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spanklette -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/23/2007 10:44:28 PM)
I am an extrovert, and my Daddy is an introvert. I think over the course of our relationship we have started to rub off on each other. He's become more interested in getting out and meeting people and I've become more interested in exploring the silence. It's actually kind of cool. I'm fairly sure that neither of these qualities is associated with our roles in life. We just are.

gypsyfirefly -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/23/2007 11:03:00 PM)
I think I fall into the extroverted introvert catagory. Generally, I am quiet, and at times, reserved around people I don't know well. Yet the positions I have held have for the most part, dealt with the public on several different levels. While I would prefer not to speak in front of large groups, I can and have done so. With friends or while out amongst strangers in a club/bar (guess it is the "they don't know me and I probably won't see them again" thing) I can be a chatty kathy and bit of a goof ball. People are complex - no matter how their personalities are perceived. to remove an extra "a" - that little finger gets twitchy sometimes ... lol We are all wanderers on this earth. Our hearts full of wonder, our souls deep with dreams. ~ Gypsy Proverb

greeneyes1962 -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 1:02:11 AM)
I have been an introvert as long as I can remember, very shy. However, I am in a job that requires me to be able to relate well to/with people, so that has gotten me out of my shell, at least in that area of my life. Otherwise, I still have trouble in new situations.

gypsygrl -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 2:03:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania Extroverts are interested in what is happening around them are open and often talkative compare their own opinions with the opinions of others like action and initiative easily make new friends or adapt to a new group say what they think are interested in new people easily break unwanted relations Introverts are interested in their own thoughts and feelings need to have own territory often appear reserved, quiet and thoughtful usually do not have many friends have difficulties in making new contacts like concentration and quiet do not like unexpected visits and therefore do not make them work well alone I'm both of these. Like almost completely. I think its that when I was a kid, I was very introverted, almost painfully so but, became more extroverted as I got older. Lately, I've been more introverted. I don't really see them as mutually exclusive sets of characteristics because they correspond so closely to activities/behaviors. The only characteristics in the extroverted list I don't have are making new friends easily (but I do adapt to groups) and I'm not especially talkative. As I think about it, it really depends on what else is going on in my life. I was most extroverted in the 1990's because I was in a situation that supported that. I was "settled" and did a lot of volunteer work, so it was easy to get out and meet people and stuff like that. So, I'm guessing that for me opportunity plays a big role and because I'm very comfortable being in my own head/space, I don't necessarily go out looking for opportunities to be extroverted.

tricia -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 2:03:19 AM)
Introvert. I've been like this always - I can still remember the anxiety I felt walking into my kindergarten class. I quit college because I couldn't 'get through' the public speaking class I was required to take. At times, it is extremely detrimental to my growth as I find myself making many decisions based on emotions and feelings rather than any true fact. It's something I am constantly struggling with. I would imagine the 'ideal' submissive would be an even balance of both. I'll admit I have found myself on more than one occasion observing someone who is outspoken and outgoing and thinking, "wow, she doesn't seem submissive to me." I'm working on that. (Gotta love honesty.)

StellaByStarlite -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 5:28:13 AM)
It really depends on the situation for me. I really dislike crowds and noise, I'll usually just sit back in those environments and observe what going on around me. On the other hand.. I genuinely enjoy people when there's a chance to talk with them one-on-one. I love friendly chats with the cashiers, the mailman, the waitress, etc. It's much easier for me to connect with somebody if there is opportunity to just converse or hang out as two individuals, as opposed to a group. In my experience, group dynamics tend to bring out the rude and petty in people. The interruptions, the gossip, yuck.. not for me.

innatedesire -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 6:12:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I was pondering something today about submissiveness and personality. I was wondering if submissives tend to be introverted or extroverted. I am very much an extrovert. I am comfortable talking in front of groups of people. In fact I get paid to talk to people all day (my job requires a lot of conversing and being friendly). I like crowds of people sometimes. In fact I love people. I feel comfortable talking to almost anyone, and I am warm to people. I wonder if submissives tend to be shy and retiring, or outgoing and gregarious, or most of us fall somewhere in between. I am a extrovert when it comes to work, a introvert outside of my work envrionment. I do not feel that either play a part in WIITWD, it is just a part of who I am.

agirl -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 6:19:46 AM)
I'm predominantly introverted, owned and not particularly submissive. agirl

