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ORIGINAL: DarkDreams123

Well, velvetears, why are we on here at all? I doubt that our motives are quite so pure that entertainment isn't somewhat of a factor.

I do understand what you are saying about a kind of clique. Not only does this clique tend to post on the same threads together, but they also tend to congratulate one another as they disparage the OP.

Isn't this just really human nature? You know, even though we are adults now, we are still the same person that we were as a child. Perhaps more sophisticated, perhaps wiser (hopefully), but deep down we still have the same needs we have always had: a need for approval, attention, a sense of belonging.

I think CollarMe is a venue for getting some these needs met (I would hope we all have other venues as well!). It's a social club: with all of the good points and bad points that entails.

I think you make a good point that it should at least be a clean debate: no name calling, character assination, etc. The debate should center around the ideas being presented and not the personalities.

I appreciate the ideas of lighthearted in the sense of being more thoughtful about my replies and limiting the volume.

-DarkDreams

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i just dislike hypocracy.

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ORIGINAL: happypervert

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i just dislike hypocracy.

Oh really? Looks to me like you're getting on your high horse and pointing fingers at the clique because they get on their high horses and point fingers at the drama whores. You've done nothing constructive here at all, and that make you a hypocrite too.

Welcome to the club!

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   Looks to me like you're getting on your high horse and pointing fingers at the clique because they get on their high horses and point fingers at the drama whores.

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ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

minnetar,
I did not see any names specifically mentioned.

Velvet,
No matter what is said here, people are going to behave the way they choose.   If I were you, I wouldn't focus on the why, instead, I would simply not focus my attention to behaviors that were bothersome. 

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ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling

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   Looks to me like you're getting on your high horse and pointing fingers at the clique because they get on their high horses and point fingers at the drama whores.

The cliques ARE the drama whores.

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ORIGINAL: astarri

i watch, while having dinner in a nice restaurant, a man be arrongant and rude and condescending to the waitress. These behaviours speak loudly ...everyone has a little mean streak inside of them ... it is merely a matter of controlling it.

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hypocracy.

Look up the definition -

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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

hy·poc·ri·sy   1.a pretense of having a virtuous character, moral or religious beliefs or principles, etc., that one does not really possess. 2.a pretense of having some desirable or publicly approved attitude.
I dunno.  Its not quite the same as saying one thing and doing another.  The definition seems to have more to do with putting forth the pretense of virtue, so its a bit more precise.

One thing I've always liked about the called "cliques" in question (I'm assuming we're all talking about the same thing) is that I see no pretense. 

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250
Hey! No-one's invited ME to be in their clique yet!
What gives?
No clique can hold you.  You're too funny and independent-thinking to be part of a throng....luci 

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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

hy·poc·ri·sy   1.a pretense of having a virtuous character, moral or religious beliefs or principles, etc., that one does not really possess. 2.a pretense of having some desirable or publicly approved attitude.
I dunno.  Its not quite the same as saying one thing and doing another.  The definition seems to have more to do with putting forth the pretense of virtue, so its a bit more precise.

One thing I've always liked about the called "cliques" in question (I'm assuming we're all talking about the same thing) is that I see no pretense. 

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ORIGINAL: ICGsteve

The innocent getting played with  as entertainment is a problem, and I suspect that the experience is sometime traumatic for the OP, but the only solution is to have heavy handed Mods. The cure is worse than the problem. I think that most of the time all are willing participants in the entertainment experience, and then there is no problem at all.

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The pretense as i see it is their assuming the stance of hating the drama yet they seek out those threads and add to the drama. 

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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The pretense as i see it is their assuming the stance of hating the drama yet they seek out those threads and add to the drama. 

I also realize that when people purposely "out" themselves as participants in drama they are attention-whoring.  It's entertainment.  You need to look at the posters as people with a kink for public humiliation, and give 'em what they seek.