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Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:41:04 AM   
OedipusRexIt


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Status: offline 		What is the importance of intellect to you in selecting a partner?  Some, all or none...?

What are the things you look for online that exemplify intellect?  If you previously answered "none", no need to post further.  Go back and look at more pictures.

I'd be particularly interested in skipping past those posts which are excessively long, include numerous quotes or, god help us all, links...

but if you have an original thought, feeling or opinion, why not share it as if we were all listening?  No need to write an epic, summarize for us, please.

and so, another good conversational topic is thrown to the wolves.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:45:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		This is what I know. I can only stare at her tits for so long before she's going to have to say something. If she can't hold my interest beyond that point I don't have the energy to pretend.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:49:23 AM   
Casie


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  What is the importance of intellect to you in selecting a partner?  Some, all or none...?

Intellect is very imortant to me. I enjoy pondering, learning, and intelligent conversation. If someone can not offer those things to me I have no interest.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:50:05 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Intellect is in my top three of must have's.

Like Ron White say's "you can't fix stupid"


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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:50:50 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Not only intellect, but education is highly important to me as well (ie degrees count), as well as intellect and understanding in at least some of the same key areas that I have.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:51:14 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Like everybody else I believe that someone who agrees with me must be more intelligent. There's a quote to that effect by Mark Twain but I can't remember it.

If online you mean fora, coherence is essential. If I have to puzzle it out, I'm likely not to bother. The only times I will is if I know the poster has a learning disorder that causes difficulties with writing. Otherwise I write them off.

Email, coherence again and must be able to keep on topic. If their thoughts wander in a medium that encourages proofreading and editing then I have to assume they don't think logically. And I prefer logic minded people to artistic ones. But that's a preference and I know there are plenty of artistic types who are also intelligent, I just am not drawn to them.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:51:22 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		Without intellectual stimulation and endevours a BDSM relationship would be empty and pointless to me.
I think my approach in my furture choices of a mate would be 60% the intellectual meeting of the mind.30% an emotional peiont of view and about 10% physical for me over all.
suzanne

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:56:25 AM   
BondageTopJere


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Status: offline 		Intellect in of itself is hugely important, although the raw amount of knowledge a person knows is not as much.  I'd take a sub who was extremely bright but didn't know much over a less intutive mind full of useless info any day of the week.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 10:57:29 AM   
Donnalee


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Status: offline 		Intelligence and the ability to communicate are very important to me.....if the person can't engage my mind, the biggest part of sex is lost.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:03:48 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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Status: offline 		i am hoping education level isnt a prerequist for a slave....LOL i'd be in pretty bad shape if it were. i have raised a family <all 3 of my kids are grown now and i even have grandkids> i have successfully run a household for 23 years now and i feel like that has been no small feat. while i am not a "book smart"<have a 10th grade education> woman i feel like i do have my strong suites. i truely enjoy a good stimulating conversation and the occasional "debate" as well.... 

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:03:49 AM   
gypsygrl


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Status: offline 		If they can make me think differently about something, or inspire me to think about something I haven't thought about before, I'm probably gonna wanna talk to them.  If they encourage me to be more careful in my explanations and descriptions, or more systematic in my approach, I'm probably gonna wanna to talk to them.  If they seem to understand what I say, I'm probably gonna wanna keep talking to them.

If they wanna keep talking to me, all the better.








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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:07:05 AM   
szobras


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Status: offline 		In short, I prefer someone that can hold mature and thought through conversation.Someone that has the intellect to realize that we all learn from each other, and more knowledge in different areas does not equate to one being "smarter than the other."
What exemplifies this here for me? The manner in which one expresses themself, respectful posts and responses.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:08:30 AM   
Stranger1


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Status: offline 		I generally have no interest in someone who cannot think and express themselves choherently.

Poor writing, poor thinking, easily distracted-flakey-no. Details matter.

Sex happens about 1% of the time you are with someone-I'd prefer the other 99% to be quality.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:10:29 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		Intellect is a very big part. Probably higher then matching kinks. If my partner and myself can not converse then my interest would wane very fast i'm afraid. Sex is all and good, but my mind has to be occupied and stimulated as well to make a relationship viable for me. hehe if i'm mentally bored, that's when I have a tendancy to get into trouble

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:12:47 AM   
MellowSir


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Status: offline 		A good education helps but is not entirely necessary. A good ability to articulate and a willingness to learn are more important. I prefer well-read at the least so that there's never such a thing as a word that's too big lol.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:14:32 AM   
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Intellect is and was incredibly important.  But One has to know they have it also - I find that incredibly attractive.  Ego – tempered with humility.  And yet I often see people dismiss ego so easily.  To me that is due to someone being aware intellectually of there own ability.  As I saw someone earlier… and I apologise in advance for stealing the quote – but it isn’t long – that there is nothing wrong with being a legend in ones own mind.
 
Which exemplify?
 
At the risk of sounding gushy (but then - you did ask...) Artistic talent and discerning use of the English language and I found both online and off with my Boy.  His writing abilities, his photographic talents... being to see through his eyes was fascinating to me.  So few people have that ability and the way it was done - the way he exhibited his gifts, was a great indicator of the intellect he possessed.
Intellect isn't just that which is found in books and with degrees, it comes from awareness of what is around you.
 
Intellectual conversation is of course important, but there is much beauty, peace and strength to be found in intellectual silence.
 
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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:15:11 AM   
curiouslyseeking


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Status: offline 		Greetings Everyone...
 
Intellect, the intelligence to thirst for knowledge and life experiences different than mine. 
 
Actually, I desire a Master that can out-think me.
 
I do not want someone that we have a tunnel-vision view of life together.  I need someone very open-minded and articulate wrapped up nicely with passion and zeal . 
 
The world is a large place, boy, we've got a lot of ground to cover in this lifetime...
~curious~

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:15:32 AM   
onestandingstill


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

education is highly important to me as well (ie degrees count

Degrees count to me in some small degree.
I think it's a ludicrous notion to believe just because someone holds a degree they are intelligent.
I know more people with Doctorate degrees who are not as common sense smart as 12 year olds.

I don't put that much stock in degrees when it comes to if I can decide someone's intelligent or not.

I'm surprised you do LA, I thought you were more open and less prejudice than that.

Now if dating financially secure people and money is your motivation someone with a college degree may still be dumb as a stick, but paying for the degree does usually pay off with better jobs & more income.

I could see a materialistic person only wanting to date degreed people.
suzanne

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:17:54 AM   
OedipusRexIt


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Status: offline 		What a series of intelligent, thoughtful replies!  I have to admit, I'm pleasantly surprised.

And the first-responder, who I won't bother to quote, serves as an excellent counter-example of intellect, doesn't he?

Thanks, nearly all.

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RE: Intellectual Appeal - 4/18/2007 11:19:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

education is highly important to me as well (ie degrees count

Degrees count to me in some small degree.
I think it's a ludicrous notion to believe just because someone holds a degree they are intelligent.
I know more people with Doctorate degrees who are not as common sense smart as 12 year olds.

I don't put that much stock in degrees when it comes to if I can decide someone's intelligent or not.

I'm surprised you do LA, I thought you were more open and less prejudice than that.

Now if dating financially secure people and money is your motivation someone with a college degree may still be dumb as a stick, but paying for the degree does usually pay off with better jobs & more income.

I could see a materialistic person only wanting to date degreed people.
suzanne


Agreed. Degrees = income to many. All we collect in this world will leave us when we die. I think it better to leave behind a postive legacy, rather than a big pile of toys that are only going to be given away anyhow.

Education and intellect are not neccesarily tacked together by default.

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