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ORIGINAL: damia

i apologize in advance to any who are offended by this post. i am in no way racist, and am appalled by this.

Hi. i am a married slave. i am 22, He is 40. i thought i knew everything about Him...until tonight, talking with Him and a friend about culture and society. He asserted that He is by no means racist, but uses racist slurs for people who are idiots (i.e., the n word for blacks, w.b. for Hispanics...if you don't know the actual slurs, ask me if you need to know, and i'll tell you. i do not like writing them, let alone saying them). To me, this is highly offensive, and i asked Him why He does not just call them all fucking idiots, like they are. He said 'because those terms are there for those races for a reason'. Then, He asserted that His children will not be allowed to date anyone not white, because if they get married and have children, it would 'water down the bloodline.' His bloodline is German, descended from nobility and royalty, and He says He has 'racial pride,' and will not allow his bloodline to be watered down.

When i tried to talk to Him about this, asking Him if He would prefer His children date a) a stupid boy who is rude, ignorant, and an asshole, and happens to be white, or b) a well-educated, polite, and 'nice' boy, who happens to be black...He said "Neither. There are perfectly good white boys out there, that He knows there're out there. A little later, He was yelling at me about racial pride and that i don't understand or respect His ancestry, which isn't the case...i finally got up, and went to do something else, because i couldn't sit there and listen to His racist ideals. We don't have children now, and now i am very unsure if i -ever- want kids with Him, because i'm afraid He will teach them to be racist, too.

Part of me wants to run for the hills and never look back...i hate racist people, and i have lost a lot of respect for Him because He is racist, and there is a part of me that hates Him very much for His ignorant racism. But the rest of me says 'No, you love this man; He is your Master and your husband, and whether you agree with Him or not, you belong to Him and should tolerate it.'  But the hatred of people just because of the colour of their skin or because of their genes...that is not something i tolerate, nor is it something i ever learned was to be tolerated.

What should i do? i feel like i've failed, because i have this hatred of this part of Him, when i should love all of Him, and because i can no longer respect Him fully...advice, please??

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

What's the "W.B. word for Hispanics?"

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ORIGINAL: switchguy4u

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

What's the "W.B. word for Hispanics?"

wet backs

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ORIGINAL: damia

i apologize in advance to any who are offended by this post. i am in no way racist, and am appalled by this.

Hi. i am a married slave. i am 22, He is 40. i thought i knew everything about Him...until tonight, talking with Him and a friend about culture and society. He asserted that He is by no means racist, but uses racist slurs for people who are idiots (i.e., the n word for blacks, w.b. for Hispanics...if you don't know the actual slurs, ask me if you need to know, and i'll tell you. i do not like writing them, let alone saying them). To me, this is highly offensive, and i asked Him why He does not just call them all fucking idiots, like they are. He said 'because those terms are there for those races for a reason'. Then, He asserted that His children will not be allowed to date anyone not white, because if they get married and have children, it would 'water down the bloodline.' His bloodline is German, descended from nobility and royalty, and He says He has 'racial pride,' and will not allow his bloodline to be watered down.

When i tried to talk to Him about this, asking Him if He would prefer His children date a) a stupid boy who is rude, ignorant, and an asshole, and happens to be white, or b) a well-educated, polite, and 'nice' boy, who happens to be black...He said "Neither. There are perfectly good white boys out there, that He knows there're out there. A little later, He was yelling at me about racial pride and that i don't understand or respect His ancestry, which isn't the case...i finally got up, and went to do something else, because i couldn't sit there and listen to His racist ideals. We don't have children now, and now i am very unsure if i -ever- want kids with Him, because i'm afraid He will teach them to be racist, too.

Part of me wants to run for the hills and never look back...i hate racist people, and i have lost a lot of respect for Him because He is racist, and there is a part of me that hates Him very much for His ignorant racism. But the rest of me says 'No, you love this man; He is your Master and your husband, and whether you agree with Him or not, you belong to Him and should tolerate it.'  But the hatred of people just because of the colour of their skin or because of their genes...that is not something i tolerate, nor is it something i ever learned was to be tolerated.

