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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/15/2007 10:14:24 PM

Mikal

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Hmmm... my biggest turn offs...

Physically: as per above, poor hygiene and/or offensive smell, nasty teeth, smoking of any kind, and the willingness to get drunk

. I'm very fond of women my height or better, but shortness isn't a disqualifier per se. Skinny/anorexic is a no-no (if I wanted to hug a skeleton, I'd get one of those plastic ones that you can take out then ignore). Also, I want a woman that LOOKS like a woman, not an adolecent boy

. STD's is a huge one for me... even if she's perfect in all other aspects, an std will send me running.

Mentally: lives, eats & breaths BDSM (ie has no life or interest in anything else), general mean spiritedness & rudeness, poor outlook on life, dislikes the holidays (I love Christmas and Hallowe'en

), unwilling to accept that maybe the fault is theirs, being unable/unwilling to communicate (if you don't like/want/understand something, for heavens sake, TELL ME!!! I am NOT a psychic. If I was, I wouldn't be wasting my time here - I'd be out buying the next winning lotto ticket and avoiding the next plane crash). Being dumb (that is, not understanding cause & effect, basic math, and that 'bleaching' your hair doesn't mean pouring a gallon of javex bleach on your head!). Liars, cheats, etc. Poly minded (and no, I'm not talking about birds). Lacking a sense of humour that is pleasant... if you find other people's misfortunes amusing, go away. Sarcasm is fine (my humour), so long as it isn't derogatory (unless it's towards the government... then go for it!!!

)

Meah. That's about it. Not that whomever is reading this is really, really, REALLY interested, but...

... there you go.

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/15/2007 10:58:39 PM

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Turn Offs:

physical: No greasy hair.

mental: Expecting me to worship them or be owned after a few emails, expecting total submission without first developing an open dialog of sharing and at least a few conversations on the phone first, Please, then of course I'd fall at Your feet. General mental laziness like forgetting where You put me!

Turn Ons!
physical: Can carry themselves well at whatever weight.

mental: Self confidence, sense of humor, sexy in a classy/trashy sort of way, and loves and cares actively for others as well as themselves. Also wouldn't hurt to be able to grab me and dance with me on the street at the drop of a hat ;-)

Just thought I'd add that last part as a advertisement! ;-P

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/16/2007 6:07:34 AM

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You should be okay.... I have yet to see "logging onto my account by accident and posting as me" listed in the Turn Off thread

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/16/2007 6:12:22 AM

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Women who claim that your and you're are a big deal while ignoring the more offensive uses of two, to, and too.

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/16/2007 7:51:39 PM

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Gotta agree with Samba's girl.
MEAT is GOOD! I hate rail-thin, or musclebound pretty boys. (Funny I should be so attracted to Pete Townshend, eh? So skinny..) I love a soft, comfy tummy to cuddle into, something to rub my cheek against, to wrap my arms around. Plus I hate the feeling that I'm gonna break a guy if I ride 'em!
I also dislike young. I prefer older men (man, now. :) ) by far. I also dislike men who shave their.. wherever, I even like a bit of facial hair. If you don't have some nice fuzz to nestle into, I'm really not too turned on.

Mental.. well now. I dislike stupidity and even ignorance... I know some can't help being ignorant, but it's a terrible turn off. Oh, and men who talk to me like this: "ru a gud slave? git on ur nees n surve B cuz ur a slut. neel to ur compUtor." But that's just online stuff, really. If you can't be bothered to string together one of those oh-so-pesky three letter words (yes boys, I know "you" is a terribly tough and time-consuming word to spell out.) I pretty much think you're a moron right off. Unimaginative and stubborn people also turn me off. I like a guy who can keep an open mind and actually talk to me. Racism is also an enormous turn off, and something that will probably end a relationship before it begins.

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/16/2007 8:01:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

Physically: Poor hygeine, obese

Mentally: stupidity, poor manners, lack of self control, total arrogance, no personality, dull, no sense of humor, dishonesty

Bingo! The poor hygiene is a deal breaker for me but as far as obesity goes, I have had overweight doms who have had more class than the physically fit doms. Then again, I am a BBW who is working on becoming healthy.

