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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 11:09:50 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		being both a bookworm and totally anti-social, i had no prior knowledge of such things, but my Master has informed me that bringing a book to a social gathering would be the height of rudeness. and since in the past i often used reading as an escape in social situations, an excuse to be excluded, i sort of see his point on that one. we went to a dinner/collaring ceremony a few weeks ago, and the host slave (the only other female there) and i spent most of the time the Masters left us alone together staring at each other's feet. it was riveting.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 11:16:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL understood, it would be rude to just pop it out and start going.

But bringing one, knowing you had to wait until it was clear there was no useful conversation coming, and asking the other person/people if they minded I'd find ok.

But this isn't my call to make.  Perhaps a stitching project?  One can certainly talk and keep busy and social at the same time as this.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 11:29:11 AM   
daddysprop247


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LOL understood, it would be rude to just pop it out and start going.

But bringing one, knowing you had to wait until it was clear there was no useful conversation coming, and asking the other person/people if they minded I'd find ok.

But this isn't my call to make.  Perhaps a stitching project?  One can certainly talk and keep busy and social at the same time as this.



wow LA....that is actually a really good idea! some crochet or needlepoint would be productive, give me something to do and think about so i wouldn't feel as nervous or awkward, and would still allow for conversation without making it a necessity. i will definitely ask Daddy about it...thanks chickadee.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 2:22:55 PM   
WillowRain


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Status: offline 		In my experience, and this is the deep south. Very polite and respectful, probably a bit more formal than in vanilla situations.Good manners are appriciated, and in many ways a necesity if you wish to remain within the building.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 3:27:43 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		The times I've been in a roomfull of doms it seems like they resemble roosters.  All trying to get attention, one-upping each other.

That's not my style, so I tend to shrink back, standing out by being the only one not trying to stand out.

Works.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 4:59:32 PM   
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The times I've been in a roomfull of doms it seems like they resemble roosters.  All trying to get attention, one-upping each other.

That's not my style, so I tend to shrink back, standing out by being the only one not trying to stand out.

Works.

Jeff

I get that experience more when I'm with a crowd of geeks/nerds.  I get really tired of each of them trying to come up with the most witty pun or obscure fact.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 5:02:11 PM   
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i've never had the chance to go a club or such, so i wonder; what happens when you get that many alpha-types together. i've seen it in just an every-day setting, and one of two things will happens. there will be an instant respect of this is mine, that is your's and the two are quickly befriended /or/ a silver-back-gorillia vibe fills the air and the two will be in a power play for eternity.  just wondering-   Phoenix


Depends hugely but a lot of bad jokes, sometimes talk about political stuff, and then showing off toys (at least for male doms).  What depends tho is that self-identifying as a dominant doesn't mean that in a pack of self-identified dominants they will be the most dominant in that pack.  Hell a submissive may be the most dominant one in the pack.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 5:02:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		hi phoenixinchains,
although I see a lot of people have had the experience that a room full of Doms doesn't get along, I've always had the opposite experience. The places I've been to the Doms were very warm and respectful, not acting out or trying to do anything besides make sure the subs were safe and watched over. Maybe I've just been extremely lucky... or maybe I'm wearing rose-colored glasses? ~chuckle~

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/17/2007 5:15:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have no idea. I've never remained in a room full of dominae long enough to observe the behaviors. I wander off and look for the room full of subs. Lots more fun to be had there.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 1:58:33 AM   
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daddysprop247
i hear ya. i'm the very quiet type myself, and generally don't have any desire to chat it up, especially with some chick i just met or barely know, and have nothing in common with beyond the fact that we are both slaves with vaginas. at the same time tho, being left alone in a room with these other slaves with dead silence all around isn't comfortable either. but eh what can ya do? i just chalk it up to me having zero social skills.


LOL been there- done that
I know what you mean. I am very quiet also- I am positively no good with coming up with casual talk-my mind just goes blank.
I am most happy/comfortable  and throughly enjoy my time at clubs/parties when I am focusing/serveing to the needs of my Dom. I know what they want and when - they never have to ask. Or if they are going to Top some one- I am fasinated with watching them.
The sitting around with subs Chit chat is not for me

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 4:43:07 AM   
ShogunSensei


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Status: offline 		As others have said, it all depends on the group and the individuals involved.  I have been involved in conversations where there was a lot of bragging going on. 

Generally, I have found that the more respectful and thoughtful dominants (and submissives) remain quieter and haven't the need to pound their own chests. 

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 4:57:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains

i've never had the chance to go a club or such, so i wonder; what happens when you get that many alpha-types together. i've seen it in just an every-day setting, and one of two things will happens. there will be an instant respect of this is mine, that is your's and the two are quickly befriended /or/ a silver-back-gorillia vibe fills the air and the two will be in a power play for eternity.  just wondering-   Phoenix


Good morning Phoenix,
I find this thread very cute. I have been in a lot of situations where Dom personalities abound.
And for the most part, most are civil, polite and show-offish(word).
I go to parties and where the theme is bdsm, and dungeons. So if you ever get a chance to go to them,GO, they are very , very fun.
Doms at their finest...(not)
At least the outfits are usally wild. BTW subs and slaves are usally on their best behaviour at these functions, dont know why.
Miss Trish
  