Wildfleurs -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 7:06:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania Extroverts are interested in what is happening around them are open and often talkative compare their own opinions with the opinions of others like action and initiative easily make new friends or adapt to a new group say what they think are interested in new people easily break unwanted relations Introverts are interested in their own thoughts and feelings need to have own territory often appear reserved, quiet and thoughtful usually do not have many friends have difficulties in making new contacts like concentration and quiet do not like unexpected visits and therefore do not make them work well alone I'd say I'm moderately extroverted. I fit most of the characteristics except that I'm not the easiest person to get to know and I don't easily make new friends. C~

juliaoceania -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 7:41:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gypsygrl quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania Extroverts are interested in what is happening around them are open and often talkative compare their own opinions with the opinions of others like action and initiative easily make new friends or adapt to a new group say what they think are interested in new people easily break unwanted relations Introverts are interested in their own thoughts and feelings need to have own territory often appear reserved, quiet and thoughtful usually do not have many friends have difficulties in making new contacts like concentration and quiet do not like unexpected visits and therefore do not make them work well alone I'm both of these. Like almost completely. I think its that when I was a kid, I was very introverted, almost painfully so but, became more extroverted as I got older. Lately, I've been more introverted. I don't really see them as mutually exclusive sets of characteristics because they correspond so closely to activities/behaviors. The only characteristics in the extroverted list I don't have are making new friends easily (but I do adapt to groups) and I'm not especially talkative. As I think about it, it really depends on what else is going on in my life. I was most extroverted in the 1990's because I was in a situation that supported that. I was "settled" and did a lot of volunteer work, so it was easy to get out and meet people and stuff like that. So, I'm guessing that for me opportunity plays a big role and because I'm very comfortable being in my own head/space, I don't necessarily go out looking for opportunities to be extroverted. I agree, and when one takes a personality test like the Myers Briggs, you will notice that it gives you a score of how extroverted or introverted you are. You are probably nearly equally balanced. I am slightly more extroverted. I had to spend a lot of time alone growing up because my sibs are a lot older and there were no children living around me. I enjoy my alone time beyond a shadow of a doubt. I still spend a lot of time alone, and I do not emotionally suffer for it. I am a very meditative person. But I love people too, that is why I study what I study.

spankmepink11 -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 7:43:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StellaByStarlite It really depends on the situation for me. I really dislike crowds and noise, I'll usually just sit back in those environments and observe what going on around me. On the other hand.. I genuinely enjoy people when there's a chance to talk with them one-on-one. I love friendly chats with the cashiers, the mailman, the waitress, etc. It's much easier for me to connect with somebody if there is opportunity to just converse or hang out as two individuals, as opposed to a group. In my experience, group dynamics tend to bring out the rude and petty in people. The interruptions, the gossip, yuck.. not for me. Ditto..that saved me from typing.....i also however, consider myself an extroverted introvert...or vice versa

stockingluvr54 -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 8:34:50 AM)
Introvert for the most part. A loner but not afraid to speak my mind and do enjoy good conversation and the occaisional mixing with others. My hobbies are solitary things that don't require company. Complete enjoyment is being at home on a cold day with a nice warm fire in the stove and a kitty cat on my lap.....

subsfaith -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 8:37:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I was pondering something today about submissiveness and personality. I was wondering if submissives tend to be introverted or extroverted. I am an extrovert. However this does appear to fit in quite nicely with my introverted dominant. I don't question it, we just work :: smiles ::

