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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 9:08:07 AM

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You know, I have always believed in trying to turn negatives into positives. Instead of writing about negative experiences in a public journal, I decided to write a book called: "How to Get Along With Everybody".

Now, I didn't write it, by myself because it was a first-time effort. I wrote it with this complete asshole that was so bossy that all I wanted to do was choke the living life out of him.

Anyway, on a serious note ...

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 9:10:04 AM

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This thread reminded me of a recent article in New York Magazine. http://nymag.com/news/features/27341/

It talked about younger people sharing their private lives on the internet and older ones (over 39) who are more cautious. At the time I read it, it shed alot of understanding on the technology divide with my unmentionable.

The thread reminded me of this article but now in a different light. As mentioned in the article, the over 39 crowd kept physical little locks on our diaries safely hidden under the bed. Many from a younger generation seem more accepting of sharing their vulnerabilities, fears, heartbreaks with the 'world'. I think the age gap is narrowing a bit and the technological divide is not so vast but that is beside the point.

These journal entries are a reflection of who they are, how they think and a peek into their lives. Though I will probably never overcome my need for the little lock on my diary hidden under the bed, I tend to read in awe at those with the courage to completely expose themselves. They are who they are....whether pessimestic, optimistic, bitter, funny, boring, etc. They show it through their journals.

Isn't it better to read journal entries that show a person's character/personality to see if you are compatible before wasting anyone's time and then realizing you aren't a match (that is if the person writing the journal is actually looking to meet someone).

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 9:14:16 AM

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CuriousLord's Journal:
"I'm so awesome. God did himself a favor when he made me, so that he may gaze upon my greatness. Opps, gotta run! I zoned out so much thinking about my tenth, even cooler theory of unification that my massive cock nearly crushed Mnt. Everest again. The damn local girls are going to be after me like I'm on an Axe comercial again."

Hahahaha!! That gave me a pretty damn good laugh, it did.

04/29/07
- So, yeah, I took another good look at my spectacular body today. I should put some photos of myself on E-Bay and pay off the mortgage. Hmmm...

04/30/07
- for the last time, ladies, NO, I'm not trying to take your man! God! I can't help it that they can't resist me!

05/01/07
- I'm a goddamn goddess

ROFL!!!! i am with you guys!! i don't think i am tapping into my full potential here!!

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 9:15:16 AM

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Greetings..~smiles~

While I agree trashing someone openly in a vindictive manner for all to see is not the best form..talking about whatever..be it "good or bad" "public or private" isn't a concern to me.

If I don't like what I'm reading..I stop reading but for pete sakes..I never stop reading with the thought of "gosh..that person should of never made that public". We going to be the jounal police now to? Dictate how and what people should write public or private? What the heck?

I don't want to be private or censored about my life as I feel I wish to write it. Perhaps some crappy days I'm having ..others out there are having the same or similar or have dealt with and can offer some advice or support. What is wrong with that?

I'd honestly be much more interested in hearing the truth of a persons life positive or negative then to constantly think they are putting up a false front. Even more riveted to hear how they handled it or the end result.

If I journal..I journal whats on my mind or what I'm dealing with. If someone else gains something from that or can identify with that no matter how positive or negative then so be it. If a person doesn't like what I've written about..then move on. Some want to be private..bully for you. Some prefer to be exposed..bully for you.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 9:16:25 AM

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Just be pleased that some people have decided to affix warning labels to their own foreheads and save us the trouble of stepping on those landmines.

~stef

And THIS sums it up perfectly!!!!! i agree!

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 9:41:59 AM

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I dunno... I think it is pretty 'funny' that in a site that is all about respecting the parts of peoples lives that they have come here not to have to hide, and in a place where respecting peoples warts is supposed to be the mantra... someone journaling is considered taboo and in poor taste?

I also find it rather obtuse to assume that people who journal are wanting to be rescued, attention seekers or anything of that sort. Some people just write. If you do not want to read... do not read. No one is foisting their journals off on the message board...and many people here have no agenda whatsoever, let alone seek to snatch up a partner or six...

As for keeping things private? Again, rather curious given the amount everyone reveals about themselves here on the forums, their partners, their relationships, how much they cum, how they like to be beaten, how they want to be mutilated, how they want to be degraded, how they like to ....

