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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/19/2005 10:57:15 PM

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Emerald, Orgasim denial is a form of control. However most don't deny just control. And if someone is told DO NOT masterbate or touch with out permission that privaliage should be denied.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/20/2005 5:21:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Emerald, Orgasim denial is a form of control. However most don't deny just control. And if someone is told DO NOT masterbate or touch with out permission that privaliage should be denied.

I specifically stated in my previous post that I was not questioning a subs obedience to their doms rules, and fully understood that a subs body is the possession of the doms.

I simply don't really see the long term benefits in sexual denial.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/20/2005 9:41:53 PM

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Quite simply.........i am not allowed to pleasure myself without Master's permission. Very early on i did, and was punished for it, i have never done it again.
Have a look in Health & Safety, and look in the Sandpaper post, frightening what some people receive as punishment.
don't push your luck, and really, when i have to wait, its so much more intense and enjoyable.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/20/2005 10:27:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

I simply don't really see the long term benefits in sexual denial.

Me either. I assume someone does.. Maybe they could explain it to us?

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/20/2005 10:43:46 PM

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Seeing as I can go months and not care if I get sex at all that wouldn't be very effective in this case lol.

I can't comment about the long term benefits in sexual denial.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/20/2005 10:57:46 PM

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I tend to forget about it. I get caught up in life and stress and I forget about sex. This has the potential to drive partners crazy because sometimes I'll go weeks and not have an interest at all in any kind of sexual contact.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/21/2005 12:12:36 AM

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I'm the same way. Orgasms, while nice, aren't really that big a deal to me. I went four months without one once, (before my partner and I went full-time) because he told me he'd tell me when I could have one, and I took him at his word forever, instead of just for that night.

Partially because of the medicines I take, my sex drive goes on and off arbitrarially.

I -love- the controll of orgasm denile. That is, that I must ask. But leaving me without for a long time doesn't really do anything to me at all.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/21/2005 12:24:31 AM

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I just don't have much of any libido. It makes for very frusterating weekends with joe. he's always horny I am always not. if things take to long to progress I loose mood:))

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/21/2005 1:28:29 AM

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*ponders*

When I'm in a relationship with the hope of sex, I can last about 3 months before I go insane and have to have it.

If I'm not in a relationship, I can refrain from sexual stimulation .. well..I might could under the right circumstances hold out for 6 months (if I was extremely busy and 100% in female company 24/7) usually couple weeks maybe a month, even then after couple months I'm wanting some sex bad. My drive comes and goes, but I've never been described as having a low libido.

But if I was told "you can't".. I want to. And I'll want to bad until I'm told I can. I've never had to refrain from self-pleasure for any real long length of time so I don't know for certain, but I think I'd go crazy having to go months without anything. By crazy.. I mean think of nothing else all day and ponder if an "accidental orgasm" by "falling on the stripped-naked mailman" would be a big problem.

I'm not sure.. in my case.. what the benefit of it would really be.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/21/2005 5:21:58 AM

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Ahhh that makes sense then, if you're not wanting sex or find ig necessary to your balance overall, then being denied it doesn't adversly affect you and allows you to have that "leash pull" at the same time. Something like being told not to eat brussel sprouts when you don't really care either way about them.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/26/2005 8:56:11 PM

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The fact that you do somehting from which you have been specifically ordered to refrain is OUTRIGHT DISOBEDIENCE. Further, if you do not immediately inform your Master of the transgression then you are also a LIAR because as a slave your responsibility it to tell your Master EVERYTHING that concerns His slave.

Go to your Master. Tell Him what you have done and beg Him to correct your behavior. You can, probably, expect to be punished. However, to be quite honest, you need to be punished. After he has dealt with you, beg his forgiveness, and then don't do it again.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/26/2005 9:03:48 PM

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That seems quite harsh to me.
Do you even know this woman?

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 1:38:34 AM

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Why not try the stopping starting method that Feline Persuasion spoke of. I'd agree with that, also try breathing excercises. I'm a firm believer in deep breathes, controlling your breathing. Have you thought about Tantra for controlling your orgasms?

