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MistressDoMe -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 10:38:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz Perhaps try focusing on pleasing one and not 'us all'. [8D] We all have different things that please us, you should focus your energy on finding the one who is pleased with what you are able to offer. Sharing what you are able to offer makes it easier for us to find those who offer what pleases us. I agree, having certain skills is a plus. If someone really cares about standing out on here, he should be willing and able to state what he has to offer and bring to the table.

AAkasha -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 10:45:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe quote: ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz Perhaps try focusing on pleasing one and not 'us all'. [8D] We all have different things that please us, you should focus your energy on finding the one who is pleased with what you are able to offer. Sharing what you are able to offer makes it easier for us to find those who offer what pleases us. I agree, having certain skills is a plus. If someone really cares about standing out on here, he should be willing and able to state what he has to offer and bring to the table. A lot of submissive men say they don't want to brag about their capabilities. One point of this thread was that if submissive men were a little bit more tactical about how they did it, it would not come across as bragging, it would come across as conversation with other submissive men and you'd have many femdoms "listening in" -- and that's a great way to present your skills without looking like an egomaniac. And, subs would be surprised at what other subs shared. The key is that it should not seem too forced, and at the core it needs to be honest, both in content and in motive. Akasha

stockingluvr54 -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 11:36:55 AM)
Been following this thread with very much interest. There's been some real interesting things brought up. Unfortunately I can't comment on much because of no rt "lifestyle relationships" to base things on...but I do have my own perceptions. Opening up to another male is just something I have a hard time with. For some reason I can openly talk with a female but get real uncomfortable talking personal things (kink,lovelife,etc.) with male friends. Maybe it's because I feel I have to maintain my image as a typical macho manly man (which I appear to be) and being uncomfortable knowing I'm bs'n them and myself? So basically I don't confide in other men (dom,sub,or vanilla)....much less on a public forum? I've tried to be a little more "open" in my profile and the profile gives abit more of a glimpse ino my private side than I'd be comfortable revealing on a public forum. I have a public side and a private side and I try to(except for a few gray areas) keep the two seperate. These forums are great and the conversation helps entertain, helps me learn, and keeps me soul searching and always refining my perceptions. So I follow the threads...unfortunately can't really contibute much. The deeper stuff will remain private and saved for one-on-one conversation..... So maybe the lack of really open conversation is from guys like myself? We're good men but not real comfy spilling our guts publicly? Keep em comming tho....interesting to say the least!

MistressDoMe -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 12:02:02 PM)
I get so tired of the pathetic excuses men make online. I get endless and I do mean endless emails from men listing in great details what they would like for me to DO TO them. But when you ask what skills or talents they have to bring to the table, they can't express themselves? Bullcrop. I have never found a single man online that had much trouble expressing his desires, needs or wants.

pixelslave -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 2:55:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stockingluvr54 Opening up to another male is just something I have a hard time with. For some reason I can openly talk with a female but get real uncomfortable talking personal things (kink,lovelife,etc.) with male friends. Maybe it's because I feel I have to maintain my image as a typical macho manly man (which I appear to be) and being uncomfortable knowing I'm bs'n them and myself? So basically I don't confide in other men (dom,sub,or vanilla)....much less on a public forum? I can relate to it being easier to have these kinds of discussions with women as opposed to other men when they happen face-to-face in real time. For me, that's mostly been a matter of the nature of the relationships I've had with the women I've known compared to the men I've had as friends. However, *this is an* *anonymous forum* where no one knows who you are. You've absolutely nothing to lose by sharing your inner thoughts and everything to gain by possibly meeting the Domme of your dreams as a result of a woman reading something you've shared! [&:] - pixel

