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Casteele -> RE: Males Only!! Oral Contraception Yes or No? (2/25/2012 9:17:55 PM)
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I vote no, for myself, personally, and for my own reasons. If an unwanted pregnancy was an issue, I would rather take an IUD, use a condom, or something else, but I tend to have two issues with many pills--bad reactions, and frankly, I can't always remember if I took them properly, so it'd be too much a risk for me to rely on pills alone.
However, after reading the entire thread and how this topic came about.. It's say the whole issue of pregnancy and responsibility is on BOTH sides, equally. There is no proper way to blame one side or the other, even if misled, unless it was the intended goal to begin with where one side wanted a pregnancy result that the other side did not want. In such a case, it becomes the responsibility of the side that does not want it to take whatever steps are necessary to minimize the risk. But that still comes down to.. if both sides do not want it, both sides are responsible to take steps to limit the risks they are taking. If you rely on the other and fail to take steps yourself, you only have yourself to blame.
Of course, to my thinking, many of the arguments I've seen here come down to me wondering.. Why did you have sex with the other person to being with? If you do not trust them enough to take precautions, how the hell do you trust them enough to have sex them, protected or otherwise? If you are in a deeper, committed relationship with them, but do not have faith and trust in them, why are you in the relationship? If you're willing to just go out and get your jollies off with whatever hot body is willing, well, then you alone need to take responsibility because you alone decided to take that risk.
I do see a lot of comments from girls portraying guys as predators that take off their wedding rings and run around preying on innocent and naive girls. Is that really a reality? Sure, it does happen, just like there are girls that will try to get a man to knock them up as some kind of entrapment tactic. If all you girls are so well aware of this, why does it happen? Same for the guys. If I give you a gun and warn you that pointing it at your head and pulling the trigger risks getting a bullet in your head, will you blame the gun because you pointed it at your head and pulled the trigger, knowing full well what the consequences are?
And don't try to argue that there are still so many innocents out there who don't know better and get taken advantage of/preyed upon, while at the same time you are arguing that the problem is so prevalent that every guy/girl knows such a risk exists. Such an argument is contradictory in itself. If the problem is merely ignorance and innocence, education and awareness are the cure, not pointing fingers and placing blame. If the problem is risk taking, then owning up to their own choices and responsibilities is the cure, not self-victimization and blaming others for their failures.
For myself, the flat out fact is that if I am going to have sex with a woman, I will discuss the risk of pregnancy with her first (among many other issues), before I put my little peanut anywhere near her monkey cage. Then we negotiate how we're going to proceed, what the risks are, and how we can minimize the risks. I also discuss the possibility that despite all the precautions, it still happens, and what we'll do about it.
It's funny how often I see people here make comments about how they'd negotiate like this before they'd let someone tie them up or other such activity, but it seems so few would be willing to go through all this when it comes to not only a risk that will affect the rest of your life and the life of your partner, but potentially the life of another who is completely innocent of anything beyond being something that nature designed them to be.
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