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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/27/2005 12:25:41 PM

onceburned

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Admiralj2002, it is fairly embarassing when you cop a foolish attitude on your very first post.
We have a low tolerance for BS here.

But you can make amends if you simply write more sensibly in the future.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 4/30/2005 12:27:29 AM

sweetslave97219

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I am not allowed to orgasm or I will be punished. If you believe your dominant is the most important person in your life and that your goal is to serve him and obey him, it is vey easy not to orgasm. I am only allowed to orgasm when it is directed by my protector .

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 5/1/2005 6:42:43 AM

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I am having difficulty stopping myself from masturbating and having orgasms when told not to, especially during ovulation. I am 33 and my sex drive is in overdrive.

Even though I know I'm not supposed to, I do it. The need to have an orgasm is overwhelming sometimes.

I would like some advice on how to control myself, when my Dom is unavailable to stop me. When I am with him or talking to him, I can do it. I always have the best of intentions, but find my good intentions out the window when I am aroused.

Advice? Suggestions?

I can only reply from a male perspective. With me if I cheat and ten seconds later she asks m to perform, I can't. With women I wonder why can't they fake it?

My first advice is a question. What do you need?

If a when the flesh is weak a gentle reminder is enough he something simple even rubber band on your wrist to remind you will do.

Otherwise you may want to look into chastity belts. I have no experience wih female belts.

Another thing to look into is hypnosis. Be warned, however, you can only be hypnotised to to something you really want to do. (You may want to, but you subconscious says you are not in control, since part of you wants to not be in control it doesn't ask many questions.)

Other than that, can I recommend Ben Gay.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 5/1/2005 1:17:30 PM

BruceVain

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Dear kitten,
Self control can be a problem, so try some unconventional methods and experiment. Anal play is a good way to get pleasure wthout directly affecting the clit. Remember, orgasm belong to you master, and he should be willing to deal them out if you're good. Always punish yourself a bit when you're too naughty, and you shouldn't have problems. I can help you with some strict program management if you wish for some control advice. Male dominant, always up for converation and training. Email at brucevain@hotmail or aim at TheTimCurry bot for advice and chat.

Your,
~Bruce~

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 5/14/2005 6:48:24 PM

BBWinOhio

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To all...

Thanks so much for your opinions.

I have realized that I am what I am. I am a very sexual submissive. Although I am not now attached, I know what I need is a dominant man who recognizes and appreciates that. A day, maybe two, is the most that I could go without.

I understand that orgasm denial/delay is a control issue and that it is valid, if used correctly. If, however, it is too harsh, it's unrealistic and is no longer valid as a means of control.

I just have to find someone who sees it in the same light I do.

Again... Thanks so much for all your opinions and advice.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 5/14/2005 8:04:33 PM

Rayne58

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I wish you luck in your search

I was lucky I found (or He found me!) a caring loving Master who wishes me to enjoy and explore my sexuality in all its forms. In His way of thinking a happy fulfilled sub is much more eager and willing to please

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 5/15/2005 6:21:28 AM

ggonknees

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Are you legally allowed to drive? What stops you from running over pedestrians?

You're an adult, you have self-control, it's your choice to use it or not. This isnt like a crack addition.

Great reply. Made me chuxckle for ages.
gg

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 5/16/2005 10:34:51 AM

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I agree that the process of stopping this starts in the mind. Your thoughts drive your whole body, mind, and actions. If you can change your thought process then you can change your behavior.

I agree also that if you have determined that your orgasms/pussy/whatever belong to your master, then that's the case and you should abide by that.

However...

I'm sure that even the most experienced dom's want to know what makes you tick and what turns you on. It is definitely, definitely possible to figure that out, but at least in my case, my dom likes to watch me touch myself so that in addition to me learning from him, he can learn from me. we talk a whole lot about things like this too. it's also his viewpoint that the more we can do things together like, him call me and speak to me and have me orgasm on the phone, the better this makes it when we are together and when we are in touch. he feels that the more sexed up I get the better, as long as it's him that is on my mind and my thoughts and etc., etc.