Just a thought

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 2:20:32 AM

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I'm a firm believer in deep breathes, controlling your breathing.

I agree. What I find works best for me is to have a phrase that I repeat to myself ten times if I feel the urge to do something that I shouldn't. I have used this to keep myself from drinking soda, but I have found that it works for many things. If you still feel the urge after saying your phrase ten times, say it ten more times, repeat this until you can control the urge. This is combined with the same kind of controlled breathing that Arwen suggested

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 2:42:23 AM

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OK... now let me try to be positive and I do not wish to offend you.

Firstly, she has in her profile the title submissive. You need to learn a little respect because it really isn't polite to just assume you can call her 'slave' when she isn't that to you. (Forgive me BBinOhio if I am making assumptions also here)

You have no rights whatsoever to speak to the OP in that way. Just because you have self imposed the label 'dominant' onto yourself, you are not 'dominant' to everyone, let alone pushing your ideals upon a woman who isn't yours, with such forcful intent.
In your profile, you seek an email slave slave. At the risk of sounding judgemental, what works for you on the net, is totally different to the realities of wiitwd.

BB requested advice and suggestions(read the OP), not orders. She doesn't have to submit to your words. It isn't up to you if she should be punished(actually its probably the opposite because she is learning HOW to do something, not shutting herself away from it).

oh... And your profile needs work.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 2:48:46 AM

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Try and find something alternative to do. I know it is difficult when in bed alone, trying to sleep, but maybe read a book or gain some insight from learning(well - you know me!) something.

Breath control and meditation I find is a really helpful tool, so I am with siamsa et al. But at the same time, I do understand that although they are mine, they do belong to Demon, and knowing that removes a great weight from my shoulders.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 5:40:18 AM

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I always love to see how the submissives/slaves rally to each other especially when Others fail to and one is obviously wronged. Though it is indeed rare to see an angel angered its always been for a good reason.

I would point out that the offending poster also chose to use thier very first post here in that way? heck of a way to make an introduction to a place they would appear to be new to.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 7:52:46 AM

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slave:

The fact that you do somehting from which you have been specifically ordered to refrain is OUTRIGHT DISOBEDIENCE. Further, if you do not immediately inform your Master of the transgression then you are also a LIAR because as a slave your responsibility it to tell your Master EVERYTHING that concerns His slave.

Go to your Master. Tell Him what you have done and beg Him to correct your behavior. You can, probably, expect to be punished. However, to be quite honest, you need to be punished. After he has dealt with you, beg his forgiveness, and then don't do it again.

Earth to Big Bad Domly Guy....Earth to Big Bad Domly Guy...

Get a grip for the love of God. I'm sure that because you capitalized and were nasty, she's going to run to her Master and tell him everything.

We are a fairly tight knit group here, and if you were trying to posture yourself in front of all the waify subs as a "True Dominant" you blew it. If this is how you really act in you contact with Real Life Subs, I would doubt highly you have many fawning about you, and you are probably a single guy wondering why all the 'bitches' aren't looking to you for your supreme guidance and Domliness.

BUT WAIT....After checking your profile, I see you are only looking for a sub for e-mail based domination. Yes, I can see how experienced and real you are now....my mistake. I'll write a 5000 word essay of apology and be sure to post it here for all the Doms to see what an insolent slut I am....

It's a power exchange, you might want to remember that.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 9:44:33 AM

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Have him make you stop. Tell him of your disobedience and do the penance. ppprrrrrrrrrr

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 11:25:33 AM

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First... what on earth is ppprrrrrrrrrr?... lol... I know 'acros' abound, but that is a new one on me...!

Indy... I am sure that all some people want or desire is to 'get the penance done' and thats that. But BB posted a valuble post, wanting to learn something. Some people find that learning about/how/why/what they do things for... is a great teaching process.
Some want to learn how they can become closer to what they want to become.
Not every sub wants or just expects disciplining just for the sake of it.
And, it certainly isn't up to a submissive to 'make her Dominant stop her'... that is His decision, not her, not mine, not yours, or anyone elses.

(Begs humble understanding from those I respect again)

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(lol... think its hormones?)