foritos and milk for the first gift! lol.

It doesn't sound silly at all. It sounds like you paid attention to her and then put that information to good use.

That's the entire point I'm trying to make -- instead of being generic, get to know someone well enough and you won't need to ask about bunch of strangers what to get someone we don't know from Eve.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/3/2007 5:11:28 PM

openmindedslave

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To show your listening , had a situation where the dog was always barking .So I ended up giving a toy to the dog which really impressed her.

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/4/2007 12:19:19 AM

Samwhiplash

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So..... is that u telling me if u had the opportunity u wld blow my theory out of the water?

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RE: Gifts to bring to a first session - advice needed - 4/4/2007 1:09:05 AM

SLAVEBOY32

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Thankyou TammyJo

Samwhiplash, no, i more meant that i would be really on my toes the next time i gave a Domme a gift. However, since you bring it up, given the oppurtunity, hell yes i would try my damndest to blow that theory out of the water. I love to break a mold. Aside from that, any sub who doesn't dot every i and cross every t and basically do all they can to stand out among other subs isn't trying hard enough. Now, whether i would accomplish this is another story, lol, but i'd try my hardest.

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