blushingflower -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 8:51:53 AM)
If you define introvert/extravert according to the Myers-Briggs Personality Types, I'm an extravert. I like being with people, I find being with my friends to be energizing. I get paid to talk to crowds. But I'm also shy (one of the reasons I'm Blushing Flower). I don't like groups of strangers, and I feel lonelier in social crowds than at home (if everyone around me is with someone and interacting and I'm alone, it's worse than being alone at home). I'm not very good at initiating conversations- though I can do conversations while in line at the grocery store that are polite chit-chat, I'm not good at starting conversations where I may actually see the person again or I need to ask someone for a favor (unless it's "hey, I'm lost, can you give me directions?" or "you work here and I am a customer will you please assist me?"). I think part of this is that I don't like doing things I don't think I'm good at, because I don't like looking stupid. Therefore, I don't like going to places where there will be new people, because I don't know what's expected of me. If I can lurk for a bit to get the vibe, I feel much better. In places like bars, I can't be alone, because otherwise the isolation of being alone in a crowd will hit me like a ton of bricks unless I have something to do (and really, who's going to solve a sudoku while sitting at the bar?) and I have a dual fear of being approached by someone and of not being approached by anyone and I'm never sure which is worse. If I know all the people at a party, I'm the last to leave, because I love that energy. If I don't know most of them and they all know each other, I have to leave quickly. If I don't get regular social interaction, my shyness gets worse and I get lonely and depressed. Then, because I'm depressed, I don't want to leave the house, which means no social interaction, which means more depression (though the Internet helps a little). You can be an introvert and still be friendly, it just means you find all that interaction exhausting. And you can be an extravert and still be shy. Johnny Carson hosted the Tonight Show every night but was said to be incredibly shy in one-on-one situations. Daddy is an introvert- he finds being around people to be draining. If I've had a long hard week, I want to hang out with my friends. He needs to recover before he can bear to be around people. His need for time alone is something that I have a hard time grasping. Maybe this is because I'm an only child and have always had enough, if not more than enough, time alone. I want to be alone if I'm upset, or if the alternative is to be with people who are either in my way or whom I don't like.

gypsygrl -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 9:02:35 AM)
I can relate to how your shyness manifests itself. I don't do casual social interaction, either and can get ridiculously awkward. I'm most effective in structured situations and tend to become very inhibited in crowded places where there's no organization. I need to observe and figure out the rules for a while before I can overcome that. (This makes me a good social scientist, but it makes me a lousy date.) To return to the original question posed, I can see how this relates to my submissive tendencies. I'm most effective/extroverted in an organized situation and D/s can provide that.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 9:50:51 AM)
quote: (This makes me a good social scientist, but it makes me a lousy date.) Awwww.... i love lousy dates...i'll take you to a party anytime!...LOL.<winks>

littleone35 -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 10:05:24 AM)
I used to be painfulluy introvated but then i got a job in fast food and later in retail so i had to deal with people it made me more of an extrovert. I am still a little shy arounf the opposite sex (except Master). My flirting stlye was eue copmtact and a smu\ile. I guess i am an even mix. I still hate talking in public though. Matt's littleone

denika -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 10:13:03 AM)
Rob and I are both extreverts. When we go out together, particularily lifestyle events Rob loves to wonder about, he hates sitting still and many times we will spent most of the evening on opposite ends of a room, which is fine with both of us, we just find little moments to touch hands or make eye contact and share a kiss but we don't need to be glued to each other. I have moments of shyness but they are usually from topics of conversation rather than situations. Neither of us have a problem talking to people we have never met before. Good thing too or I never would have had the nerve to approach and speak to Knight and alandra the first time I saw them at a public play party. Let alone go to the party, considering I went alone, Rob was out of town...I really wish I could have seen the look on his face when I told him where I had gone s lucky for me, Rob exepts the unexpected. denika

blushingflower -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 10:21:08 AM)
quote: This makes me a good social scientist, but it makes me a lousy date. lol I was actually an Anthropology major in undergrad. After being incredibly lonely and depressed during a semester abroad (in Europe), I decided that my shyness made it next to impossible for me to succeed in doing field work, so I went into the museum field instead (plus, there's more running water). But yes, I think that tendency/desire to observe first is something common to social scientists.

behindmirrors -> RE: Introvert or Extrovert (4/24/2007 3:53:37 PM)
I am definetly an introvert, as is my Master. But, in addition to being an introvert, I am also a performer- and I love it. I have no fear of getting up and speaking in front of a group of people when I have something to contribute- provided that I'm not required to speak about myself, but instead about something, like a topic I am passionate about, or work related things, etc. I'm a musician, so I play in front of crowds regularly, and was a dancer for most of my life, too- and it was the performance part that I loved. I'm actually speaking at an art museum tomorrow, which I am looking forward to. He and I are both really large stage personalities, and very quiet people at home, in our daily interactions- but we can come through with a damn good show, haha. I guess for me it's separating that my own self is very quiet, but that the situation at hand requires something different than that, so I learned to fit the roles effectively, and to enjoy it. And put me in a crowd of people I don't know and expect me to socialize with them, without any formal public speaking or performing on my part? I am about as loud as a mouse, and would prefer to be all by myself. behindmirrors.

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