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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

Here is the reason why simply it just cannot work.  5-10 years, yes it can work out fine.  But a 20 yr age difference, come on now that is like your father there.  Also lets forget about the different stages life.  People die.  So lets say you are 25 and you have a 45 year old dom.  The life expentancy is between 65-75.  So lets just say 70 for all intentive purposes that odds are he will die around 70.  So now you are 50, do you really want to be a widower at age 50?  Also now lets say you want to have kids.  Odds are again you will not have kids within the first 2 or 3 years that you are together, atleats intentionally.  So lets say you are about 29 when you want to have kids, that means he will be 49.  So you will be 30 when the kid is born, and he will be 50.  That is only if you want one kid, i mean the guy will be a senior citizen with 1 or 2 or 3 kids.  Does not matter if it is bdsm or vanilla, you cannot be as good of a father to a 5 or a 10 year old as a guy who is in his 30s can be.  If you think about it you know I am right.  Just so you all know, I am not bashing senior citizens.  Now yes I am aware that there are a few out there who have all this energy when they are in their 50s and 60s, but when you are in your 60s, are you still going to be wanting to run around and chasing after kids and wanting to play football or baseball with them 4-5 days a week plus all the other things you have to do while being a parent?

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

and D/s relationships aren't all romance and fluff. It's not all about finding the next parent to your child. That's a tad narrow view to see things.

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji


Are you one of those guys who writes the ladies messages how you would be better for them?

Yours (well, not yours, but I always say it),


benji

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

Here is the reason why simply it just cannot work
Oh boy...this is gonna be good...i'm all ears
5-10 years, yes it can work out fine.  But a 20 yr age difference, come on now that is like your father there
Well, more like my "Daddy" but...yeah, that's a GOOD thing
Also lets forget about the different stages life.  People die
Yes...at all ages....i could get hit by a bus tomorrow.  That's not a good argument.  If i sit around and worry that He's going to die before me, what quality of life would W/we have? Yes, He may very well do so but it's not how many years W/we have, it's the quality of the ones W/we'll share.
Also now lets say you want to have kids
Nope, never have, never will...next point?  Oh, there is no next point. 
 
Please don't tell me that is your well-thought-out analysis of why a 20 year age difference in a relationship won't work.    For Master and i, it works wonderfully.  His children are all grown - my age and older.  i never wanted any and He wants no more.  W/we are perfect for each other and yes W/we realize, chances are, He will die first - maybe.  But, if He does, W/we will have had the wonderful time together and i will have beautiful memories.  Am i going to deny either of U/us that just because He MIGHT die first?  No way.  i'll enjoy every second i have with Him until that day..........slave luci

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

Here is the reason why simply it just cannot work.  5-10 years, yes it can work out fine.  But a 20 yr age difference, come on now that is like your father there.  Also lets forget about the different stages life.  People die.  So lets say you are 25 and you have a 45 year old dom.  The life expentancy is between 65-75.  So lets just say 70 for all intentive purposes that odds are he will die around 70.  So now you are 50, do you really want to be a widower at age 50?  Also now lets say you want to have kids.  Odds are again you will not have kids within the first 2 or 3 years that you are together, atleats intentionally.  So lets say you are about 29 when you want to have kids, that means he will be 49.  So you will be 30 when the kid is born, and he will be 50.  That is only if you want one kid, i mean the guy will be a senior citizen with 1 or 2 or 3 kids.  Does not matter if it is bdsm or vanilla, you cannot be as good of a father to a 5 or a 10 year old as a guy who is in his 30s can be.  If you think about it you know I am right.  Just so you all know, I am not bashing senior citizens.  Now yes I am aware that there are a few out there who have all this energy when they are in their 50s and 60s, but when you are in your 60s, are you still going to be wanting to run around and chasing after kids and wanting to play football or baseball with them 4-5 days a week plus all the other things you have to do while being a parent?

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

I would like to know why I see so many subs and slaves, particulary female, go after doms who are atleast 5 years older than them and not male doms their own age?

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

I would like to know why I see so many subs and slaves, particulary female, go after doms who are atleast 5 years older than them and not male doms their own age?  Also for the ones who are bi, why would they go after a domme who is their age but will only go for a dom who is atleast 5 years older than them?  Also do not tell me becuase of maturity, I have worked in corporations such as readers digest, a fortune 500 company that i will  not name, and various other companys that have people ranging from 25-70 and generally there are really not that mature or much more mature than me, atleast the ones who do not have kids anyways

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji
Can I be the first one to call the OP a tool?  PLEASE???  Pretty please?
YAY!!!
OP:  You are a tool.
benji
Awwwww, come on.  Don't call the young'n a "tool."  He's just a bit unable to comprehend why anyone would desire someone much older.  Hopefully, after reading all the responses, he'll come to a better understanding.............slave luci

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But a 20 yr age difference, come on now that is like your father there.  Also lets forget about the different stages life.  People die. 

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

I would like to know why I see so many subs and slaves, particulary female, go after doms who are atleast 5 years older than them and not male doms their own age?  Also for the ones who are bi, why would they go after a domme who is their age but will only go for a dom who is atleast 5 years older than them?  Also do not tell me becuase of maturity, I have worked in corporations such as readers digest, a fortune 500 company that i will  not name, and various other companys that have people ranging from 25-70 and generally there are really not that mature or much more mature than me, atleast the ones who do not have kids anyways

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

well first, I should clarify.  It is not a bad thing if you look for both your age and older, but girls who only look for older.  Let's be honest, someone who is 15 or 20 years older than you, there really cannot be a relationship.  A long term one atleast.