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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/23/2007 9:55:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: SubtleDifferenceRegardless of the situation you are in, do you feel that in the beginning of correspondence with a submissive would too many questions make you feel you were being "topped from the bottom"?

Only if the questions are along the lines of: "Oh, what will you do to me?" "What would you make me do?" "What would I be wearing?" "What's the worst thing you've ever done to a slave?" Any questions about my philosophy or anything else for that matter are perfectly legitimate, welcomed, and encouraged.

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/24/2007 10:54:25 AM

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Topping from the bottom is almost getting to be a cliche. Any Dom who complains a sub is topping from the bottom is a Dom not in control of that relationship. In the past, if a sub tried this with me, they would be put back in their place immediately in a calm controlled fashion that would let her know, without any doubt, she was out of line.

I value an inquisitive slave. I want to hear their questions, both at the beginning of the relationship, and as that relationship develops. But I also can tell an honest query from attempted manipulation. I welcome the former any time, the latter is not tolerated at any time.

From the kinds of questions you have suggested, I see nothing wrong with what you are asking. I can't imagine any Dom, confident in himself and his dominance, would have a problem with answering them.

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/24/2007 6:19:12 PM

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Thank you all again for sharing your thoughts.!

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/24/2007 7:59:02 PM

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Regardless of the situation you are in, do you feel that in the beginning of correspondence with a submissive would too many questions make you feel you were being "topped from the bottom"?

In my case, I am concerned if she does not ask well thought out, pointed questions while we are getting to know one another.

When I being conversations with a girl, she is free to speak her mind. I do not consider that I have any more control over her than I do any other person that I do not yet have a relationship with. The only turn off for me is a girl who has not yet learned to phrase and ask her questions in a polite way. MAJOR TURN ON (and extra points) - A polite and respectful girl. In turn I consider it my obligation to be polite and respectful as well. And why not?

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/26/2007 10:54:28 AM

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In my opinion, I am not sure that one can really "top from the bottom" in an email. One can unquestionably be disrespectful or can term their questions in an unacceptable format. In my experience, women, particularly submissive women, tend to be very manipulative, or at least they try. When I feel that someone is trying to manipulate me I will reprimand them for the manipulation. However, merely asking questions is something I truly love to see. It means that they have an interest and want to know more.

In my view, the dominant man has the easier job of it. If the woman is truly submissive and agrees to the rule of the dom, her actions will be molded. Thusly, if she does something unacceptable to the dominant man, he can affect change. On the other hand, the slave/submissive accepts the man as he is, she cannot change him. If she tries (at least if she tries it with me) she will be seriously disappointed (and probably disciplined). Given that perspective, she should have questions, she should have a lot of questions. She should know everything about me before we meet each other and she should know if there is anything about me that will not be acceptable to her. In other words, bring on the questions, the more the better and the more difficult to answer the better.

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/26/2007 12:27:21 PM

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And why do you say that?

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ORIGINAL: Nogimmicks

In my experience, women, particularly submissive women, tend to be very manipulative, or at least they try.

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/28/2007 7:06:26 AM

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Oh Hell... I Love questions. I actually hate talking with a submissive that does not ask many questions. It makes me question if they really have a sincere interest in talking with me or not.

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/28/2007 10:36:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: SubtleDifference

In my time on collarme (profile and lurking on the message boards) it seems that for every ten people, there are ten different views, philosophies and approaches to a D/s dynamic.

When approached by a gentleman via email, I read their profile to see if we are somewhat on the same page. I always ask questions about their philosphy to better determine our compatibility. My thinking is just because we are all here looking for food doesn't mean we all enjoy the same cusine.

Sometimes my questions tend to be a bit pointed because as a married woman in an open relationship, I tend to attract many married men. It's not my place to sit in judgement of their situation, but it is my place to decide if I wish to partake in their world.

Regardless of the situation you are in, do you feel that in the beginning of correspondence with a submissive would too many questions make you feel you were being "topped from the bottom"?

Thank you in advance for any replies.

Only if it became obvious that she was using a shopping list as a lazy way to filter prospects.

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RE: Do questions make you feel you are being topped fro... - 4/28/2007 3:17:16 PM

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Hello subledifference

In answer to your question; no. I would be leery of those who did NOT ask in depth and pointed questions.

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