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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 2:23:17 PM

MagiksSlave

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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

ITS a fact most women are directional challenged,thank God for the gps system,Diane still after all theses years will often ask me do we go left or right at our one local stop sign smiles..bounty

I dont think that is true at all!! My youngest sister who doesnt even drive yet is a freeken human GPS she has the best direction I have ever seen... I honestly think that it is a genetic thing because her father is the same way while me and my other sister (who share the same father) get lost very easily much like our father does (though he isnt as bad as us!!) LOL I have taken to when I have to go some where new I make sure she is avalable to come with so that she can tell me how to go!!!!!!

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 2:28:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I must be really weird and crazy. I remember when I was on the road for the insurance company and was living in Cedar Rapids IA, I had had a late appointment with a farmer clear down in the middle of no where almost in Missouri not far from the Mississippi river. To get there I had driven north from a town just on the southern border (Keokuk, IA) in the fading summer daylight on some twisting turning country roads. When it was time to leave the farm I had the choice of going back south 30+ miles to get to the main paved highway or turning north out their lane on the gravel road. Now I knew that to my east was the huge river.......probably not going to get too lost in that direction, somewhere clear off to the west, would be the main northsouth interstate I needed to find OR many many miles....about 70 miles.....to the north, was the main eastwest interstate through Iowa. Therefor I knew if I started heading north and west I would eventually hit either interstate, either one would get me home. I began trekking down this old country road at 10ish at night, windows down, CD playing.

After awhile my cell phone beeped to tell me I had a message......(in the middle of no-where Iowa there tends to be many pockets of no service).......it was the person I was living with wondering where on earth I was. So I called home. "I am, north of Missouri, west of the Mississippi, east of I380, south of I80, and heading north and west, should be home in about an hour and twenty" .........I was.

It is things like that that tend to drive those I love batty.

Sorry, You lost me in the fading summer daylight on some twisting,
turning country road. But for some reason i feel carsick, hmmmm.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 2:28:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

ITS a fact most women are directional challenged,thank God for the gps system,Diane still after all theses years will often ask me do we go left or right at our one local stop sign smiles..bounty

I am a bit opposite ... I know the directions and daddy doesn't ... even though he has lived in his city longer than I have. So he will call me when he is on his way home to ask if he goes north or south ... hehe.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 2:32:20 PM

chiaThePet

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BabyNyla

quote:

ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

ITS a fact most women are directional challenged,thank God for the gps system,Diane still after all theses years will often ask me do we go left or right at our one local stop sign smiles..bounty

I am a bit opposite ... I know the directions and daddy doesn't ... even though he has lived in his city longer than I have. So he will call me when he is on his way home to ask if he goes north or south ... hehe.

i'll bet you send him in the wrong direction sometimes
just to get a little more shopping in don't you.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 2:51:42 PM

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I understand what you're saying to a point. However having worked in an office that had the wrong directions listed on mapquest I tend not to trust them too well. I can get lost even with the best of directions. I tend to do much better with landmarks rather than streets. Goes back to my midwestern roots where" go down the road aways and turn left at Old Man Thompson's barn, keep goin' until you see 4 silos then take a right onto the paved road and left again past the Carlyle place." were all that were used for directions.

That being said I have horrible navigational skills and my friends have offered more than once to have a GPS chip imbedded under my skin because I can get lost in a store I've been to a million times. (A friend joked that they would be getting me a GPS device for my car for my birthday and I was actually disappointed I didn't get it!) Gawd Forbid someone should give directions saying north or south. It is not at all unusual for me to add an extra 30 minutes onto my travel time because I know I'm going to get lost. Even on the way home from somewhere I've driven to successfully I have gotten lost.

I should also mention that even though I've lived here close to a decade it is not unusual for me to receive a Thomas Brothers Map Book for a certain holiday every year. For some reason I can deal with a map much better. I have little laminated individual maps of the surrounding cities, counties and the entire state of California in my driver's door pocket. Embarrassingly enough I got lost on the way to class today. For some reason I completely forgot to take the right exit and ended up 20 miles out of the way. On the other hand, I do know my left from my right without to much difficulty!

Even if someone does take the initiative to do an online directions search I still prefer that they confirm directions with me to make sure they are correct. Mapquest has about a 30% error rate. I do the same as well prior to leaving. Nothing worst than being lost and having no idea how to even explain where you are so that the person you're meeting can get you to the right place.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 3:45:53 PM

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quote:

I have to chuckle because your post reminded me of when I first started with this stuff and was talking to someone. I didn't get the whole 'give the submissive tasks and see if she obeys' yet, I was that new. So, he's telling me to get him directions, and I'm like, what? He can't frigging find his own directions? I just assumed he was incompetant, and didn't really want to deal with that. Chances are he probably had the skills to get the directions but...lol

I guess that's a really good example of why people need to be clear on whether it's D/s from chat #1 or not until some later point. I tend to not ask/require anything of anyone till I'm comfortable enough with them to do so because I happen to like being self sufficient. To let someone look up directions for me or do anything for me that I could do my self is a big step. This is obviously not the case with everyone and it can lead to confusion over their competance as you said above. ;)

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 4:24:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

This has to be a first: A woman complaining about a guy who does ask for directions.