I agree that I don't see the long-term benefit of denying someone... Maybe it's just something that I don't get, and I certainly understand the control implications, but in the long term... I think that the more in touch I am with myself, then more in touch I am with my partner. I certainly know that my first orgasm ever came from touching myself and it was a very long time before I ever orgasmed from sex. However, me knowing how to please myself has only benefitted my dom and then he can watch that and take it further than I certainly ever could (with my limited imagination)...

as time goes on, I don't desire to masturbate as much because I know that is a pleasure he gives me because he wants to experience it with me and wants me to be in touch with myself, feeling sensual and sexy. ... and it is also him that allows me to do it. I agree with whoever said that some dom's think that control always means "no" ... in my case control has meant him saying "yes" to me doing that provided it's on his terms.

hope this makes sense... ....?

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 6/14/2005 4:08:41 PM

asissyforher

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well? there ARE chastity devices for both sexes........

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 6/14/2005 7:38:43 PM

biflover327

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Dear bbwinohio,

Your delema brings sweet memories from a slave I let go a year and a half ago due to a carreer reasignment who was also an intense cronic masturbator.
Most male and females dont realize how powerful these urges can be especially with an insatable, its not about being disrespectful to masters wishes, Its not about wasting masters cum on selfish self masturbation, an insatable has gallons of it, its not something that can be stopped with mind control or a chasterty belt, but rather a hormonal condition that must run its course that can take years, and there is nothing wrong with sweet cum!
I first noticed her condition soon after she came to live with me, she tried to hide it from me! Most men only care about fucking, few are schooled in the art of masturbating their womans cunt, a sensual art I pride myself with as I find it provides hours of sensual pleasure. I insisted that I must have free access to her tiny cunt at all times, at home no pantys, her cunt must be clean shaven every two days, no more selfish masturbating by herself, she must have a witness to her orgasm at home with her password being (i need a witness) with this, she was alowed to masturbate her cunt as many times as she liked, while cleaning, cooking, watching TV, plus I myself would spontainiously masturbate her cunt it was always ready to cum, she loved to masturbate and cum all over my face, at work she had to keep a ladies room masturbation log and show me when she got home, at parties she would have to ask my permission, or in the car, when she came in the door from work, especially if she was pissed off about work, even before she took her coat off, I would have her pantys around her ankles and masturbate her or bend her over a chair, throw her clothes over her head and rape her bare ass, fucking her to a screaming orgasm, its amazing the calming effect this has, once we took a trip in my sports car, she was so horny I made her kneel facing backwards between the two seats, dropped down to 4th gear forcing her cunt to take the 8" stick shift then red lined it for the next five miles with the stick shift vibrating like hell, she was screaming like a wounded animal as she soaked my stick shift with cum! before collapsing exhausted in her seat with a smile on her face. She was also bi and a bif friend of mine was back in town so i introduced them, they got along famouslly knowing they had the freedom to suck each other off and masturbate each other to orgasm before doing them both with each helping me, life was good! The point I am trying to make is by taking the time to meet her masturbation excess with more excess she slowly eased off to the point I was missing her erotic displeys myself, other than that she was one of the best subs I have had dispite her cronic masturbation needs that I found very errotic. so if you would like to contact me bbwinohio send me a PM.

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 6/15/2005 3:48:26 AM

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When i feel as though i am going to have trouble controlling myself, i lock my toys in the toy bag with a suitcase key lock and give the key to my Master (or friend if Master is not home). i only get the key back when i have myself under control again.

simple

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RE: How to stop masturbating/orgasming - 6/28/2005 6:22:15 AM

Hissweetshiv

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At 30+ years of age, if you have little enough self control that you "can't help" masturbating, there are larger problems than an evident lack of respect for your Dominant. Seek counselling. As for the icy hot someone mentioned, a less dangerous alternative is the juice from ginger root.

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