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Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 7:52:19 AM   
sireninchains


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Status: offline 		I wouldnt post this but its happened to me twice, and I want to know if Masters, or anyone really, but since most of the contact I have is with Doms and Masters its going here, find this acceptable.

I will be exchanging messages with someone, and we will get to the point where we exchange im names, and I use one of my im handles for alot of things (ive stopped giving out this handle, so dont lecture me on this one please). Anyway, twice people have googled it, and approached me with information from my previous forum posts and blog entries from YEARS ago? Is this appropriate to delve that deeply into someones life on a first chat even? I mean, they were things I would have divulged eventually, theres just no reason to get into the nitty gritty of my past when I'm just beginning to talk to someone.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 7:54:49 AM   
curiouslyseeking


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sireninchains

I wouldnt post this but its happened to me twice, and I want to know if Masters, or anyone really, but since most of the contact I have is with Doms and Masters its going here, find this acceptable.

I will be exchanging messages with someone, and we will get to the point where we exchange im names, and I use one of my im handles for alot of things (ive stopped giving out this handle, so dont lecture me on this one please). Anyway, twice people have googled it, and approached me with information from my previous forum posts and blog entries from YEARS ago? Is this appropriate to delve that deeply into someones life on a first chat even? I mean, they were things I would have divulged eventually, theres just no reason to get into the nitty gritty of my past when I'm just beginning to talk to someone.

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Public information is just that...public...
 
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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 8:00:10 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		they didn't invade your privacy, they sought and found public information, which is something they have every right to do. if you personally feel it's inappropriate, that's really your own issue.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 8:01:02 AM   
countrygirl69


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Status: offline 		If they can find it on google its not really private .and some people  just like to have all the information they can find

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 8:18:42 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I'm a stalker, I'd totally find out about someone I was interested in and want to talk about it if it was relevant.

If you don't like the stalker types, then once they bring it up, say that this isn't right for you and end it.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 8:59:07 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Heh. Ever googled your REAL name? How about your phone number? If google has that, it'll include a map to your house.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 9:08:31 AM   
Kinkypupper


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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 9:14:36 AM   
SirDominic


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Status: offline 		What she said. Nothing you put on the Internet is private. Nothing! Hope nobody who talks about this subject on the net plans on going into politics anytime soon!

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 9:25:31 AM   
MDJour


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Status: offline 		These are the cruel facts of life, once on the net, always on the net.
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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 9:30:19 AM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		When I have the free time, I am a complete and total stalker.  People should really just be flattered that I am interested enough to stalk them. If you don't like it, then stop talking to them and their motivation to stalk you will hopefully dwindle.  But everyone has the right to access public information.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 9:31:38 AM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		Actually, I've had people do this before...and sometimes I even google myself. It's interesting to see how my opinions and attitudes have morphed and grown over the years. I've never felt like it was an invasion of privacy...actually, I thought it was kind of flattering.
 
I'd have to second, third, and fourth what others have said, though...once it's on the net there's no privacy. The net doesn't even come with an illusion of privacy, so I'm not sure why you felt it was invasive.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 9:49:35 AM   
WilliamWizer


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Status: offline 		I don't understand. if he found it at google how can it be PRIVATE?
anything you can find at google is public (or google coundn't find it) so what's the problem if they search for it?

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 9:59:41 AM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		Well, we'd all like to think that everything you find on google is public domain, but sometimes private info does surface. But, it wasn't private info that the OP was referring to...it was posts on public message boards...which is why I am curious as to why she would expect privacy.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 10:41:45 AM   
WilliamWizer


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Status: offline 		well I may understand why because with my last slave I found myself at this same "problem"
she googled my name without telling me. I didn't like it when she told me what she had found.
but... after calming I found she was in her right of searching that information.
If I'm requesting her that she trust in me how can I keep secrets from her?

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 10:46:10 AM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		So, would you have asked her not to google your name if you had known before hand?

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 10:46:37 AM   
lookinforasDom


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Status: offline 		No, its not an nvasion of privacy becuase ppl have the right to know read what ever is posted via the net. So my advice to you is think before you write;the pen is mightier than the sword.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 10:55:26 AM   
WilliamWizer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

So, would you have asked her not to google your name if you had known before hand?


probably not. I would asked her why she wanted to do it and then I would had say it was a good idea.
but the question is not if she did or not. what I didn't like is that she did it without asking.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 11:01:18 AM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		I suppose I can wrap my mind around that.
 
I was just wondering, mostly, because I am an inherently nosey person. I would have googled you without a second thought.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 11:04:52 AM   
WilliamWizer


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Status: offline 		do it. I have nothing to hide.

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RE: Invasion of privacy - 4/12/2007 11:13:51 AM   
marieToo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sireninchains

I wouldnt post this but its happened to me twice, and I want to know if Masters, or anyone really, but since most of the contact I have is with Doms and Masters its going here, find this acceptable.

I will be exchanging messages with someone, and we will get to the point where we exchange im names, and I use one of my im handles for alot of things (ive stopped giving out this handle, so dont lecture me on this one please). Anyway, twice people have googled it, and approached me with information from my previous forum posts and blog entries from YEARS ago? Is this appropriate to delve that deeply into someones life on a first chat even? I mean, they were things I would have divulged eventually, theres just no reason to get into the nitty gritty of my past when I'm just beginning to talk to someone.

~Fly with Grace~
sireninchains



I dont think researching your posts, no matter how long ago they were written, constitutes an invasion of privacy.  Chat boards on the net are public stomping grounds as far as I know. 

To me, an invasion of my privacy would be someone going behind my back and trying to get my bank account numbers or medical history or breaking into my home and snooping through my bedroom.   These are some actions that I would consider invasion of privacy.

If someone interests me, I will seek out their posts too, but it's in an effort to understand the person because he/she intrigues me.

If I were you, I would not be concerned, but rather flattered that he is interested enough in you to want to know your opinions, thoughts, values etc. 

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