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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/12/2007 6:50:54 PM   
subjected2006


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being released..lol lol lol !!!!!

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/12/2007 7:41:05 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Deal breakers as in what would cause you to end  a Relationship after you  are already involved.

Matt's littleone


Valyraen cheating might do it. I don't know if I would be able to trust him again after that.

Physical abuse... a sudden inability to respect and love me as well as owning me... basically if he became a completely different man. Got to watch out for those brain-scrambling aliens!

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/12/2007 8:06:43 PM   
ownedgirlie


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He will own me from the grave, and he will not release me unless I give him reason to, which I won't.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/12/2007 9:49:26 PM   
Rose4Mistress


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Status: offline 		Anyone who kept some important piece of information back, like that they were married/in another relationship/had UMs that i was not aware existed...
anything that breaks the bonds of trust...i'd be gone

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/15/2007 11:10:07 AM   
atendersoul


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Status: offline 		deal breakers....
wanting your under dying love and devotion before meeting face to face, being dishonest about who and what they desire .....are a couple that comes to mind....
thinking that because you are a sub/slave that they want to save you....what is with that now?

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/15/2007 1:34:43 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: littleone35
What i would like to know what is a total deal breaker for you?(Besides lying about being married)
Matt's littleone

The deal breakers would be if He "broke the deal" we made when we entered into this M/s relationship.  We talked about all aspects of the relationship, what limits each of us felt we had, what we each were seeking - just everything two people should discuss before making such a commitment.  Once we felt absolutely everything that could be addressed at that point had been addressed, we felt comfortable proceeding.  There are two things we discussed that i absolutely consider "hard limits" and that i will never do.  (He knows what they are).  Master assured me that He has no interest in doing or having me do either of those things.  Should He ever change His mind and force the issue, that would be a deal breaker because we made a deal and by backing out of it, He would break it.  i know alot of people will think that's not a very "slavey" answer, but it's honest.  i could say, "oh nothing short of death would ever, ever, ever part us" and that would sound noble and cool, for sure.  But, i can think of something that would and that would be Him totally letting me down by forcing me to do something i was very upfront about NEVER doing.  He heard me out, He agreed to it, and i became His slave.  i'm very open-minded and willing to do virtually anything to please Him but those two things were non-negotiable then and they're non-negotiable now.  To change up now would mean He's not the Master i chose to serve in the beginning and THAT would be the deal breaker.  (BTW - on a happy note, Master and i have discussed this very thing and He assures me He has NO intention of changing His mind now) ..........slave luci

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/15/2007 1:53:31 PM   
velvetears


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Status: offline 		If he changed the playing field after the collar went around my neck  that would be a deal breaker.  Non consensual abuse, drug or alcohol abuse, passive agressive behavior, being inconsistent with expectations thereby making me feel "on edge" constantly - undermining me, no open communiation, lack of respect, expecting me to move, thinking he could eventually turn me into a slave by trying to get me to give up more and more limits and control over time.  Just a few i could think of :-)

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/15/2007 1:55:03 PM   
Stranger1


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Status: offline 		My ultimate deal breaker is serving hedonism over love.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/15/2007 5:40:07 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Breaking the trust we agreed on.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/15/2007 6:07:13 PM   
opensoul


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Status: offline 		 Trust would be the biggest with me! I have stated to my Master that trust is soo important to me. Open talking about everything and agreeing about hard limits and following through with promises of those hard limits that were set at the beginning. 

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/15/2007 9:43:58 PM   
Elorin


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Status: offline 		The biggest dealbreaker is repeated, intentional dishonesty.
This covers cheating.

Drug abuse would be a deal breaker for me. Recreational drug USE is a massive issue for me.

Any other circumstances I can think of are covered by the first listed.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/16/2007 9:30:41 AM   
cjenny


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

This is for all to answer. Now i know some things Masters/Doms do bother us(subs) a little sometimes.

What i would like to know what is a total deal breaker for you?(Besides lying about being married)

Matt's littleone


I've only one real 'deal breaker'. That would happen if my dominant no longer promoted growth & change within me but instead stifled and tried to emotionally cripple me.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/16/2007 4:20:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		A deal breaker for me would be emotional abuse.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/16/2007 4:25:34 PM   
littlesarbonn


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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/16/2007 5:27:50 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Discovering she's NOT really a Dark Lady of the Sith but in actuality one of Yoda's many submissive harem girls.


Damn Yoda's little confounding wretches.

Still, they're pretty easy to recognize.. just watch out for, "Love you, I do."

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/19/2007 9:42:14 PM   
taiyoko


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Status: offline 		Pretty much everything I've seen thus far would be considered a deal breaker to me, but I have one that I'd have to add given my personal feelings on the subject:

Children.

They fall into my category of DO NOT WANT, so if a Dom got into a relationship with me, then started talking about the beautiful babies we would have together, or how beautiful I would look pregnant.....I am out that door so fast heads will spin. I accept some people want them, I don't, and if a Dom can't understand that, or tries to continue, playing along because he knows "I'll change my mind", then he's no Dom of mine.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/20/2007 9:36:39 PM   
servilecat


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Status: offline 		Lying, smoking, unconsensual physical abuse or emotional abuse and lack of self respect for starters...

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/20/2007 10:17:43 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		Finding out a Dom has multiple partners and expects sex from all of them would be a definite deal breaker as I don't engage in sex without a monogamous relationship.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 4/20/2007 10:41:06 PM   
simplyangelic1


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Status: offline 		Lying or intentionally breaking my spirit and making me feel worthless as a person, woman and a submissive.

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