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 5:04:46 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		In the few times I have been in a group of mainly Dominants, I have always had friends there already. IT had been a large group of interconnected people, so aside from the fun bragging about our pets and how our training was going, it was fairy non-confrontational.  However, one incident I remember, one quieter Domme friend of mine was with us, and she had way more energy than the rest of us, becaue she had not wrked that day and al of us had (there were 6 of us that evening).  A male Dom we were aquainted with but didnt really know saw us sitting in our group and decided to join us. She had gone to collect our drinks, and he started giving her commands as if she were a sub shen she returned.  The assumpitons that ina  group, Dommes all have to act a certain way and getting a drink for a friend implies you are a sub, are what we dont like. He knew it was our girls night out, he just asssumed. He didnt like the backlash whe he was told she was a Domme, and he laughed and made a crack about her obviously being a switc if she served her friends. He never did join us again, we are far sharper tongued then he is, especially defending a friend.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 7:28:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
wow LA....that is actually a really good idea! some crochet or needlepoint would be productive, give me something to do and think about so i wouldn't feel as nervous or awkward, and would still allow for conversation without making it a necessity. i will definitely ask Daddy about it...thanks chickadee.

You're too kind chica.  I hope it's a good outlet.  I know as a kid being partially hard of hearing and stick around boring stuffy adults all day, OR stuck in school where I was either bored out of my mind, teased horrendously or just shunned, I'd always retreat into a book.  I always swore as an adult I'd NEVER find myself in those situations again.

Sigh, sadly I've found that adult life requires more than a few compromises in the being bored around other people department, but I've learned to limit it as much as possible.  As a slave it can be even more frustrating.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 8:16:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247


slave 1: this dip is wonderful
slave 2: oh thanks, it's my mother's recipe
slave 1: oh well it's very tasty
slave 2: *smiles*
slave 1: *smiles...looks at floor*
(crickets chirp for the next hour while we each wait for some Master to give us an order)





Okay, daddysprop247........"the crickets chirp" is still giving me the giggles!

It has been a few years since I have experienced any type of "formal" gathering, as I have reached an age where I prefer a close knit group of friends, but I do know that certain behaviors were expected within the interaction between all parties. Things may have changed a bit. I never witnessed any rude or argumentative behavior, except for the usual friendly debating on various issues.  For the most part, there was respect for each other, and most gravitated towards those they knew or had some other form of connection with.

However, we had a large house and pool and would have parties and barbeques.  In this atmosphere it was much more relaxed, much like a vanilla function, until the fun began, of course.  Especially our annual Christmas Eve get together.  Santa always left a switch after those nights!

As someone who could never be a  "slave" as I understand the definition, I have been lucky enough to end up in relationships with Doms who take pride in and value a submissive who can intelligently contribute to a discussion and displays social graces.  Although I would always be respectful and be aware of the atmosphere within the group and behave accordingly, I would never agree to be relegated to the corner in silence on a consistent basis.  I am always upfront with this. I need the intellectual stimuli.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 8:35:58 AM   
daddysprop247


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LOL been there- done that
I know what you mean. I am very quiet also- I am positively no good with coming up with casual talk-my mind just goes blank.
I am most happy/comfortable  and throughly enjoy my time at clubs/parties when I am focusing/serveing to the needs of my Dom. I know what they want and when - they never have to ask. Or if they are going to Top some one- I am fasinated with watching them.
The sitting around with subs Chit chat is not for me


ditto. i am much much more comfortable in situations where i'm expected to serve my Master and the other Dominants in attendance, as opposed to just sitting on the floor feeling bored and awkward with other slaves. it's frustrating tho because i honestly would like being able to talk or even socialize with another female slave, but not just ANY slave ya know? plus i'm not the type to make friends in situations like that, it's just too unnatural and weird for me. too bad the subs and slaves i post with everyday on the boards can't be the same ones at these functions, lol.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 8:44:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
slave 1: this dip is wonderful
slave 2: oh thanks, it's my mother's recipe
slave 1: oh well it's very tasty
slave 2: *smiles*
slave 1: *smiles...looks at floor*
(crickets chirp for the next hour while we each wait for some Master to give us an order)




LOL Okay this was cute (but hardly for you since you're living it and I'm just reading it).  I'd happily chat it up with you though :)  And not just about dip and stuff, lol.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 9:41:37 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
slave 1: this dip is wonderful
slave 2: oh thanks, it's my mother's recipe
slave 1: oh well it's very tasty
slave 2: *smiles*
slave 1: *smiles...looks at floor*
(crickets chirp for the next hour while we each wait for some Master to give us an order)




LOL Okay this was cute (but hardly for you since you're living it and I'm just reading it).  I'd happily chat it up with you though :)  And not just about dip and stuff, lol.


There's always discussions of the proper way to iron and fold the masters socks and undies. 

How to find, refinish and properly set a lovely round dinner table so there is no question of which domly dom sits at the head of the table.

Exchange of recipes for the uncooked rice you had to kneel on the day before.

And of course, how to get out that pesky ring around the collar from your collar.

 

Edited to add:  Oh wait, that's a discussion with Martha Stewart.  Nevermind.

< Message edited by BRNaughtyAngel -- 4/18/2007 9:48:38 AM >

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 9:44:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		One rarely sees any sort of issues at parties.  Gossip and backstabbing stuff perhaps but no real chest thumping.  Also, the scene self selects for people who can at least get along with others.  There are many who come into the scene and leave, some because they can't get along, some because they find no one worth getting along with, subtle but very distinct difference.

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RE: so what happens in a room full of doms? - 4/18/2007 10:13:37 AM   
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There are many who come into the scene and leave, some because they can't get along, some because they find no one worth getting along with, subtle but very distinct difference.

Have you been following me around?

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