Rudeness is the deal breaker for me and I just encountered one today. He is relatively new on this site, so if you see a site where this individual complains about subs who are not engaging enough and turned him down because I would not talk to him on the phone...well....that would be him. Anyway, I love delete and block.

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/16/2007 8:10:29 PM

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For me:
Liars, cheats, sluts, cheuvanists, egomaniacs, idiots, anyone who cannot hold a conversation about any top is aside from themselves.

Physically, bad hygine, bad teeth, too much body hair

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/16/2007 10:02:05 PM

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I'm into women, hence

PHYSICAL
1. anorexic or skinny figures
2. poor personal hygiene (I excuse hot weather, physical exertion and depression, and in men)
3. fakeness (women who present themselves as unconvincing transvestites)

I don't have an issue with obesity, disfigurement, disability, because (a) such matters may be beyond that person's control and (b) physical appearance or dress sense isn't a high priority.

MENTAL (EVERYONE)
1. rudeness
2. wilful stupidity and ignorance
3. stereotyping and labelling people, prejudice
4. lack of compassion or empathy
5. dishonesty in all conceivable forms
6. fascism, sexism, misogyny, racism
7. the victim mentality
8. lack of self-control
9. a willingness to compound the misery and misfortune of others
10. people who are ostentatious, fake, artificial or shallow

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/17/2007 4:08:42 AM

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Spinach in the teeth..... loudness......deceit of any sort........ chewing with the mouth open..... not doing what I say, when I say it......

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/17/2007 11:35:16 AM

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Nice, thought-provoking topic, Princess....

Physically, maybe 'too much' flab would be a turn off, but once i'm connected to my Domme, it won't really matter....it's just a matter of being able to look right into Her heart, and adoring Her for who She is....in other words, it's about how good i am as a submissive!

Mentally, and this has actually happened with me, when my Domme turns out to be a submissive soul in disguise!

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/17/2007 12:31:25 PM

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hmmms

physical ... being ill groomed (badly kept nails, not trimming, dry hard skin) I like male/female partners to take pride in themselves and how they look

character turn offs - pettiness, micromanagement, complaining, racism, bigotry, lack of education (by self or from schooling), bad manners, having a stick up their ass about something, being overly mystical about our Ms dynamic, men who use words like "snuggle" etc or generally try to be cute, obsessive about protocol due to insecurity, aggressive drunks (nothing wrong with people being drunk as long as they dont behave like royal knob cheese), men who give specified names for body parts which are just trite

but the worst ... and there is no coming back from this .. it causes instant repulsion ... i am turned off utterly by people who insult my intelligence either directly .. or by assuming as a submissive i am a dumb cunt

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/17/2007 2:58:37 PM

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Physically: poor hygiene, too thin, not caring for themselves, too much makeup

Mentally: no sense of humor, dishonesty, bad manners, lack of consideration for others

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/18/2007 5:35:55 AM

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I think it's funny that while all the Dom/mes on here want a 'dirty' sub, none of them actually want one that doesn't shave and smells funny.

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/18/2007 9:44:03 AM

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Physical: Obesity, poor hygeine, distances...
Mental: Not addressing obesity to the best of one's ability, goofy clown-like laughter all of the time, lack of a sense of adventure
Spiritual: No belief in a Higher Power of one's own understanding

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 5/18/2007 1:41:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie

I've seen a whole lot of topics about what people want from their Dom/mes or subbies, but I don't think I've seen one about what turns you away from a prospective partner.

What are the top things physically that make you unattracted?
What are the mental things that turn you off to a person?

For me:
Physical- I really dislike excessive body hair [and I mean really excessive], as well as any sort of flab. It sounds a bit hoitytoity, but looking at fat really does make me nauseous.

Mental- I hate stupidity when it is an overarching theme and not just an occasional lapse of judgement. I also dislike when Doms don't listen to what I say just because they're Dominant and they think they're above criticism.

[If this is a repeat thread, I'm terribly sorry.]

