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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 3:07:22 PM   
onestandingstill


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ORIGINAL: submarriner

A compliment is like a gift. You choose to give the gift to whom you feel is worthy. Some gifts are received in the manner they are given, and others are rejected because of the intent of which they are associated. You cannot control the acceptance of the gift, nor can you control the mind of the recipient; if a gift is rejected your offering is not lessened. If you believe the gift worth giving then cast your gift on whom you feel worthy. Let the reciever decide the importance of acceptance, but revel in the generosity of your heart and that you tried to make the world a better place. Be not saddened by the refusal, for not all gifts are appreciated for their worth at the time they are bestowed.  Many are like fine wines requiring time to mature to full appreciation.  

I think Gandhi said something along those lines.
How smart of you to apply that here.
Good job.

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 3:09:33 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		I get comments from people all of the time, usually from the message boards part of the site. Once someone contacted me because I happened to view her profile. I was just curious at the time about the person, but it immediately returned to me as a "I know you're interested in me, so it's time you take the next step" when in reality it was "cool name...wonder what the person is like."

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 3:14:11 PM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		I think writing to those that have viewed your profile isn't going to bring about much.
If they had thought you had eough in common they would have written you instead of reading and continuing by without a word.
Till you read a profile you don't know what the person has to say.
Often we go just to see who the photo we see is attached to or because they wrote something you'd read in the forums and were curious.
I think if I wrote to those that viewed my profile they would only write back to be polite. Again if they thought they wanted to speak with you they would have sent a note 9 out of 10 times.
Now someone who's shy that adds themselves to your admirers list, that's a different story.

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 3:16:44 PM   
MistressNoName


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Status: offline 		I wonder about these things myself, MsCece. I think, in my grumpier moments, that perhaps people have just not been raised with plain and simple manners and just don't know how to say, "thank you." I dunno. It's a curiosity.

MNN

edited to add: And it also happens that when one tries to offer some helpful comments and suggestions that one has to beware that one might gets ones head sliced off and served up on a platter. Maybe some people are just angry and can't take it out on on whoever is really pissing them off, so they take it out on unsuspecting anonymous profiles on the internet...

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 4:48:47 PM   
SlaveBlutarsky


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Status: offline 		Didn't you know that if a woman is nice to a guy that means they want him?

It was one of the cultural things that I had to get over going to school south of the Manson Nixon line. All these women were being extremely nice and friendly to me. Up north, the only explanation is they liked you. Down south, not so much, people are just more open and friendly down there.

Sadly, most guys never learn this lesson.

When a woman compliments me on my profile, I just thank her and wish her a ood evening or whatever. no need to force a conversation. Most have responded and startd conversations, but that's besides the point.

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 5:00:16 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
I get comments from people all of the time, usually from the message boards part of the site. Once someone contacted me because I happened to view her profile. I was just curious at the time about the person, but it immediately returned to me as a "I know you're interested in me, so it's time you take the next step" when in reality it was "cool name...wonder what the person is like."


I had something similar happen.  Out of curiousity, I veiwed the profile of a sub male in my area, mainly because I had not seen the name before and just wanted to know more about him.  I wasn't impressed with what I read and had no intention of contacting him, but he said something to the effect of, "I noticed you viewed my profile and am flattered that you're interested in me.  Give me a call at XXX-XXX-XXXX."  Like that was going to happen, LOL.
 
Lady Topaz 

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 5:53:18 PM   
justasubby


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Status: offline 		I have written to Dommes to compliment them on their profile or just to let them know that something in their profile has encouraged me to think that I may one day find what I am looking for.  I have made several friends this way and one can never tell what can come from networking with like minded people!

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 6:06:41 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I don't think looking at a profile inspires interest.  After all, One might click on a profile, immediately see that one is not compatable, and move on.  The question is, how would One know before They clicked?  The "Who's Viewing Me" option does allow Me to skip this to some degree.  As far as who's looked at My profile, I don't put a lot of stock into that.  If I receive email, I try to be pleasant and answer without making assumptions to one's intent.  I quite enjoy talking with people from the site.

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/2/2007 8:35:59 PM   
MzMia


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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

Didn't you know that if a woman is nice to a guy that means they want him?
Thats the way most men online feel, even if you say "hello" to someone in a chat room, they think you want him!!!

It was one of the cultural things that I had to get over going to school south of the Manson Nixon line. All these women were being extremely nice and friendly to me. Up north, the only explanation is they liked you. Down south, not so much, people are just more open and friendly down there.

Sadly, most guys never learn this lesson.
True statement!! THIS is the answer to the OP's question.
When a woman compliments me on my profile, I just thank her and wish her a ood evening or whatever. no need to force a conversation. Most have responded and startd conversations, but that's besides the point.



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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/3/2007 12:10:55 AM   
undergroundsea


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky
All these women were being extremely nice and friendly to me. Up north, the only explanation is they liked you. Down south, not so much, people are just more open and friendly down there.


I am trying to imagine what must happen when a guy from the South goes north.

