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joyinslavery -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 1:59:49 AM)

No offense taken in any way.

It's all good.




Einzelganger -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:12:23 AM)

Not all skills can be learned to the same efficiency just because one wants to on short notice.  If I wanted to become a world class harpist, well...tough luck for me.  I can play, but I'm at the age where I'm just not going to get much better than I am.

Thus, having already aquired usable skills is always a plus.  In my opinion, it should not be the primary means of deciding if it's a great relationship, of course, but...it's icing on the cake. *smiles*

-Einzelgänger




Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:17:03 AM)

I agree that it should not be the primary factor in determining a relationship.  That is why I said I'd give preference to the skilled person if all other aspects were equal.  You are quite right about it being icing on the cake. [:)]




Einzelganger -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:23:19 AM)

It's icing for the sub, too; I've gotten free legal help from a top notch attourney who routinely does huge cases with the IRS, because I replaced the headliner in his BMW after he found child-sized footprints on the ceiling (I still don't know what happened there), and I also retrieved all the loose change from inside his CD player after the kids apparently thought it was a jukebox.  Other than that, there's always tons of side jobs I have to choose from.  Works for me. *grins*

-Einzelgänger




joyinslavery -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:24:14 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Einzelganger

Not all skills can be learned to the same efficiency just because one wants to on short notice.  If I wanted to become a world class harpist, well...tough luck for me.  I can play, but I'm at the age where I'm just not going to get much better than I am.

-Einzelgänger



Don't forget, most people are something

I refer back to my earlier post about reality-based relationships.

Btw...How much do you charge an hour?  I've got a friend who is getting married in June. 





iwearpanties -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:27:09 AM)

honsetly no matter how we male subs tried to please you all . i just feel some of you may never be happy  . or have you needs filled fully there are so many things male subs can do wrong and then again some we can do rite ..just being truthful here........




Einzelganger -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:28:31 AM)

I suck at the harp...I just like playing it. *laughs*  I am a professional violinist, though...I usually charge the typical musician's union wage of $100/hour, but I can cut it down for people who can't afford it.  Weddings are (hopefully) the sort of thing people only get to do once in their life, so I like the opportunity to provide them with GOOD live music, rather than having them find some kid to do it.  Unless, of course, the kid is one of those 5 year old Asians that can play at near-professional levels.

-Einzelgänger




Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:30:50 AM)

The violin is my favorite instrument to listen to.  Ahh, such nice sounds it makes.  Do you teach the violin as well as perform?  -- sorry for the hijack.




joyinslavery -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:39:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: iwearpanties

honsetly no matter how we male subs tried to please you all . i just feel some of you may never be happy  . or have you needs filled fully there are so many things male subs can do wrong and then again some we can do rite ..just being truthful here........


As Cuba Gooding Jr. once (famously???) said to Tom Cruise...

"I feel you dog" 

[sm=smile.gif]




Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:43:00 AM)

Perhaps try focusing on pleasing one and not 'us all'. [8D]

We all have different things that please us, you should focus your energy on finding the one who is pleased with what you are able to offer. 

Sharing what you are able to offer makes it easier for us to find those who offer what pleases us.




Einzelganger -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:45:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

The violin is my favorite instrument to listen to.  Ahh, such nice sounds it makes.  Do you teach the violin as well as perform?  -- sorry for the hijack.


I'm not sure if I'd be a good teacher...if I were to be a teacher, I'd probably teach by experience, and I can honestly say that my teacher was most definately a dominant woman.  Not necessarily a domme, but she had everything but the title.  I loved her (figuratively), because she treated me like crap when I was playing like crap, but when I actually did it right, she'd let me know...and those times she let me know, I knew I'd done a good job; she didn't hand out praise for nothing.

So...I'm not sure if I have a talent for teaching, but noone's asked me for lessons yet, lol.  I suppose there's only one way to find out.

-Einzelgänger

Edit:  As a side note, when students are in the learning phase, before they learn to pull a good sound out of the violin, it's called the Vile Din.  Cheesy but true.




joyinslavery -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:49:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

We all have different things that please us, you should focus your energy on finding the one who is pleased with what you are able to offer. 

Sharing what you are able to offer makes it easier for us to find those who offer what pleases us.



Therein lies the problem.

Seriously.

What was it Molly Shannon's character on SNL said?  "Don't get me started"(?). 





Einzelganger -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:53:37 AM)

What if all Dommes were the same?  What if they all liked exactly the same thing, and if you didn't like it, you were SOL?  Variety really is the spice of life, man. *smiles*

-Einzelgänger




joyinslavery -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 3:00:30 AM)

Yes, and ingnorance is bliss. 

Reality is often hard to come by.




Still can't spell.







Ericus1 -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 3:33:31 AM)

I have been working on writing my profile recently.  This thread has actually been helpful in that task. 
Yes, it is often very difficult for males to open up, especially publically.  We are generally conditioned that we must be able to do everything ourselves. 
I know that for me, the idea of failing is absolutely terrifying.  I have ALWAYS been taught to SUCCEED AT ALL COSTS.