pixelslave -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 3:06:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha A lot of submissive men say they don't want to brag about their capabilities. One point of this thread was that if submissive men were a little bit more tactical about how they did it, it would not come across as bragging, it would come across as conversation with other submissive men and you'd have many femdoms "listening in" -- and that's a great way to present your skills without looking like an egomaniac. And, subs would be surprised at what other subs shared. The key is that it should not seem too forced, and at the core it needs to be honest, both in content and in motive. Akasha Akasha, You make a very good point. I was contacted here on CM by the woman who recently became my Mistress, following her having read something I'd posted here on the boards. She's commented more than once that she found it very attractive and pleasing to her that my profile began with what I felt I had to offer a Mistress as her submissive and not what I wanted from her instead. [8\|] - pixel

stockingluvr54 -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 5:51:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe I get so tired of the pathetic excuses men make online. I get endless and I do mean endless emails from men listing in great details what they would like for me to DO TO them. But when you ask what skills or talents they have to bring to the table, they can't express themselves? Bullcrop. I have never found a single man online that had much trouble expressing his desires, needs or wants. Mistress... Not sure if you're directing that at me and/or men in general. If you may think I'm just another pathetic online idiot male....fine. I could care less what someone thinks if they're going to lump me in the with the group and not consider me an individual. One thing though... We've never spoke in private....so we really don't know squat about each other or how one would respond to each others words in private. Lump me in with a general pathetic group if you choose but there just might be more to a persons private side than what you see on a public forum. I'm sorry that the pm's you receive seem to be one-sided. I've probably sent out 50 pms over the last 5 yrs and always get the silent treatment so I don't send out pm's anymore. A little jaded....damn rights! Apparently there's nothing special about my approach even though I felt I'd made a serious effort to be honest and straight forward? So maybe I am just another hungry dog in the pack.....but nobody will ever really know unless we talk in private....one-on-one....then make your judgement.

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 6:19:45 PM)
...fast reply. I find it amusing that so many guys say they do not understand women, and they wish they knew what made them tick, or they wish they knew how to get favorable responses. Then when women offer up advice on how to get favorable responses some of these very same men get defensive instead. Why not just take the advice and get the positive feedback you are looking for?

cloudboy -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 6:35:51 PM)
Who exactly got defensive?

undergroundsea -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 7:43:45 PM)
Hey Guys! What is the longest you have given a foot rub? I think I once did it for two days straight but am looking for tips to help me go even longer. Do you do any stretching exercises? I think playing Nintendo would be good thumb strengthening exercises! I recommend NBA Live. Do you have any other recommendations? And I want to make sure I drink gatorade and V8 to prevent cramping of the thumbs. I mean they never cramp playing Nintendo but you can never be too prepared, right? But I am concerned about how the drinks will affect nature calls. I am thinking it's a good idea to go to the bathroom just before beginning the foot massage. And I think it might help to sit in a way where your legs are crossed so that if you do get the urge to pee, your legs are already crossed. Alternatively, you could massage with one hand and push down on the head of your penis really hard with the thumb of the other hand until the domme herself needs to get up to use the restroom. I would keep a towel on my lap so as to be a bit subtle about it. We must maintain elegance! Maybe we should serve them lots of gatorade, and V8 so that we have similar pee schedules? Or what if we set up a barstool right in front of the toilet and sit on the toilet to give the footrub while the domme sits on the barstool? I mean, they would enjoy the footrub more with us naked anyway. Right? Problem solved! Hey, thanks for your all your help! Cheers, Sea

pollux -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 8:06:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: undergroundsea Hey Guys! What is the longest you have given a foot rub? I think I once did it for two days straight but am looking for tips to help me go even longer. Do you do any stretching exercises? I think playing Nintendo would be good thumb strengthening exercises! I recommend NBA Live. Do you have any other recommendations? And I want to make sure I drink gatorade and V8 to prevent cramping of the thumbs. I mean they never cramp playing Nintendo but you can never be too prepared, right? But I am concerned about how the drinks will affect nature calls. I am thinking it's a good idea to go to the bathroom just before beginning the foot massage. And I think it might help to sit in a way where your legs are crossed so that if you do get the urge to pee, your legs are already crossed. Alternatively, you could massage with one hand and push down on the head of your penis really hard with the thumb of the other hand until the domme herself needs to get up to use the restroom. I would keep a towel on my lap so as to be a bit subtle about it. We must maintain elegance! Maybe we should serve them lots of gatorade, and V8 so that we have similar pee schedules? Or what if we set up a barstool right in front of the toilet and sit on the toilet to give the footrub while the domme sits on the barstool? I mean, they would enjoy the footrub more with us naked anyway. Right? Problem solved! Hey, thanks for your all your help! Cheers, Sea That's nothing. I once gave my Mistress a footrub for THREE days straight. While doing her taxes at the same time.