Physicality: not caring about One's appearance; just not attractive, describing One's cock as an instrument of destruction and regaling me with tales of women ripped apart by said cock.

Mentalality: Well, yea, stupid. i need Someone i can carry on a long, meandering conversation with about anything from politics to philosphy.

Additionally: Lying, bigotry, lack of self control, neglecting me for no reason, raising One's voice, fist or other thing in anger, a total lack of women F/friends, recently divorced and bitter, etc.

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 6/27/2007 2:28:28 PM

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Anger, intolerance/prejudice/hatred, body odor - especially from garlic/garlic powder in perspiration and ketosis from Atkins/low carb diets), poor dental hygiene, and morbid obesity (I feel guilty as hell about the latter).

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 6/27/2007 3:42:10 PM

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physically: someone who stinks, whether it's their fault or not. poor hygiene. rudeness to me or others. chewing with mouth open or spitting when talking, ick. skinny guys. definately smokers.

mentally: bigots, uncooth people, assholes who think admitting they are is the only excuse they need for acting that way, and the truly clueless. It's not about IQ, it's about something deeper

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 6/27/2007 5:04:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Stupidity, but not the generic sense that I think a lot of previous posters are stating. The turn off for me is not because someone is not intelligent but because someone has no desire to learn more and thinks he or she knows everything that is needed to know. These are the sort of people who will argue over any subject, even if they know very little about it or read a synopsis of an article about the topic. These are the sort of people you see rolling their eyes because an actual intelligent response is too much work. These are the sort of people who make snap judgments of others based on stereotypes of others who they stereotyped before you.

Physical: I'm generally turned off by excessive piercings. Yeah, I know a lot of people in our community have them, but at some point they become a bit much for me. They seem to exude a sense of "yes, I'm much cooler than you" and I'm comfortable enough with myself to realize that most people are cooler than I am, so I don't need a billboard trouncing that fact.

I personally don't think piercings, or tattoos makes a person cool or cooler....

physical:

I don't really like tattoos, although a few tasteful ones I don't really have a problem with. Also don't like piercings that are stretched open like when people have huge gauge earrings. Its irritating that someone would mutilate themselves that much, and it will never be normal again....I also don't like lip piercings.....
Another thing that bugs me is any marks on the face....

mentally:

(1) unstable violent personality, I'd like to not be killed.......(2).too submissive or someone who needs to be micromanaged, (3)any dishonesty or cheating in the past...if you done it before you'll probably do it again, history repeats....
(4) telling me your problems too early in a relationship.....(5) desperation (6) rebounding, if your constantly in one relationship after another and cannot be happy without a relationship.....similiar to desperate.....(7) felon (8) smoking, its a turn off, although I have dated women who smoked before... (9) kids, although its not as big as the previous ones, I rather the woman I'm with to not have any kids by anyone but me......

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thought of more:

hair spray, I like to run my fingers thru the hair
lipstick, I don't like kiissing someone and having lipstick rub off on me....

extremely attactive and agressive: I think your trying to give me your cooties/STD's...its a conspiracy I tell you!!!

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 6/27/2007 6:08:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie

I've seen a whole lot of topics about what people want from their Dom/mes or subbies, but I don't think I've seen one about what turns you away from a prospective partner.

What are the top things physically that make you unattracted?
What are the mental things that turn you off to a person?

For me:
Physical- I really dislike excessive body hair [and I mean really excessive], as well as any sort of flab. It sounds a bit hoitytoity, but looking at fat really does make me nauseous.

Mental- I hate stupidity when it is an overarching theme and not just an occasional lapse of judgement. I also dislike when Doms don't listen to what I say just because they're Dominant and they think they're above criticism.

[If this is a repeat thread, I'm terribly sorry.]

Any Domme that is incapable of keeping me in the style I've become accustomed to....well...she can just flush any chance she has with me.

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RE: What are your biggest turn offs? - 6/27/2007 6:12:11 PM

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For me it would not be so much physical as the mental. If they are incapable of teaching/learning, are prejudiced, or intolerant of others, these would be turn offs for me

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