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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/19/2007 9:24:22 PM   
temptressofsouls


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Status: offline 		I will not give up family to be with someone else. I once had to make that choice, and chose family. Ironically enough it wasnt the Dom forcing the decision, it was my family. They just didnt approve of the Dom (even though he's a wonderful person and there were no red flags) and if I had left to be with him, they wouldnt have expected me to give up contact with them indefinately.

As much as I cared for Him, I couldnt take that sort of a risk.

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/19/2007 9:24:26 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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many about this and have also seen first hand what some have given up or even put aside to belong to a Dom/me.
Some have given their children up. Others have moved away from the family roots. A lot have left their husbands/wives for this elusive Dom/me. Even others have forfitted the paychecks.
What is it you would be willing to give up to belong to that that Dom/me you want to serve?
Is this a fantasy or reality?
RPrincess

I'd give up everything except my sense of self and commitments we have agreed to value together.

But I have to say- a person should be "giving up" in order to create a relationship together.  Not to prove something.

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 4/19/2007 9:25:40 PM >

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 4:38:45 AM   
jauntyone


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quote:

But I have to say- a person should be "giving up" in order to create a relationship together.  Not to prove something.


Greetings
 
very nicely put
 
I wish you well
 
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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 4:45:32 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		There are a few things I would never ask my boy to give up.
His family, his education, his opinions and his computer.
I have no problem with most of his friends, but there are a few who I would ask him to give up becaue I dont like how they act when all together. His paycheck, his car and his "possessions" are all just that, possessions and he would be expected to be willing and able to give them up for me.
I will never request something be given up that would lead to resentment in the long run. I would prefer he retain certain things, and be happy than give them up on principle and be miserable becasue they are gone.

DV

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 5:19:17 AM   
yenlui


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Status: offline 		I am willing to "give up" many things - move away, change my job/education and so - but I would never give up the things that define 'me'. If He want to change/shape me in a way that makes me feel like I'm loosing myself, He might just as well find another girl because then He'd not want me. Also, I would never give up my right to say no.

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 5:19:01 AM   
barebackslavegir


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Status: offline 		giving up anything he asks of me, he is my world, he controls everything we want
he does ask me sometimes what I like, but my only pleasure is pleasing him

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 5:21:48 AM   
obediantone4U


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Status: offline 		Everything but the respect of my family!

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 5:39:44 AM   
MellowSir


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Status: offline 		Just need to remember, aside from being a 24/7 slave, no sub entirely surrenders all. I for one would not wish her to give up her opinion, hobbies, etc., much prefer a bit of spirit to a mindless robot lol. Surrender a bit at a time, yet keep that which makes you human and different from the next person.....

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 7:05:14 AM   
sunfleur


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Status: offline 		i wouldnt give up anything.  i like my life the way it is.   gasp!  a subbie who wont give up something for her Master?  lol let me elaborate....

Rather, i view it as i would ADD, rather than LOOSE.    I'd add him to my life, and my life to his.   I'd add his wishes to mine.  his desires to mine.  see the difference?  

If one were to ask me to give up part of what makes me 'me', then he wont be getting the real me.  does he really want a fake me?  if he does, then i'm not the one for him.

sunfleur.

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 7:30:08 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: sunfleur
If one were to ask me to give up part of what makes me 'me', then he wont be getting the real me.  does he really want a fake me?  if he does, then i'm not the one for him.

sunfleur.
Getting into concepts of identity always becomes a trisky mess of knots to untangle.

If your master loves the color green, but it's never been something you wear much, are you suddenly losing a part of you because he wants you to wear a lot of green?

When does change go from "growth towards me" to "growth away from me"?  It's a very personal thing.

And I agree, there's no reason a person can't have everything they want in terms of a personal relationship.

