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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I was pondering something today about submissiveness and personality. I was wondering if submissives tend to be introverted or extroverted.

I am very much an extrovert. I am comfortable talking in front of groups of people. In fact I get paid to talk to people all day (my job requires a lot of conversing and being friendly). I like crowds of people sometimes. In fact I love people. I feel comfortable talking to almost anyone, and I am warm to people. I wonder if submissives tend to be shy and retiring, or outgoing and gregarious, or most of us fall somewhere in between.

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

I'm definitely an introvert, but I can socialize on occasion, but only with small crowds of people and I have to have an "out" - like being able to walk outside or get away from them.  Sometimes I go to the bathroom a number of times to get away from the people I'm socializing with.  It really just depends on the situation. 

But if I'm forced to interact with a lot of people or even one person who is extremely extraverted, or someone who is loud, obnoxioux or rude, I have to have peace and quiet when I get home. 

Some people probably think I'm a snob and I'm anything but a snob. 

And on top of that, I'm an empath, so being around other people often causes me emotional stresses because I feel what they are feeling, or I feed off of their emotions.  If they are negative or high strung/high drama types, etc... they drain me.  It sounds awful, but being around some people makes me feel like they are sucking the life outta me and I have to get away.

As to how it relates to my submissiveness, I would say that it makes ~me~ more focused on Him, because I have few if any close friends at any given time.  I'd just as soon that the one I submit to be the center of my universe, with few outside distractions from other people - if that makes sense. 

I don't want a bunch of people in my world, and I'm very picky about the ones I do allow in it.

• are interested in what is happening around them - yes
  
  
• are open and often talkative - no
  
  
• compare their own opinions with the opinions of others - yes
  
  
• like action and initiative - from some one else yes
  
  
• easily make new friends or adapt to a new group - friends yes- group no
  
  
• say what they think - yes
  
  
• are interested in new people -yes
  
  
• easily break unwanted relations -no

• are interested in their own thoughts and feelings -yes
  
  
• need to have own territory -yes
  
  
• often appear reserved, quiet and thoughtful -yes
  
  
• usually do not have many friends -no
  
  
• have difficulties in making new contacts -no
  
  
• like concentration and quiet -yes
  
  
• do not like unexpected visits and therefore do not make them -yes
  
  
• work well alone -yes

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ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr

I'e always been an extroverted introvert.  :-)

I love being around poeple but am also very comfortable being alone.  I've been that way my whole life.