I just do not see what all the damned fuss is about.

Gimme a break people.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 10:40:24 AM

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I would suggest that if the journal entry's bother you just move on,I know for myself I will use it to send a message some times and other times just like a DEAR DIARY of every day happings....bounty

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 11:09:23 AM

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I consider collarme to be a way for people to interact and communicate. Journals are another way of communicating. Sure, there are things that I don't care to read about it journals, but there are also chat room subjects that I don't care to discuss either. If someone wants to vent in their journal I say go for it. Some people might enjoy it, and some might not. But nobody is twisting anyones arms and forcing them to read it.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 11:37:39 AM

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I consider collarme to be a way for people to interact and communicate. Journals are another way of communicating. Sure, there are things that I don't care to read about it journals, but there are also chat room subjects that I don't care to discuss either. If someone wants to vent in their journal I say go for it. Some people might enjoy it, and some might not. But nobody is twisting anyones arms and forcing them to read it.

Possibly that is what this is all about...But then there is the other train of thought that I have recently stumbled upon that suggests this site might here for two or more women to get together and share 10cc's or a few loving spoonfulls of the Pearljam of domiguy.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 11:42:28 AM

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Quite right, angelic. No one, well let me rephrase, I was not telling anyone what I think they should or should not do with their journal. I was pointing out that if someone is looking for a relationship, they may not realize that a lot of negativity in their journal could alienate a lot of people who would otherwise consider contacting them. Not everyone thinks through the possible consequences.

puella, if someone is looking for a relationship, don't you think putting your best foot forward is sensible? Or, at least, putting a balanced view of yourself. I'm not suggesting honesty is not important (I believe it is critical), but there's the old time and place for everything thing. If you have negative issues, they need to be brought up when you meet someone where you think a relationship might go somewhere. I believe it is shooting yourself in the foot by putting a lot of negativity in your journal. It doesn't give a balanced view of who you are (unless you are really that negative all the time. Then you're just being honest). Again, assuming the person is looking, and not writing for their own benefit.

As for "all the fuss". Huh? I thought we were having a discussion.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 12:22:18 PM

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Wise advice Dominic... you reckon anyone will listen? Mind you I'm not going to be holding my breath or putting any wagers on it.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 1:51:50 PM

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I also find it rather obtuse to assume that people who journal are wanting to be rescued, attention seekers or anything of that sort. Some people just write.

No one said that - it's making it public that expose them as attention seekers and possibly wanting to be resuced. Sure many people write, not everyone feels the need to air their dirty laundry in front of everyone. It's in poor taste to bash people publicly, your not going to gain any favor doing that, so for those who do that i have to wonder what their overiding motivaton may be.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 2:06:38 PM

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I just have to disagree with you velvetears,

People bash people on these forums all the time. That is far more 'public' than your journal.   I have not done an exhaustive study, nor do I intend to but I doubt there is all that much bashing going on... the journal entries are all moderated. And just how are they going to give you this attention you suppose is being sought?? Cyber attention.. woo hoo nothing beats that.

I also do not see how you intend to gain favor via anything on your journal.. someone has to go searching to find you and your journal, it is not just laying out there.   As I said before, judging from the rash of email I get from poly chicks looking for more fodder for their masters, most people do not even manage to read your profile, let alone your journal.

Again... I simply say.. if you do not like it or 'approve' of it.. don't read it.    And why is everyone getting their painties in such a twist?

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 2:45:50 PM

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And why is everyone getting their painties in such a twist?

Well, i for one am not getting my "panties in a twist" as i am not wearing any! LOL!
i find the whole thread quite amusing, actually. However, like many have pointed out - public negative journaling as well as negative profile write-ups always push me away. i like the way these lyrics from Blue October put it:
"Now I only want you to see
My favorite part of me
And not my ugly side
And not my ugly side"
(Ugly side)

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 6:02:36 PM

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I just have to disagree with you velvetears,
You're allowed

People bash people on these forums all the time. That is far more 'public' than your journal.   Yes i see they do, but do 2 wrongs make a right?   i don't think much of anyone who bashes others no matter where i read it. I have not done an exhaustive study, nor do I intend to but I doubt there is all that much bashing going on... the journal entries are all moderated. And just how are they going to give you this attention you suppose is being sought?? Cyber attention.. woo hoo nothing beats that.   Yeah it's as satisfying as cyber sex lol

I also do not see how you intend to gain favor via anything on your journal.. someone has to go searching to find you and your journal, it is not just laying out there.   As I said before, judging from the rash of email I get from poly chicks looking for more fodder for their masters, most people do not even manage to read your profile, let alone your journal.

