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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 11:37:06 AM   
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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 11:48:32 AM   
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...The other, bigger, thing I've been wondering about recently is...I see a LOT of doms complain about subs who only want someone to support them (or something like that).  Yet, a lot of doms mention in their profile narrative that they are financially secure or that they are able to take care of their One.  What's up with that?


are the doms that are complaining the same ones that have the "financially secure" or "able to take care of another" profiles?
if so, then this slave would wager that their ability does not equate to their desire.
if not, then this slave would wager not all Doms desire the same things.

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 11:50:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

What does it mean when a woman is very bi-sexual?  I mean you either are or you are not, right? 


Not much to add...~grins~...I just like replying to your posts.  I am in the camp that it might just be a way for them to state that, not only are they bisexual, but that they "really" enjoy their bisexuality and/or that they are not all that concerned whether or not their partner is a woman or a man.  Of course, for some, it just might be a way...as another on here posted...of looking "cooler" than the next bisexual person.

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The other, bigger, thing I've been wondering about recently is...I see a LOT of doms complain about subs who only want someone to support them (or something like that).  Yet, a lot of doms mention in their profile narrative that they are financially secure or that they are able to take care of their One.  What's up with that?


Being financially secure is not the same as wanting to support someone else.  For some dominants, it is a way of erasing the...sometimes valid...worry that the submissive is entering into a relationship where she is not just contributing, she is doing the major financial support for a dominant who can't ever seem to find work.
For those dominants that state that they are able to support somone, they may be stating that to let a woman know that they are capable of doing so.
In either case, it does not mean that...as someone else noted...that they are looking to support someone who just wants to be supported and whose submission and companionship is, at some level, being bought and paid for.

I think the reason you see many dominants complain is because they have run across those submissives who are "unable" to work for some reason that is never clearly stated or they have met a submissive who lost their job...five years ago...and hasn't managed to find one since.  But...many of these submissives want to make sure that the dominant is working, has not experienced any setbacks, and most fantastic of all, he has no debts of any sort and wriggle room to add some.

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 11:55:17 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		You did, of course, notice that this is the first time I started a thread.  Go me!  Yes, of course, I understand those doms that are trying to erase a sub's worry about "financial balance".  However, in my opinion, putting something like that in one's profile tends to attract the very type you don't want to attract.  Does that make sense?

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 12:14:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Bandit, first of all, congrats on starting your first thread. But, heh, I would never talk about being financially secure or anything related to money. I want anyone messing with me to think I don't have a penny to my name for many reasons.

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 5:19:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

What does it mean when a woman is very bi-sexual?  I mean you either are or you are not, right? 


I have not read the rest of the thread, so this might just be a repeat...

I am not sure what women mean by the use of the term.  To me our sexuality lies on a continuum with heterosexual and homsexual being at opposite ends and bisexual in the middle.  Some people will prefer one sex exclusively, others will prefer one more than the other and then others will be attracted to either sex somewhat equally. 

For myself, I am on the part of the continuum that is closer to heteorsexual though I do enjoy sexual interaction with women.  In general, I am more attracted to men than women.  If a woman were to tell me that they were very bisexual, my first impression would be that they prefer women as much, if not more than men.

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 6:15:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

You did, of course, notice that this is the first time I started a thread.  Go me!  Yes, of course, I understand those doms that are trying to erase a sub's worry about "financial balance".  However, in my opinion, putting something like that in one's profile tends to attract the very type you don't want to attract.  Does that make sense?


Yes, I do agree with you.  Like ExSteel, it's one of many reasons my financial status is not listed in my profile.

And yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go you!!!

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 6:21:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		A funny point you never see someone say they are "Very Straight" but you see lots of "very bi".

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 6:22:09 PM   
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I never heard of this break down.  I always thought "bi curious" meant you were curious about being intimate with someone of the same sex, but never acted on it. 


That's what I thought too. I always called myself bicurious because I'd love to do it but never had a chance.


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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 6:24:27 PM   
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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 6:37:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bayboundse

A funny point you never see someone say they are "Very Straight" but you see lots of "very bi".


Hey, I’m a lesbian. I am just waiting to see a hetero-curious profile.

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 9:02:16 PM   
Kris2012


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Status: offline 		As far as the "very bi" thing goes... It could also be a difference in areas. ie; the difference between saying it in south florida, NY and San Fran. Depending on where you go and which community you're talking to it could mean a totally different thing. 

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 9:58:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

...The other, bigger, thing I've been wondering about recently is...I see a LOT of doms complain about subs who only want someone to support them (or something like that). Yet, a lot of doms mention in their profile narrative that they are financially secure or that they are able to take care of their One. What's up with that?


I missed this on my first reading. Do a lot of dominants really complain about this? I do not read a lot of dominants' profiles, so I guess I haven't done enough research to confirm or deny it. Personally, I don't have a problem with supporting my property. I am financially stable, but not wealthy, so I do not want someone who is obsessed with material things or expecting me to provide them with a life of luxury. But I view my role as similar to an old-fashioned husband. I see myself as head of the household and chief breadwinner. I have never looked for a partner who can supplement my income. I would be happy to own someone who can be a companion and plaything as well as keep my home tidy and have dinner on the table when I get home. Terribly old-fashioned of me, I suppose. It is not that I am ruling out anything else. I do not object to my slave having her own job or even a career. I just expect her primary job to be serving me.

Now that I've said this, do you think I will get a ton of emails from submissive women who are looking for a man to support them? LOL

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RE: Couple of things I've wondered about - 4/3/2007 10:41:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bayboundse
A funny point you never see someone say they are "Very Straight" but you see lots of "very bi".


I've told people that I am not bi- nor bi-curious. I've even said things to the effect that I am very straight, but I've never thought to add it to my profile. I'm not sure why I would need to.

Just my thoughts...

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