I am sooooooooooooooo glad someone else said it first.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 5:08:48 PM

MistressSassy66

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Does anyone use a real map anymore?

You mean one of those paper things that never fold up the right ever again...LMAO

I actually use both yahoo and an Atlas (no folding required...LOL)

What I dont get is when you tell them in an email or on the cell phone,while they are driving to your house and they have still missed it.I can see them drive by...
I shake My head and think well this should be an interesting meeting.

Dont get Me wrong I'm not complaining about asking for directions how else would they know what house to go to...its the not paying attention to the directions,that is bothersome.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 9:46:05 PM

Sinergy

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I remember how to get to places in the mountains my parents drove me to at the age of 8 when I was arguing with my sister playing Monopoly.

I think it is just weird.

Sinergy

p.s. On a related note, I was reading something a week or two ago about the differences in the way men and women's brains process information. Women tend to be landmark oriented. Men tend to have an innate understanding of direction. The article did not go into reasons for this, but simply made the opinion that a woman asks for directions when she cannot find a place because she does not recognize the landmarks. Whereas men tend to think it is over ---------> there and asking directions is a waste of time.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/16/2007 10:55:35 PM

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If the area is unfamiliar I would want a local landmark or public transport facility, but I would figure the rest out myself.

I hate having to ask directions, especially in the street. But then again I live in London. It seems a surefire way of finding idiots. You'll walk up to someone and ask directions and they'll turn to their left and say "Erm, yes, well,it's erm..." and then they'll swing round to their right and say "Erm I think it could be down down there on the right."

Or you'll come across an American who starts talking about how many 'blocks' away it is when all you need to know is what street it comes off.

My favourites are those who say, "Go over the cross roads and carry on straight, see the first street on the right, go past that, then you come to another street on the right, go past that one as well,and then another street, and then another street, and you come to a church, and you carry on, and then you come to another street, oh and then a bank, and there'll be a shopping centre nearby, and then a couple of more streets and then you'll find it by the big stone church on the left."

I find it's much quicker and simpler to use a map, and even better, to take the map with you.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 3:15:36 AM

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Ignorance is irritating in any form...if you dont understand the directions ask for clarification. I once invited a submissive to my home and she got into such a fluster over the directions ( Which involved one left turn and three rights from her home ), she was crying when she finally got there. By the time she arrived I was so tired I tasked her with reading to me while I rested, and she calmed down. My level of frustration was through the roof and they best way she could serve my needs at the time was to read to me. It's just like those that make a profile and then get pissy when they get a decent response...

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 3:55:25 AM

Elorin

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~fast reply~
I'm laughing to myself as I see the value judgements formed based on a personal pet peeve.
I never said anyone was worthless, I never said I wouldn't form a relationship based on it, I specifically said that I DO give directions when they are asked for.

It just irritates me.

Many people said "I ask for directions after I get Yahoo" or "Mapquest" and that was my point. Not taking the time to get the directions FIRST is what irritates - not people who are bad with directions, who don't instinctively know right from left, or who are poor navigators.

Thanks for the sharing from everyone who posted.
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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 3:57:38 AM

Elorin

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
And it does sound as if the dominant is more entitled and spoiled rather than willing to put any actual effort into the relationship.

You should learn to read. If you weren't so petty and nasty for no reason, people might be more willing to get to know you in person.

Being irritated by something does NOT mean it is a deal breaker for the relationship. And just because someone is irritated by something that YOU do, doesn't mean they are spoiled. Plus, I stated quite clearly that I give the directions when they are asked for, but it does irritate me. Entitled? Yep, I'm entitled to my own opinions, just like you.

Spoiled? In many aspects, but I don't see how having an opinion makes me spoiled.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 7:01:13 AM

chiaThePet

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Hmmmmmmm,

Elorin:
[I'm laughing to myself as I see the value judgements formed based on a personal pet peeve.]

Wasn't your post a complete value judgement based on your personal pet peeve?

Elorin:
[I never said anyone was worthless, I never said I wouldn't form a relationship based on it, I specifically said that I DO give directions when they are asked for.]

What you actually said,

Elorin:
["This drives me insane. The ONLY time I found a reasonable reason was when a German speaking sub had JUST moved from Germany and still thought in German - even so I found the excuse rather lame."]

Elorin:
[but countless encounters of potential meetings where even when given the street address (#, street, city, and zip) a sub wanted me to provide driving directions - without even TRYING to find directions via a map or online first.]

Oh the humanity! What's the big deal about asking for directions, and what's
the big deal about giving them?

Elorin:
[And just because someone is irritated by something that YOU do, doesn't mean they are spoiled.]

But the "something" by which they are irratated can sure make them sound like a
spoiled little brat.

Elorin:
[This is something of a rant, something of a preference statement, something of a question.]

Post it and they will respond, maybe not with parallel thinking however.

Elorin:
[ Entitled? Yep, I'm entitled to my own opinions, just like you.]