Woman: (licking her lips) Hey Cowboy. You look damn fine on that horse. I bet you ride reaaaaally well.

Cowboy: (tipping his hat) Thank you, Maám. Top of the day to you! <making clicking sounds> Giddy up! What a friendly woman! Let's show her how we ride!

Cheers,

Sea


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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/3/2007 10:16:20 AM   
MistressNoName


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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/3/2007 11:20:06 AM   
MisPandora


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Status: offline 		Cece,

I gave up on doing that after one cyber-stalked me for a month.  They can have the most fantastic profile on the face of the earth.  Unless I'm specifically interested in them now, I can't be bothered with paying the compliment.  It's just not worth it.


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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/3/2007 11:23:17 AM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

I had something similar happen.  Out of curiousity, I veiwed the profile of a sub male in my area, mainly because I had not seen the name before and just wanted to know more about him.  I wasn't impressed with what I read and had no intention of contacting him, but he said something to the effect of, "I noticed you viewed my profile and am flattered that you're interested in me.  Give me a call at XXX-XXX-XXXX."  Like that was going to happen, LOL.
 
Lady Topaz 

Lots of that is going on with the "Who viewed me" area showing you who has accidentally stumbled on your profile, perved you from a chat room or liked/disliked what you had to say on the boards.

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 4/3/2007 2:47:47 PM   
SLAVEBOY32


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Status: offline 		     For whatever it is worth, i never contact someone just because they looked at my profile, i figure if they like what they saw they would leave a message. I do however wonder, why sometimes i get DOmmes looking at my profile more then once.
    Reading this pist got me thinking about people looking at profiles. I was on CM a couple years ago when my former Domme and i split up for a few months. I only had one pic to post, and it was me, right next to Her. In vanilla clothes and all, but right next to each other so that you could see all of her, and only see half my body. I scanned the pic and was able to cover over the majority of her which i was doing out of respect for her. You couldn't see Her face,  just the right side of her body, i was still obviously standing next to this long blonde haired woman, and got alot of comments that i must be cheating on someone because of the pic. About 2 weeks later, i get mail from a Domme who i had never met or talked to. She had somehow taken the time to edit my photo and remove my ex from it without messing me up in the photo. She did a great job! I have no idea how hard this was for her to do because i know very little about computers but i was still stunned that a perfect stranger, Domme no less took the time to help me without ever talking to me. She was considerably older then me, and while i was so thankful for her help. I must admit though, i was a bit cautious that possibly i had a stalker. Anyway, She turned out to be totally nice and just wanted to be friends.
   

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 1/28/2008 6:05:44 AM   
Seekingwittysub


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Status: offline 		Ah, but a gift should be well thought out, not just ordered up to satisfy an occassion. I appreciate a gift that has been chosen especially for me, and has relevance, it need not be expensive, but rather that thought went into it.

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 1/28/2008 7:07:29 AM   
undergroundsea


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Status: offline 		The other day I logged on to CollarMe and noticed this domme nearby was also logged on. I immediately realized it must be destiny at work! We were both on at the same time! What are the odds of that? Our paths were destined to cross. Anyway, as I was reflecting upon this beautiful moment of truth, she logged off. She must have been overwhelmed by the magnitude of the moment.

And then I logged on again and guess who appears shortly thereafter? Now I am concerned that she is stalking me. I mean being on at the same time twice? Coincidence? I don't think so. I am considering closing this account and starting a new one. That way I won't have to worry about her stalking me anymore.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 1/28/2008 1:58:10 PM   
PanthersMom


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Status: offline 		i just say to hell with it and look at whatever profiles i want and if i find something funny or interesting i'll write an email that says so.  if they don't want comments or a simple hello from someone who lives in their area, make the profile private.  or delete it. either way, nobody will bother to email them out of the blue again.  i will at least say thank you or whatever to an unsolicited compliment or question, what's so hard about that?

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 1/28/2008 2:43:05 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Hhmmm....

I've done the same thing and haven't gotten negative feedback.

Maybe it's their time of the month so to say? You just happened to hit it.

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 1/28/2008 3:58:47 PM   
rnox


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Status: offline 		I think the kind of men you are referring to are the kind men with think with there balls, instead with there brains. 

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RE: Can someone explain to me... - 1/28/2008 5:30:26 PM   
ShaktiSama


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Status: offline 		I compliment a profile from time to time.  It's an expression of interest/appreciation, so they can take it as "hitting on them" if they like, but any person sub-dom-or-switch who assumes that a message that says "nice picture" or "nice profile" is going to be followed up by aggressive prusuit behavior on my part is sadly mistaken.

Sometimes people like to tell themselves they're being pursued.  Sometimes they even enjoy the little ego rush of turning down suitors, male or female.  I don't take it personally any more when someone clutches at self-esteem at my expense; I'm not going to let it teach me any bad lessons.  You shouldn't restrain my impulses to be kind or affirming to others.  The world needs more positive energy in it, even if it's just a friendly smile and "nice profile"! 

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