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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

maybe it's just the cranky mood I'm in, but while browsing profiles this evening I came across a number of submissive profiles that were so florid it was just plain annoying.  it made me wonder who they were trying to fool, themselves or someone else. 

I also realized that I am the first to romanticize any situation, especially in my personal life.  I have romanticized being a submissive in my mind many times in the past, as much as I know that the reality of belonging to someone means it can be smelly, tiresome, sweaty (in a bad way) and unpleasant...is it just human nature to forget the unpleasant realities when they aren't right in front of our faces?  or is it because we want to take something that is a basic need and lift it up as an ideal, worthy of prose?

thoughts, anyone?  

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

yes...my thoughts wander, but I have the attention span of a fruit fly, so even tho they may wander, many times they aren't particularly deep.

in all honesty, I've I said before, I tend to romanticize situations myself...but there's a place where I draw the line...and considering myself to be the mushiest of the mushy, anything beyond that becomes so sugar-coated, it's unpalatable.  so while I can appreciate prose, poetry, romance and the occasional feminine hygiene commercial, it's being bombarded by such that makes me question motives and mental health standings.  I think my mood and the over-wrought profiles that kept popping up are what prompted my initial post.

so, to answer your question, sweet has it's place, romance has it's place, dreams and fantasies have their place, just as others have pointed out.  and, just as others have pointed out, just because I can't tolerate others' expressions of such doesn't make them wrong or less worthy or whatever.  by the same token, tho, my opinions are my own and also just as valid as the blessed Harlequin romance toting, Fabio loving, bodice ripping counterparts.  balance, it's all about balance...you know, that whole circle of life thing.

thanks for asking.

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

*sigh*

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

maybe it's just the cranky mood I'm in, but while browsing profiles this evening I came across a number of submissive profiles that were so florid it was just plain annoying.  it made me wonder who they were trying to fool, themselves or someone else. 

I also realized that I am the first to romanticize any situation, especially in my personal life.  I have romanticized being a submissive in my mind many times in the past, as much as I know that the reality of belonging to someone means it can be smelly, tiresome, sweaty (in a bad way) and unpleasant...is it just human nature to forget the unpleasant realities when they aren't right in front of our faces?  or is it because we want to take something that is a basic need and lift it up as an ideal, worthy of prose?

thoughts, anyone? 

Isn't romance/romanticising a neccesary bonding mechanism and motivator of desire. For me it is anyway. The visualisation and projection romance inspires, is simply a tool or vehicle to get you closer to where you want or need to be. As a sub I find it essential.Of course reality, in time, will adjust everything but by the time it does, one would hope that you and yours will have connected and found an exciting place to be. But we are all individuals and entitled our  own unique, or not so unique, responses. Profiles are simply a way of getting noticed, and in view of that the florid and poetic ones must believe it makes them more attractive. If it's a mistake or an error of judgement the silence will tell them. Hmmm...I think it's time to revisit my profile, just in case.
This is avery interesting subjuct, thanks.

Jonathon x