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/20/2007 7:05:31 PM   
Histigress


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Status: offline 		i will, and have given all of myself to Him.... which is all that i can offer. i don't understand how some people have said that they have given up their kids, families,  etc....
they are not things that they really had the right to give up, especially if the children that they supposedly gave up were not of age... of course that is just in my honest opinion.
one can only give up or make exchange with something that is theirs to give.
one cannot just simply give up something like children as if they had owned them, the way that they will be owned by a Master.  it makes it sound like putting up a wager in a card game or something lol....

i am owned by choice, in heart, mind, body, and soul to my Master.... but i would not give up my right to life, liberty, and my own pursuit of happiness... and would not be expected to either.
my freedom of speech is still mine to use, as long as i ask in a respectful manner if i may speak freely, and am granted permission by Him, as it pertains to the situation...

i would never think of saying that i would give up my right to see my children, or have a continued relationship with them, for Him.... or anyone for that matter.
i cherish my children too much to do such a thing...

to each their own i guess ...
which everyone has a right to... their own opinion...

i have had several people tell me that they could not personally be sub/slave.... "i am my own person"... they would say....
i tell them.. "i am my own person too... it is the only person i know how to be; is ME"


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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/21/2007 5:40:30 AM   
softness


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From: Leeds, UK
Status: offline 		Last year i had  very difficult choice to make. I met a Master online, and He is perfect; His wants needs and expectation reflect my desires and hopes , Wwe have excellent chemistry, Wwe understand each other. We clicked in such a way that very quickly He could predict me better than i could. i am experienced enough not to be boring, but inexperienced enough to still need to be stumpbroken into service.

So He made the offer, visit Me, meet My family, see My friends, play with Me, learn Me, practice serving Me.

What He was offering me was to live as owned property, and quite frankly it was an offer that took my breath away and one i will never forget.

But anyway, the choice i faced was this, move to America, become property to a great man, advance my career, create the home He desired for Himself and maintain it, find new friends, a new life ... but leave behind my own history, my roots, my family, my friends.

Now i made the decision, and i am still here, still in England, still unowned.

everytime i think of Him, i become very sad, because i dont know if He believes this .... it is not that i don't love Him enough, its because i love my family too much.

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/21/2007 6:49:30 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RopePrincess


I have questioned many about this and have also seen first hand what some have given up or even put aside to belong to a Dom/me.
Some have given their children up. Others have moved away from the family roots. A lot have left their  husbands/wives for this elusive Dom/me. Even others have forfitted the paychecks.
What is it you would be willing to give up to belong to that that Dom/me you want to serve?
Is this a fantasy or reality?
RPrincess


Very little. I give my power to him but I lose nothing. My power exchange enchances my life and takes nothing away. I've quit smoking, having one only in times of extreme stress. I quit giving capital letters to dominant/master/mistress, unless it being used as a name because he told me to.

I would never give up my children or my family. Anyone who would ask such a thing would not have the chance to own me. I am not a stand-alone package and I refuse to inflict the pain of removing their only child from my parent's lives. We do not live near each other, but we talk frequently. As far as UM, I view duty as a mother as above duty of a sub/slave. That child did not ask to come into the world after all.

Giving paychecks seems rather normal to me though. It all goes into the family pot, with some put aside in case shit ever hits the fan.

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/21/2007 7:33:46 AM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: stef

Pickled okra and brussels sprouts.

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I want to be on THAT plan.....especially if green beans are added to the list!!!!

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/21/2007 9:20:48 AM   
bliss1


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Status: offline 		I give up my heart.
To follow rules or guidelines is not giving up anything in my book - but just learning to show respect for his way of doing things.



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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/21/2007 10:54:38 AM   
DarkVictory


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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/21/2007 10:59:58 AM   
MagiksSlave


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LOL


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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/22/2007 4:11:36 AM   
softness


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkVictory

Shaddap an geddin dayum bax, for ey gits ya whet fer.


sighs ,.. see what i gave up! 

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/22/2007 1:26:06 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		There is NO human being on this planet "special" enough for me to have given my kids up for. 

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RE: What would you give up to belong to a Dom/me - 4/23/2007 5:28:55 AM   
BDOMsecret


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Status: offline 		lol @ brussel sprouts...    i think i could give those up too  ;)

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