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Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 4:31:31 AM

SweetShyBBW4u

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I recently after having many sessions with a Master who I thought was great, finally submitted myself completly and according to him was amazing and the most well behave sub he had ever served him. After this, I knew that I wanted to serve him always but how for some reason he is ignoring me. He is on collarme everyday but when I send him a message, he reads it and never replies. What did I do wrong?

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 4:35:09 AM

marieToo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetShyBBW4u

I recently after having many sessions with a Master who I thought was great, finally submitted myself completly and according to him was amazing and the most well behave sub he had ever served him. After this, I knew that I wanted to serve him always but how for some reason he is ignoring me. He is on collarme everyday but when I send him a message, he reads it and never replies. What did I do wrong?

Obviously I can't know if this applies in your case, but there are ALOT of people on CM who have a problem getting mail through to other members here. It will show opened and read on the sender's end, but it turns out that the receiving party never actually received it. Just a possibility for you to consider. Good luck either way. :)

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 4:37:56 AM

xopenwidex

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I wouldn't have thought you;ve done anything wrong - I wouldn't bother with him any more - ignoring is not Dominating, so he's not a Dom to you. Believe me, as soon as someone else takes and interest in you (and I am sure thats already happening!) - he'll take an interest again! Don't believe him if he gives you the 'I got to close crap' either

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 4:44:33 AM

m0rgan

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i can't answer your question, i recently had the same situation but the other way round! maybe the other person was not what they said, and you thought! one has to kiss a lot of frogs, or not kiss at all! good luck.

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 4:45:54 AM

Lashra

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It could be a forum technical problem. It could be he got what he wanted from you and is ready to move on. Or it could be he doesn't want to committ to collaring you. Which of these it might be? Well you have no way of knowing IF he is ignoring you and if he is ignoring you, he's too immature to bother with, don't you think?

~Lashra

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 4:54:18 AM

SweetShyBBW4u

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Not sure if it is a techinal problem or not but we even use to talk daily on yahoo but now nothing. We spoke about if we wanted this long term and he said he did and couldnt wait to collar me.

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 4:59:03 AM

SweetCaleigh

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Hello sweetshy.. i have had some trouble with idiots like that in the past and it's not fun. In fact, it down right HURTS!

i took the liberty to read your profile and my suggestion to you is to change it. It's only a suggestion. As soon as some wannabe sees that you are insecure, you are easy prey and they will take it upon themselves to make you become their lovely tasty meal for a time then when they have had their fill they will move on to the next culprit. That's not to say you will be fool proof for some of the other wannabes, but it may help a little.

i feel for you sweet, because i have had the same problem in the past. Eventually you learn to spot them more easily and that may help too. Write me anytime if you feel like chatting about it.. i've been there, believe me and so have others. You just have to find different ways to protect yourself.

Oh and by the way, dump Him... He's not worth it.
*sweet caleigh*

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 5:20:35 AM

MrDiscipline44

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Is any of this RT or is this all just online? If it's all just online then you need not worry about it. Sweat the real stuff, not the online crap.

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 5:22:24 AM

Lashra

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It sounds like he's changed his mind and doesn't know how to tell you. Personally, if it were me, I'd just stop contacting him. If he pops up he owes you an explanation and perhaps an apology if he doesn't then hopefully you can meet someone new. It is a shame that people feel that they have the right to play games with another persons life.

Good luck,
~Lashra

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 5:31:51 AM

SirDominic

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First, please HEAR this: You did nothing wrong. When a beginning relationship goes south, it is always the sub who feels the guilt the heaviest. A majority of the time it is nothing they did.

Could he not be getting your emails? It's possible. Yet if he was that interested, he would have emailed you by now.

As others have pointed out, if he won't talk to you, you will never know why he changed his mind. Unfortunately you have to consider that there are notch doms, those, who once they got you, they drop you like a rock, put another notch in their belt, and move on to the next one.

I hope, in the end, it turns out to be something silly, and everything turns out fine for you. Until and if that happens, I would consider moving on with your quest.

And please remember my opening statement. He is the one not worthy, not you.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 5:40:11 AM

Wisenlilminx

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Doubt you did anything wrong. This happens a lot, and I don't have a good explanation for it. Maybe it's a comes with the territory kind of thing.

I think meeting people in a variety of settings, socially, weeds out the people who aren't worth your time. But I'm sure that doesn't help the hurt.
In your journal you wrote, "This lifestyle has a way of letting men think they can play mental head games" and that's the unfortunate truth.