What should i do? i feel like i've failed, because i have this hatred of this part of Him, when i should love all of Him, and because i can no longer respect Him fully...advice, please??

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: damia

i apologize in advance to any who are offended by this post. i am in no way racist, and am appalled by this.

Hi. i am a married slave. i am 22, He is 40. i thought i knew everything about Him...until tonight, talking with Him and a friend about culture and society. He asserted that He is by no means racist, but uses racist slurs for people who are idiots (i.e., the n word for blacks, w.b. for Hispanics...if you don't know the actual slurs, ask me if you need to know, and i'll tell you. i do not like writing them, let alone saying them). To me, this is highly offensive, and i asked Him why He does not just call them all fucking idiots, like they are. He said 'because those terms are there for those races for a reason'. Then, He asserted that His children will not be allowed to date anyone not white, because if they get married and have children, it would 'water down the bloodline.' His bloodline is German, descended from nobility and royalty, and He says He has 'racial pride,' and will not allow his bloodline to be watered down.

When i tried to talk to Him about this, asking Him if He would prefer His children date a) a stupid boy who is rude, ignorant, and an asshole, and happens to be white, or b) a well-educated, polite, and 'nice' boy, who happens to be black...He said "Neither. There are perfectly good white boys out there, that He knows there're out there. A little later, He was yelling at me about racial pride and that i don't understand or respect His ancestry, which isn't the case...i finally got up, and went to do something else, because i couldn't sit there and listen to His racist ideals. We don't have children now, and now i am very unsure if i -ever- want kids with Him, because i'm afraid He will teach them to be racist, too.

Part of me wants to run for the hills and never look back...i hate racist people, and i have lost a lot of respect for Him because He is racist, and there is a part of me that hates Him very much for His ignorant racism. But the rest of me says 'No, you love this man; He is your Master and your husband, and whether you agree with Him or not, you belong to Him and should tolerate it.'  But the hatred of people just because of the colour of their skin or because of their genes...that is not something i tolerate, nor is it something i ever learned was to be tolerated.

What should i do? i feel like i've failed, because i have this hatred of this part of Him, when i should love all of Him, and because i can no longer respect Him fully...advice, please??

damia, i am very sorry this has happened to you.  There seems to be an element of deceit in yr husband's conduct, concealing his bigotry until after you were collared and married..  Doubtless he did it because he knew his views would cause you to reject him.
 
i had a highly racist husband for a number of years.  i also had an unmentionable with him.  The only time i really stood up to him was on hate speech; he was not allowed to use it in front of me or the unmentionable.
 
Fast forward 22 years, and the unmentionable graduates college and decides to go live with her dad to get to know him better, since we had been divorced since she was little.  Three weeks later i get a hysterical phone call; apparently the stupid man let fly with some racist remarks in front of her.  She was appalled; she never suspected that her own dad was a bigot.  She'd been raised to believe a bigot was about as low as a person could go.
 
i have no words of wisdom for you.  All i can tell you is had we not had "dentente" at my house, i'd have left him.  i put up with all stripes of crap from this man but i would not have allowed my unmentionable to hear such things.
 
i wish you peace of mind, whatever you decide to do.

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: switchguy4u

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

What's the "W.B. word for Hispanics?"

wet backs

Actually it's "Worker Bee", but the drones seem to keep forgetting that.

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet) 

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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

Your post underscores the importance of people discussing their attitudes about race, religion and prejudices in general.  A long time ago, an African American man taught me that one prejudice is all prejudice; that no racial slurs are acceptable even if we are not part of race or religion, we are all part of the human race.  I very much agree with what others have said.  Once you lose respect in a relationship for your partner, you can hang it up.  Respect is everything.  Without it, you have nothing.  I  am sorry for your dilemma.

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ORIGINAL: switchguy4u

Humans aren't a "race" they're a species.

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Don't be afraid that he will raise them racist. Know that he will, at least try, to raise them racist.

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ORIGINAL: damia

...He asserted that His children will not be allowed to date anyone not white, because if they get married and have children, it would 'water down the bloodline.' His bloodline is German, descended from nobility and royalty, and He says He has 'racial pride,' and will not allow his bloodline to be watered down....