Again... I simply say.. if you do not like it or 'approve' of it.. don't read it.    And why is everyone getting their painties in such a twist?

Ther're not in a twist and i very rarely read anyones journal - i have enough to keep me busy reading the forums :-)

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 7:00:09 PM

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I guess its a learning process. After a while you dont need to write it down to figure out what went wrong.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 7:30:42 PM

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puella,

I'm not out to tell people what they may and may not write in their journals. I don't understand why you (and some other people on this thread) have taken the tone that I'm trying to make people conform to my ideas of what's appropriate.

Simply put, I'm trying to understand what the fuck people think they are doing when they badmouth former lovers in their journals. Oh, and it's not because I'm looking to hook up with anyone through their journals, as a few of you suggested. It's just that I read journal entries like this, shake my head, and think to myself, what planet is this person from, and what on earth is she (or he, though usually it's a she) going to get out of this repugnant display?

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Again... I simply say.. if you do not like it or 'approve' of it.. don't read it. And why is everyone getting their painties in such a twist?

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 8:06:29 PM

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Just FYI, from my genuine nosey nature, Noah and TreSwank have ~hysterical~ journals. (But then again, I find their posts to be similarly entertaining.)

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/1/2007 9:03:13 PM

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I just have to disagree with you velvetears,

People bash people on these forums all the time. That is far more 'public' than your journal. I have not done an exhaustive study, nor do I intend to but I doubt there is all that much bashing going on... the journal entries are all moderated. And just how are they going to give you this attention you suppose is being sought?? Cyber attention.. woo hoo nothing beats that.

You post pretty regularly for someone who disavows (if you'll pardon the expression) the value of cyber attention.

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I also do not see how you intend to gain favor via anything on your journal.. someone has to go searching to find you and your journal, it is not just laying out there.

It seems disingenuous of you to indicate that you don't understand how favor could be gained via journal entries.

I've been charmed and attracted by entries found in journals here. Haven't you? These journalers effectively found favor with me. One of them is sitting quietly with her knitting in the next room as I post this, as a matter of fact.

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As I said before, judging from the rash of email I get from poly chicks looking for more fodder for their masters, most people do not even manage to read your profile, let alone your journal.

What did your momma tell you about making your decisions based on the behavior of "most people"? Hell, my profile here was carefully constructed so as to disnterest or even alienate most people. Best way I could think of to get them out of the way so I could see where the interesting ones were standing (or, you know, dangling, or whatever)

An appropos question might be: are those journals the OP is complaining about mounted with similar intentions?

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Again... I simply say.. if you do not like it or 'approve' of it.. don't read it. And why is everyone getting their painties in such a twist?

You say panty twisting like it's a bad thing.

Aren't panty-twisting contests all the rage at those exclusive, upstate BDSM campouts this year?

I think I recall reading something from you to the effect that you had endured a rather crushing experience with the end of a relationship. I think you said things about the effect of these events on you. I don't know if this was in journal entries or profile text. I haven't gone back to check.

What I don't recall seeing you do was to relate excruciating, ad nauseum, detail about the awful events; about how awful your ex was and how it was all his fault, etc., etc.

This is just a guess, but I imagine that I'm lining up beside the original poster in stating my preference for people who follow your example, puella, rather than your advice.

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RE: bad news in the journal - 5/2/2007 7:07:04 AM

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Well, i for one am not getting my "panties in a twist" as i am not wearing any! LOL!
i find the whole thread quite amusing, actually. However, like many have pointed out - public negative journaling as well as negative profile write-ups always push me away. i like the way these lyrics from Blue October put it:
"Now I only want you to see
My favorite part of me
And not my ugly side
And not my ugly side"
(Ugly side)

(thread hijack)

Dawntreader, I freaking love that song.. Blue October simply rocks. I've seen them twice, once in Columbus and once in Cleveland. They are so awesome live!

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