We've met lots of great folks, including through collarme. That's what we can focus on.

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 5:55:53 AM

KatyLied

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I'm guessing he's moved on, you should too.

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 5:57:00 AM

Invictus754

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetShyBBW4u
I recently after having many sessions with a Master who I thought was great, finally submitted myself completly and according to him was amazing and the most well behave sub he had ever served him. After this, I knew that I wanted to serve him always but how for some reason he is ignoring me. He is on collarme everyday but when I send him a message, he reads it and never replies. What did I do wrong?

This actually may be the item which brings you to the attention of another Dom who won't ignore you.

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If slavery is a gift, the Africans were pretty fucking generous in the 1700 and 1800s, weren't they?

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 6:05:31 AM

myobedience

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetShyBBW4u

I recently after having many sessions with a Master who I thought was great, finally submitted myself completly and according to him was amazing and the most well behave sub he had ever served him. After this, I knew that I wanted to serve him always but how for some reason he is ignoring me. He is on collarme everyday but when I send him a message, he reads it and never replies. What did I do wrong?

Tis what happened to me and then he fed me crumbs for 2 years and like a fool I fell for it.
My present Sir, upon wanting to know about the relationship, told me he was the one who lost because it was never about my disobedience but because he couldnt tell me the truth. He was just not that into me.
I feel as if I filled a void at the time and when he was through with me, he didnt have the balls. That is just my story.

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 6:05:59 AM

nighthawk3569

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quote:

ORIGINAL: marieToo

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetShyBBW4u

I recently after having many sessions with a Master who I thought was great, finally submitted myself completly and according to him was amazing and the most well behave sub he had ever served him. After this, I knew that I wanted to serve him always but how for some reason he is ignoring me. He is on collarme everyday but when I send him a message, he reads it and never replies. What did I do wrong?

Obviously I can't know if this applies in your case, but there are ALOT of people on CM who have a problem getting mail through to other members here. It will show opened and read on the sender's end, but it turns out that the receiving party never actually received it. Just a possibility for you to consider. Good luck either way. :)

   Say it ain't so, marieToo! But in case it is, give me your opinion, as a sub, on this scenario: A Top/Dom/Master writes you...you're not interested and don't reply...a week or so later, you get another message from this same person, asking you if you got the original message. Would you be offended by this follow-up message? Assuming that both messages were polite, well written messages. Thanks.

   To SweetShy: It hurts, but try to move past this...don't give up. This will probably bring you to the attention of someone who will appricate what you have to offer. I'm sad to say it, but not all who fly the Dominant flag are honorable.

                                                                             'hawk



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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 6:06:45 AM

jooceelove

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Dear Sweetshy,

First and foremost I am sorry to hear of your sad news, it downright hurts and probably will do for some time to come as I'm sure you didn't enter into it half heartedly.. I too have been there and there's not alot we can do to fix it but to move on in life. Its a shame that people feel they have the so-called right to play around with others emotions and level of committment. Don't punish yourself by way of thinking you are the one in the wrong, it's his loss. As others have said in response to you, he is not worthy of you and all that you have to offer. I very much doubt the fault in technology being the reason, he just isn't MAN enough to step up to his own self. Unfortunately life is full of the good and bad in all respects. I hope and pray you find the one for you. Best wishes and subbie hugs.

~JL~

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 6:08:23 AM

MstrssPassion

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Its already been asked but what the hell

Has all of your contact, including the sessions you mention, all been online only?

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 6:42:32 AM

sassysub15317

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Hi,
I know this is my first post here, but I have lurked for a few months reading the forums; so forgive my intrusion on this topic.

Sweet,
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. I, too, have gone through something similar and the feeling is downright heartbreaking! As many have said there could be a number of reasons why he has not responded. I sincerely hope that his reasons are due to the technical nature and not because he lost interest. However, if it is the case that he lost interest, it is his loss as he didn't get to see the real beauty and abilities in you. Use the experience as a learning tool, in doing so you will be come wiser and stronger for the next Dom in your life.

-Ashley

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 6:44:13 AM

sweetnurseBBW

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Do you have another way to contact him? If so I would try that and see what the problem is. If he still is ignoring you it's him not you. Some people are not adult enough to say when they may have second thoughts or want out. If thats the case it is better for you to move on.

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RE: Being Ignored after submitting to a Master - 5/1/2007 6:53:15 AM

Stranger1

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It's probably best not to give your heart away online, don't know what else to tell you.

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