MzMia -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 8:10:58 PM)
You guys are worth considering, can you possibly do more things? Can you perhaps just sleep every other night, and that way you could cook and clean on the nights you don't sleep![:D]

undergroundsea -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 8:21:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pollux That's nothing. I once gave my Mistress a footrub for THREE days straight. While doing her taxes at the same time. Dude, that's awesome! Did you use turbo tax or straight from IRS pub instructions? Hopefully by next year, I will have the tax code memorized so that I have to rely on neither. Cheers, Sea

TexasMaam -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 8:24:54 PM)
I think the sub males would be more likely to initiate such discussions if they had their own board, a submale board, the lack of which is My pet peeve here at CM. sigh TM

Tantriqu -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 8:45:00 PM)
Posts I would like to see by a sub: "i read Your post/profile/msg, and felt i had to reply with my appreciation of Your le mot juste/poem/experience. 'i work, exercise, study and volunteer. Although i am very successful and happy in my vanilla life, i know i need to Serve a Domme to be complete, and when i read [direct quote], i knew i had to try to be Yours. i am well-trained in massage, japanese calligraphy, oral Service, front and back, and if permitted, look forward to assisting You to go to sleep and awaken in Orgasm. i am not a masochist, switch, or bi-, and although my orgasms would be completely a matter for You to decide, if desired, perhaps You would like to take my virgin ass? [and, because this was one of My best pups]: Mistress, i'm a 6'2 slim catholic cop who runs and is a master of martial arts only, of course, who smells divine, has a great sense of humour and is well-read, and i've never made love with anyone except my ex-wife with whom, [here's the fantasy part] along with my parents, children and church, i have a cordial relation." The only thing missing from the fantasy is that he would be a part-time European chocolatier who just won the lottery. But back to reality: for all the rest, all My best pups have fulfilled all those criteria. So I like to see proof they're: interesting, but interested in Me and My skills, that they can listen and obey, then have a sense of humour, they're intelligent, obedient and willing and happy to learn, that they're happy in their lives: employed, sane, and giving to the community, that they love to touch and be touched, and most importantly, that they are aware their pleasure flows from Mine.

cloudboy -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 8:48:39 PM)
I just have to ask, pollux, is that your required position when your Mistress comes to the door?

pollux -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 9:12:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy I just have to ask, pollux, is that your required position when your Mistress comes to the door? Pretty much, at least until her taxes are done.

undergroundsea -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 9:28:20 PM)
I am not sure if I would post to a thread that asked what skills I have. I go into the question of skills only if I am envisioning a relationship that is service only, or if the profile of whomever I am contacting explicitly asks for skills. Otherwise, I simply rely on whatever mention there is in my profile about my interest in service and focus more on personality related matters. For me, in some conversations the question of skills can be fine while in some it can seem odd. Cheers, Sea

littlespike -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/29/2007 9:38:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz I think many of us would like to know in what areas subs/slaves are proficient so that we can gauge their usefulness to us. I agree that skills are important. Like in the book "The Market Place"; the main focus of the slaves' training was to develop skills, which would then be used to improve the lifestyle of the Dominant served. Perhaps something like: finely developed domestic skills. But on the flip side: having a day long foot massage sounds truely awesome! Spike

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs (4/30/2007 2:26:48 AM)
A good sense of humor is also appreciated...at least by me. [:D]

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