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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:01:29 PM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		If your picking the resturant to meet in why cant you provide directions?? I dont see a reason why you cant just tell them how to get there?? I know the first time Master and I met he came to pick me up at my house and I gave him detailed directions then the first time I went to his house he gave me the same. I dont really see the problem!

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:08:00 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		The first time I met Master I had to go into a city I knew nothing about. I got directions online. However, they didn't take into account construction and detours to my horror.  He met me at a shopping center parking lot so I didn't get to lost.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:15:55 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Speaking as someone with a geographical IQ of about 8- I appreciate directions.  Specially as I'm still a newbie to this town, mapping directions aren't always accurate and aren't always the best way.  And if you have to worry about parking somewhere OTHER than the restaurant, that's another anxiety issue.

So I would feel someone who got pissed at my asking for directions would be a clear sign that we weren't meant for eachother- because my geographical stupidity would surely be too much of an irritation for us both over time.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:27:13 PM   
babygirlangel


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Status: offline 		umm... well im really bad at giving directions... and following them as far as that goes.. and i really appreciate the online maps... BUT.. i also like to have what my family calls "hick" directions..
yeah, its down'ere a piece, next todah McD's.. turn right and then go todah big barn... lolol
Once, though, i had a Dom ask ME for directions.. (god help Him) and i told him i was terrible at directions, but he demanded it... so i looked it up online and gave it to him from there... laughsssss

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:27:36 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		My Daddy came from another city to meet me. He travelled over 5 hours. I found him a good price on a room, gave him directions to the hotel he stayed at. I chose the restaurant we met at and gave him directions to it. If I had come to him, I would expect him to give me directions to where a good place to stay was and how to get to where we were supposed to meet. I think that the person that decides where to meet should be the one to communicate the best way to get there.. it just seems rational to me.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:30:58 PM   
fadedlace


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Speaking as someone with a geographical IQ of about 8- I appreciate directions.  Specially as I'm still a newbie to this town, mapping directions aren't always accurate and aren't always the best way.  And if you have to worry about parking somewhere OTHER than the restaurant, that's another anxiety issue.

So I would feel someone who got pissed at my asking for directions would be a clear sign that we weren't meant for eachother- because my geographical stupidity would surely be too much of an irritation for us both over time.


Oh, thank you for posting this...as someone who gets turned around at the mall, and the butt of jokes that I need a GPS at all times, I appreciate that I'm not alone at asking clear directions ANYWHERE...

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:33:27 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Does anyone use a real map anymore? 


I have even made them, but I am a freak that loves geography yet does not drive. Give me a topo map or a street map, or a drawing on a napkin and I can find where it is I am going.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:34:58 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elorin

There is nothing wrong with asking for directions. However, taking the time to look up the directions shows an ability to think for yourself, initiative, and web-savvy. All of which are traits that tend to be pleasantly viewed by dominas like myself.
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I am sorry but this just sounds strange to me. You do realize that some of us sub types like a dominant that knows how to communicate directions...

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 9:46:07 PM   
MistressLorelei


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Status: offline 		I have lived in my state for just five months, and have used MapQuest and other "map" sites, and have gotten lost, taken the longest or most confusing route possible, and a couple of times, the location was a about a mile away from, where MapQuest claimed it was. I now get directions from someone who has been there... and sometimes the people working at the location don't have a clue how they got there and can get you lost faster than MapQuest.  I try to rely on people I know.

When I lived in Fort Lauderdale, I could give people the quickest route, provide landmarks, and help them find a location in a timely manner.  Perhaps good directions to the restaurant could keep me  from sitting and waiting while the person I'm waiting for is lost... and late.  I wonder if maybe it's actually more considerate to ask for directions. 

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 10:03:18 PM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		For the love of God people, we're talking asking for directions here.
Have we become so pious and self-centered that we can't simply
help someone whom has gotten past that oh-so-maligned and
oh-so-discussed hurdle of actually wanting to meet with you
beyond the email emptiness and cyber circus. They're not asking
you to submit to a blood-letting for crying out loud. Geezzzzzzzzz!
Oh great, where the hell...........hey, can somebody help me get
out of this threadbare thread?