All of that said, i wold like to make a request.
Please review and make suggestions on the following as a profile:

Before You i stand, humble but not helpless, for how can i tend to Your
needs and affairs if i am unable to manage my own?

This is a letter of introduction about myself should it please.  A male slave with four years experience as a 24/7 slave.  I have been in lifestyle for over ten years now.  Trained in Old European style of BDSM, i offer myself as a companion to a Mistress or Domme Couple.

Please understand that this is not a kink for me but a fully realized, lived and understood lifestyle in all facets.

In such i take great pleasure and pride in a variety of services (maintaining the house, cooking, grocery shopping, companion, purely d/s, humiliation play, simple presence if You do not wish to travel around town alone, errands, etc.)  and as long as there is open and honest communication as to what it is You desire of a long term or temporary companion, then i will do my utmost to fulfill those requests with joy and diligence. 

In my vanilla life i am known to be very dominant but i receive great satisfaction from serving a Mistress in all humility.  Only in service do i truly excel.  My personality may be strong but in that same respect, so is my devotion to Who i serve.

If there is another male or female submissive or slave in Your House it is fine and understood as well as welcomed.  Being Poly myself, i do understand what it takes to maintain such relationships and would not seek to wedge myself between You and those under Your hand Ma'am.

THIS IS NOT A TROLL, OR SIMPLY SOMEONE SEEKING TO TOP FROM THE BOTTOM IN THE GUISE OF A SLAVE MA'AMS.

Thank You for the time to read this profile and if perhaps it  has piqued Your interest, then please let me know that i have permit from You to contact You further.




thank you
ericus




cindi4554 -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 5:21:34 AM)

Fascinating thread....my reasons are far more emotional than intellectual, yet that hasn't stopped me from wondering why. No doubt some of us were brought up in a subtle, yet obviously woman-dominated world, if only we had our eyes open at the time. For me, it was a strong, intelligent mother, a tormenting older sister, and during the formative years, the presence of nuns who were very much authoritative, yet caring. Societial pressure though, bent me  towards the supposedly "patriarchial" view of things until I began to develop a strong interest in history and grew to understand the sheer stupidity of ignoring the significant contributions and intelligence of 51% of the human population. History is rife with deprivations against women, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, yet these actions cannot diminish or eliminate the simple truth of their inherent superiority....men will typically fear that which they cannot comprehend...




LadyPact -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 5:34:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsBearlee

Yes, everything LadyPact said...and:
 
I like the exchange of power; authority.  While I don’t see one sex as being superior to another…or even one person being superior to another…I do enjoy TPE.
 
Having said that…for me, I look at my submissive man as my knight.  He would be quite capable, strong in character and interested in both taking care of…and being taken care of; if that makes sense.
 
While I understand some men enjoy being vulnerable to the point of being degraded and kept like animals, I think that is somewhat of a rarity in real life. 
 
I would like to hear how a man embraces submission; gives up authority to his lady, offers up his service to her in any way she will have it…yet continues to be both independent and powerful in his own right.  Is it possible to be submissive and a free-thinker who does not need micro-management?  Is it possible to be a Knight…and yet completely submissive?
 
I would like to hear what submissive men think about all these things.
 
B


Thank You, MsB.  I enjoyed your additions, too. 

After reading such good comments on this thread, I would think the boys would have wonderful blueprints on not just posting on the boards, but in emailing Us as well.  I often wonder if they realize just how to stand above the rest in the crowd.

Btw, ericus, I think that is a fantastic concept for a profile. 




joyinslavery -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 6:39:04 AM)

Dude, there is an introduction area of the boards where people can check you out.  

Check it out.   




MaamJay -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 7:37:05 AM)

Ericus I'd say it's a damned shame you live in USA and Me in Australia! It's a very good profile and one that I would otherwise at least take interest in and then go through My dealbreakers (another thread!) to explore possibilities. Good luck finding what you seek!

Maam Jay




MsBearlee -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 8:05:40 AM)

Okay, I just read ‘someone’s’ profile and came away with the fact that he obviously loves play…and considers himself a budding masochist.  Play and the things he desires are evident in the profile…yet he balances things with the fact that he would be a wonderful companion able to hold intelligent conversation on a variety of topics including:

 Movies
 Museums
 Travel
 Art Collecting
 History
 Philosophy
 Poetry

This one also offers up that he enjoys service, values cleanliness and also has a high attention to detail, making him ideal for domestic duties, at which he excels.  He points out he is a secure, self-confident, hardworking self-starter and again; enjoys housework.
 
So, perhaps the reality is... it’s got to be win/win!  Many submissives, especially new submissives, think this is all about play and go on and on about what THEY want.  I rather enjoyed this particular profile and the reality and balance it offered.
 
Some Dom/mes come off as if what they want is NOT companionship, but rather a housekeeping go-fer; someone to do the grunt work.  I don’t think that is realistic, either…nor do I believe that is what most of us want.  As the boy said; it’s got to be based in reality.  For such a relationship to be long-lasting, it must be win/win.  I know many submissives and slaves; regardless of their desire for service, if they weren’t getting more out of it than that…they’d wander off.

 
B
 
< A note to the author...this was meant as a positive example; I hope that in no way have I offended you. >




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