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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/16/2007 4:26:03 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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Status: offline 		Biggest Fears are...
  • Getting burned by somebody I've fallen in love it.  Emotional pain aspects.
  • Doing a few risky activities such as Breath Play, where this is a chance of causing somebody great harm. 



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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/16/2007 4:54:11 PM   
calicowgirl


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Status: offline 		I am pretty new to the lifestyle so yes, there are many things I fear because they are unknown to me, both physical actions and not.

My biggest fear however, is that I will lose myself somewhere along the way.

cali

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/16/2007 5:45:16 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		The only thing that comes to mind is needles, hooks... just about anything that is used to pierce the skin.

There are other things that I do not react well to like bondage or being restrained but I get some peverse enjoyment out of them anyway and I don't fear them.

However, he has a very creative, sadistic mind so I know without a shadow of a doubt that he can come up with other things that would scare the hell out of me.

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/16/2007 6:26:08 PM   
MasterGremlin


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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: MasterGremlin

They would have to bury me with Him kneeling at His feet.


I don't think they're allowed to do that anymore, unfortunately.




Well, shit!  then my only other option is to die first.

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/17/2007 12:29:51 AM   
Aswad


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ORIGINAL: MasterGremlin

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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: MasterGremlin

They would have to bury me with Him kneeling at His feet.


I don't think they're allowed to do that anymore, unfortunately.




Well, shit!  then my only other option is to die first.


That's doable.

Don't know what burial options you have in the USA, but over here in Norway, we are not allowed to do anything special with regards to burials, pretty much. You get to choose between burial and cremation, as well as where to be buried, and whether family gets buried next to you or not.

The mortuary might consider it odd, but it might be doable to be buried in a symbolic way (e.g. kneeling, wearing a leash and collar, same coffin, whatnot).


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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/17/2007 4:11:29 AM   
CuriousLord


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ORIGINAL: Xeandra
So again anyone else have a fear in relation to this *lifestyle?


A slave's parents calling 'n being upset.  (However, parents that have found out have been surpisingly non-aggressive towards the fellow who handcuffs their daughter to the bed.  I think they're often more in shock at their daughter.)

Like me, most of my slaves attend college.  Also like me, they still have strong ties to home, considering it either their year-'round home or their non-acedemic-time home.  Some are terrified of being found out, and some of these have been scared of losing college funds.  While many of these fears are overdone, it's a valid point.

..you know, I just had an emphinany.. I think my older cusin, who came out about being a lesbian five or so years back, is also a Domme.. that would explain so much..
(Not that she could ever tell the family.  I think I might just bring it up with her, if she'd ever talk.  Her and I typically get along well since we're quiet and not prone to judgemental behavior.)
Okay.  Last I heard, she's managing six banks and going to graduate school.  Karana help me find some time in her schedule, particularly if she is also acting as a Domme.  =/

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/17/2007 5:26:38 AM   
sillygirl09


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Status: offline 		Breath play really scares me -

I'm scared of having my heart broken but I would be scared of that in any relationship.

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/17/2007 6:09:07 AM   
Aubre


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Status: offline 		In play, anything that would cause permanent damage or worse.

I think a lot of Dom/Dommes/Tops would like to bottom at some point but are afraid to trust anyone to top them.

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/17/2007 6:39:10 AM   
DommeChains


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Status: offline 		Indulging my sadistic urges totally.  I first discovered the inflicting pain=sexual satisfaction for me during an actual physical confrontation.  I initially chalked up the charge to the surge of adrenaline.  As that passed I realized I was sexually excited.  Ever since then I have to keep a tight leash on that inner demon.  So far, so good.  But that temptation to throw away all restraint is always in the back of my mind in a scene.

Yes, I am upfront with any potential play partner or sub about my nature.  They have a right to know who I am before they let me touch them.  I also have other precautions I put into place such as not playing with someone I don't have some degree of an emotional bond with since I find it near impossible to inflict severe pain on anyone who owns a piece of my heart.

Yet, in the back of my mind that oh so seductive demon whispers to me every time I pick up a flogger, go to do rough play or handle a knife. 


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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/19/2007 12:57:20 PM   
hotnight1


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Status: offline 		 some one in my family unexpectedly happening upon my profile one day....tho i'd have plenty of questions to ask them

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/19/2007 1:02:22 PM   
PrincessEllie


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ORIGINAL: Faramir
Of course--being emotionally vulerable, loving and being loved.  Scariest thing in the world, because being gutted, having your heart torn out, hurts like nothing else in the world.

Oh, I absolutely second that opinion. I've had my heart ripped out by one of my first boyfriends who was also a Dom, though at the time neither of us knew each other's persuasions, and I learner nothing in the world could hurt more than being abandoned.

I'm also petrified of Poly. I guess this is an offshoot of the fear I have left over from previously mentioned guy, but I couldn't ever imagine being shared or sharing my Dom. It would make me feel like I alone wasn't good enough for him. Essentially, it would send me into a downward spiral.


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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/19/2007 2:40:06 PM   
daddysliloneds


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ORIGINAL: Xeandra

Reason im asking is im a switch but...Domm most of the time. I can deal out pain but if im subbie it really scares the hell out of me. Like quivering in fear wanting to or actually crying my eyes out. I cannot stand anything to do with it besdies a little spank during intercourse or a bite during cannot be in between must be during.

So again anyone else have a fear in relation to this *lifestyle?



i'm a very visual person, yet seeing myself be beaten, fucked, watching the crop or cane come at me, or whatever scare the living shit out of me; just as i seem to be afraid of watching anyone else play/scene/what-ever-you-want-to-call-it. even though i know how good it feels, etc., i can't help but not want to ever participate in any of those activities again if i'm forced to watch them. how's that for strange?

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/19/2007 8:16:40 PM   
tempest1961


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I'm afraid that something will happen to my packmate that I can NOT protect her from, that I can NOT heal her from, that I can NOT care for her... The Deal and the Promise...

Well, that and fire-play. Burnt fur smells icky...

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RE: Is there anything in *the lifestyle* that you have ... - 4/19/2007 9:25:47 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Emotional damage..the 2 things that spring to mind that would cause such would be if he degraded me ( of course all have their own definitions of this, as do I)..secondly if he wished the dynamic to be Poly or to even introduce a third for play...These 2 things would create within me an instant withdrawal from him and our relationship.....Tempting

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