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet)

edited because i misspelled my name, suppose they'll want
to tether me to the whipping post for that too.  

< Message edited by chiaThePet -- 5/15/2007 11:00:45 PM >

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 10:19:28 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		I had to laugh at the OP, as it reminded me of a submissive who got lost on the way to my house.  I was new to my town and therefore wasn't a reliable source for directions.  I told him to mapquest to find me.  Well, he did, but figured that he could just ... I don't know ... remember the directions or wing it.  He called me 4 or 5 times (it should have taken him 25 minutes to get to me).  Each time he called, he described where he was and I (less and less patiently) told him that I didn't really know where he was and couldn't help him.  In our last check-in, I described my house in detail, as well as the houses next to it.  When he arrived -- 40 minutes late -- I watched out my window as he wandered in front of my house without finding it.  Oh.  Underwhelmed.

If I'm meeting someone at a restaurant, I expect him to find his own directions.  I want him to want to try.  If he asks, I'll certainly supply them, but, I completely agree, I see this person as less than proactive and lacking gumption.  Man up!   It would leave a bad taste in my mouth.  If he's from out of the area, I would likely give directions with landmarks.

Completely getting where you're coming from,
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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/15/2007 10:56:04 PM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

I had to laugh at the OP, as it reminded me of a submissive who got lost on the way to my house.  I was new to my town and therefore wasn't a reliable source for directions.  I told him to mapquest to find me.  Well, he did, but figured that he could just ... I don't know ... remember the directions or wing it.  He called me 4 or 5 times (it should have taken him 25 minutes to get to me).  Each time he called, he described where he was and I (less and less patiently) told him that I didn't really know where he was and couldn't help him.  In our last check-in, I described my house in detail, as well as the houses next to it.  When he arrived -- 40 minutes late -- I watched out my window as he wandered in front of my house without finding it.  Oh.  Underwhelmed.

If I'm meeting someone at a restaurant, I expect him to find his own directions.  I want him to want to try.  If he asks, I'll certainly supply them, but, I completely agree, I see this person as less than proactive and lacking gumption.  Man up!   It would leave a bad taste in my mouth.  If he's from out of the area, I would likely give directions with landmarks.

Completely getting where you're coming from,
MSS


Well, if You weren't waiting for Forrest Gump, perhaps the lad was
just more than a bit nervous and certainly lost. It is most likely a
reality that each and everyone of us has gotten lost trying to locate
a certain destination at some point in our lives. We can probably
remember just how frustrating it can be, add to it the pressure of
being late, regardless of what we "should" have done to prevent
such. If i was the one lost, i would hope that the person whom
i was seeking would take the simple and kind step beyond the
window to offer a "hand up". They could worry about the whole
"man up" business later, or wouldn't "down boy" be more befitting 
the occasion? i once was lost, but now i'm found, was blind, but
now i see.

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet)

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 5:26:30 AM   
Elorin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
quote:

ORIGINAL: Elorin
There is nothing wrong with asking for directions. However, taking the time to look up the directions shows an ability to think for yourself, initiative, and web-savvy. All of which are traits that tend to be pleasantly viewed by dominas like myself.
~E

I am sorry but this just sounds strange to me. You do realize that some of us sub types like a dominant that knows how to communicate directions...


juliaoceania
I have no idea why it sounds strange for me to want a sub to make an effort before requesting that I give them directions. I'm fully capable of giving directions, both "street" (turn at such and so street) and "landmark" (look for the Big Lots...turn just past). And I am willing to give directions. I'm also not talking about someone coming to my town from a 4 hour drive away, via the airport, or something else. As I said in other posts in this thread, I'm talking about meeting someone from the same town that I'm in, a restaurant with a street address, and making an effort.

Even if the effort is just "do the mapquest directions work?" or "Is there something special I need to know about getting there?", making the effort is the point.