Oh really? i give you your own words regarding others opinions;

Elorin:
[You should learn to read. If you weren't so petty and nasty for no reason, people might be more willing to get to know you in person.]

Elorin:
[ Spoiled? In many aspects, but I don't see how having an opinion makes me spoiled.]

It doesn't, reason and reaction however, are defining factors.

Elorin:
[Thanks for the sharing from everyone who posted.]

You're quite welcome, all in all, it has been a fun ride in the Land of the Lost.

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet)

< Message edited by chiaThePet -- 5/17/2007 7:29:07 AM >

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 7:34:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: Elorin
You should learn to read. If you weren't so petty and nasty for no reason, people might be more willing to get to know you in person.

Wow, personal insult zing #1. You should at least try and make it be relevant like "If you had some sense of direction, maybe you'd be able to see you just crash landed in loserville" or actually true like "If you were as open offline as you are online, maybe you'd have more friends."

But this is just irrelevant, and completely false, so it loses all desired impact. I know you can do better Elorin.

quote:

Being irritated by something does NOT mean it is a deal breaker for the relationship. And just because someone is irritated by something that YOU do, doesn't mean they are spoiled. Plus, I stated quite clearly that I give the directions when they are asked for, but it does irritate me. Entitled? Yep, I'm entitled to my own opinions, just like you.

Well that's not what I meant by entitled. Entitled in the way that a patron to a restaurant gets annoyed when they don't get a seat right away on a Sat night with no reservation.

I also specifically said that we all have our quirks and pet peeves and it's no big deal. Maybe you didn't read that?

quote:

Spoiled? In many aspects, but I don't see how having an opinion makes me spoiled.

It's the opinion, not having the opinion. Spoiled IMO should be earned. :)

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 7:35:16 AM

CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Hmmmmmmm,

Elorin:
[I'm laughing to myself as I see the value judgements formed based on a personal pet peeve.]

Wasn't your post a complete value judgement based on your personal pet peeve?

Elorin:
[I never said anyone was worthless, I never said I wouldn't form a relationship based on it, I specifically said that I DO give directions when they are asked for.]

What you actually said,

Elorin:
["This drives me insane. The ONLY time I found a reasonable reason was when a German speaking sub had JUST moved from Germany and still thought in German - even so I found the excuse rather lame."]

Elorin:
[but countless encounters of potential meetings where even when given the street address (#, street, city, and zip) a sub wanted me to provide driving directions - without even TRYING to find directions via a map or online first.]

Oh the humanity! What's the big deal about asking for directions, and what's
the big deal about giving them?

Elorin:
[And just because someone is irritated by something that YOU do, doesn't mean they are spoiled.]

But the "something" by which they are irratated can sure make them sound like a
spoiled little brat.

Elorin:
[This is something of a rant, something of a preference statement, something of a question.]

Post it and they will respond, maybe not with parallel thinking however.

Elorin:
[ Entitled? Yep, I'm entitled to my own opinions, just like you.]

Oh really? i give you your own words regarding others opinions;

Elorin:
[You should learn to read. If you weren't so petty and nasty for no reason, people might be more willing to get to know you in person.]

Elorin:
[ Spoiled? In many aspects, but I don't see how having an opinion makes me spoiled.]

It doesn't, reason and reaction however, are defining factors.

Elorin:
[Thanks for the sharing from everyone who posted.]

You're quite welcome, all in all, it has been a fun ride in the Land of the Lost.

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet)

R.O.F.L.M.C.D.A.O.

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 7:42:14 AM

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Four pages of discussion and argument concerning needing directions for meeting someone? How silly! I mean, all you have to do is put the address in the car's navigation system! DUH!

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 7:53:13 AM

chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Four pages of discussion and argument concerning needing directions for meeting someone? How silly! I mean, all you have to do is put the address in the car's navigation system! DUH!

Not everyone has a car with a navigation system, DUH.

That's why they ask for directions, silly as that is.

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet)

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 10:57:16 AM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Four pages of discussion and argument concerning needing directions for meeting someone? How silly! I mean, all you have to do is put the address in the car's navigation system! DUH!

Not everyone has a car with a navigation system, DUH.

That's why they ask for directions, silly as that is.

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet)

chia -
Sorry - I forgot to put the little sarcastic white guy to indicate my intent. I corrected it in the quote.

But then why not just use the personal GPS system that you have in your cell phone?

- Note the 'smiley'!

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RE: You found me online but you can't find... - 5/17/2007 11:06:30 AM

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i haven't read the thread so sorry if i repeat. Some people are visual and some are auditory in how they take in information and process it. i can read a map and get myself anywhere, but give me verbal directions, even if i write them down and i am lost. i have a friend who i drove into the city - Queens actually - and as i was driving i handed her the map and told her to find where we had to go and direct me - she had me going in every direction except the right one!! i was so frustrated and angry actually with her - i mean how could she NOT tell me the right highway, street, ave, etc to go she had a freaking map! Maps just completely confused her. i pulled over and she got directions from people and while they totally confused me, they made sense to her - and eventually through pulling over and me reading the map and her getting directions we got where we were going. Hope this helped lol.

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