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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007

Ever heard the saying "Your either scared or stupid." Someone who actually has no fear, i believe is really ignorant. Or the just dont give a shit about anything.

For me:
I fear taking something to far. I am pushy by nature.  I push limits, I push past limits, and im pretty good at it so far. But what if.....just what if  i misjudge and push to far? Sure you can write this off with safewords.  But i dont use safewords, because they are either over or under used and in my current situation i think they would be underused at fear of failing me.

Or for instance say with suffocation, i take it to far and  dont let her breath soon enough....bad things can happen then. But if you dont take it far enough it loses its effect.

I think when you  push a sub to the edge with kinks and you  hit that thin line between not enough and to much i think you always  have the fear in the back of your mind that you may go to far over that line instead of the utopia of riding it. And while safewords  are suppose to be a safety to keep you from going over that line, they are flawed. They depend to much on someone  muttering them that is worried about disappointing and often so far in subspace... you have to wonder if they are still in touch with reality at all.

This is were self confidence plays a large role.. can you take her to that edge without sending her to the hospital?

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ORIGINAL: Xeandra

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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007

Ever heard the saying "Your either scared or stupid." Someone who actually has no fear, i believe is really ignorant. Or the just dont give a shit about anything.

For me:
I fear taking something to far. I am pushy by nature.  I push limits, I push past limits, and im pretty good at it so far. But what if.....just what if  i misjudge and push to far? Sure you can write this off with safewords.  But i dont use safewords, because they are either over or under used and in my current situation i think they would be underused at fear of failing me.

Or for instance say with suffocation, i take it to far and  dont let her breath soon enough....bad things can happen then. But if you dont take it far enough it loses its effect.

I think when you  push a sub to the edge with kinks and you  hit that thin line between not enough and to much i think you always  have the fear in the back of your mind that you may go to far over that line instead of the utopia of riding it. And while safewords  are suppose to be a safety to keep you from going over that line, they are flawed. They depend to much on someone  muttering them that is worried about disappointing and often so far in subspace... you have to wonder if they are still in touch with reality at all.

This is were self confidence plays a large role.. can you take her to that edge without sending her to the hospital?

I know where your going with this becasue the balancing act is hard in my situation. I was traning a male slave to be multi orgasmic and he went overborad lost his job because he got sucked into the desire to cum comstantly. He is back on track  but for that short period thats all he was and, it worrys me that something like that could occor again he was not mine so I was hard to tell him the correct when and where. Although  it was my fault because Iwasnt clear enough im my direction so there you have it another fear.

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ORIGINAL: jauntyone 
being released or Master dying is truly the only fear I have
 melissa

Those are the two greatest fears i have as well but they aren't the only ones.  i am claustrophobic so there are certain activities that can cause me to panic just thinking about them (mummification, etc).  And, i have to admit that , until fairly recently, i was pretty afraid of not "measuring up" to Master's former subs.  Master is the only dominant i have ever been in a relationship with and i had quite a time overcoming the hang-ups i had about comparing/competing in my own mind.  Knowing this proclivity of mine, Master has always been very careful not to go into great detail about former relationships.  The insecurities i had were not due to that.  And, though i had asked not to know about them, not knowing led me to make up my own stories, so to speak, and feel i was falling short of their service to Him.  When i would express such concerns, Master would openly and honestly discuss my feelings and fears with me and assure me there's no need for comparisons.  It took many months before i was finally comfortable with the knowledge that i am the slave He wants, my service to Him is as He desires, and that i am not in some competition with the ghosts of subbies past .  So...what WAS one of my greatest fears now is not.......ah, progress  ......slave luci

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ORIGINAL: Xeandra
So again anyone else have a fear in relation to this *lifestyle?

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ORIGINAL: selfbnd411

It's a whole lot easier to take precautions against causing physical damage than it is emotional.  You can install a second set of eye hooks or learn how to tie a good knot, but how do you know when you're pushing a sub too far?  Or from a sub's perspective, how do you know when things are in danger of crossing an emotional line?  At least when the pain is physical, there are signs that the Top can use to tell if things are going too far.  Probably the scariest moment I've ever had in a scene was when a Domme was pushing my emotions really far.  I thought I should just take it, but in a second I went from being in subspace to feeling like I was in freefall.  She was just learning, as I am, but I stayed away from bondage for a whole year after that.

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So again anyone else have a fear in relation to this *lifestyle?

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ORIGINAL: Suleiman

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ORIGINAL: Xeandra
So again anyone else have a fear in relation to this *lifestyle?

Indiscriminate sexual intercourse and the transmission of STDs.

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Being discovered as a fake Dom.