People in this thread seem to have gotten confused about the difference between being good with navigation and directions, and me being frustrated at someone who doesn't try (after having demonstrated by finding me that they have the web savvy to find the place).

I'll meet someone who asks for directions w/out trying. I'll give the directions concisely. I'll give my cell # and do everything I can to help them get "unlost" on their way to meet me.

Doesn't change that it irks me.

~shrugs

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 5:53:03 AM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		i'm just so confused, God that really irks me!

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 7:29:44 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

juliaoceania
I have no idea why it sounds strange for me to want a sub to make an effort before requesting that I give them directions. I'm fully capable of giving directions, both "street" (turn at such and so street) and "landmark" (look for the Big Lots...turn just past). And I am willing to give directions. I'm also not talking about someone coming to my town from a 4 hour drive away, via the airport, or something else. As I said in other posts in this thread, I'm talking about meeting someone from the same town that I'm in, a restaurant with a street address, and making an effort.

Even if the effort is just "do the mapquest directions work?" or "Is there something special I need to know about getting there?", making the effort is the point.

People in this thread seem to have gotten confused about the difference between being good with navigation and directions, and me being frustrated at someone who doesn't try (after having demonstrated by finding me that they have the web savvy to find the place).

I'll meet someone who asks for directions w/out trying. I'll give the directions concisely. I'll give my cell # and do everything I can to help them get "unlost" on their way to meet me.

Doesn't change that it irks me.

~shrugs

~E


People are all different. They all have different pet peeves. Yours seems strange to me is all. I live next to a mid sized city (over 500k people) and if I need to go to a doctor's office  have never been to before I call them even after getting a yahoo map. I ask them what their nearest cross street is because I would hate to be late for an appointment and miss it. I hate being late.

I guess I have gotten to the point in my life that I do not sweat the small stuff, and it is all small stuff. I just do not see it as anything to get annoyed over.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 7:35:53 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		I've found mapquest to be wrong often enough that I would prefer directions from a human being who actually lives in the area.

Edited to Add: I'm so bad with directions that once, returning to college, I missed my exit on the highway and drove completely out of the state!

I need simple, easy to understand directions and the person I'm meeting might have better ones then mapquest. I think it's better for the sub to know that they have a hard time with directions and ask you for yours to see if yours are easier.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 5/16/2007 7:41:33 AM >

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 7:37:26 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Agreed- asking the person first for directions makes sense to me because they likely know the area better than anyone and can point out basic things.  As bad as I am, no mapquest or website will tell you to look for the silo or the particular billboard of the month to know where to turn onto my street.

That doesn't mean they WON'T do any other work, I get on my partner all the time for looking up 5 websites for directios to one place (although I don't have much room to talk given my bad history).

And it does sound as if the dominant is more entitled and spoiled rather than willing to put any actual effort into the relationship. 

But, we all have our weird quirks and pet peeves and as long as we're getting what we want from life, it's no biggie.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 7:47:36 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		Ive always used A.A's route finder over here.  I like it becasue you can get it to list things like all the pubs you will pass or something similar.  Now that gprs is getting so popular hopefully we will all do better.
I always give detailed directions for people coming to visit me, and only get pissed off if then they are 40 minutes late and havent called for a heads up.  I know my area better than they do so it makes sense that I would give them the infomation myself.


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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 7:51:15 AM   
pagansub77


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Status: offline 		I'm a trucker by trade, use Map-quest, Rand McNally and PC Miler. Able to read a map and follow directions, know left from right and the compass points, once I have a reference point. I still get lost, even in my current home town.
I use those little 'detours' to see more of town and maybe find a shortcut for rush hour. Turn that lemon into lemonade. It's also vastly different driving a bobtail semi or a car, as far as places I can go. My neighborhood restricts big trucks...grrrrrrr.

ps77

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 8:06:33 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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Status: offline 		Hmm...i guess i don't see the big hairy deal in asking for driving directions....geez.

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