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The First Email - 5/18/2007 1:54:37 PM   
CK1


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Status: offline 		I have finally lost my patience with this. You subs and slaves "demanding" more than one word in the initial email from a Dom. Lets not mince words here. Your wasting alot of peoples time. The fact is why would I, why should I waste my time and energy on the 50/50 shot of a response from anyone. The fact is regardless of what my or anyones email says, your going to first look at their pics, and then maybe the profile. And your deision to respond will be based on that and that ALONE. Spare me your self induced righteousness about someone actually showing real interest or being intelligent enough or creative enough to write a good intro email. When you know even if Byron himself wrote a novel as his intro, if his picture looked like buckwheat, your deleting and moving on. So shut your mouths, dont waste our time. I will email as many words as I damn well please. And you will look at my picture and then my profile, and decide from there wether or not you want to try to become my slave or sub. Be honest with yourself for once, we all know it is about attraction first before anything else can even begin.

CK

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:00:32 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:06:08 PM   
losttreasure


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Status: offline 		I have but one question... how's that working out for you?

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:11:03 PM   
CK1


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Status: offline 		As well as it can. Or more importantly, well enough for me.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:19:45 PM   
maybemaybenot


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Status: offline 		Hmm..... looked at your pic.. thought you were quite good looking,
read your post... thought you were arrogant.
read your profile..  not my type.

Based on the above>>> going on looks alone < which I don't>, I might have responed had you contacted me. Going on the whole enchillada < which I always do > not a snowballs chance in hell.

Good luck to you. Your first post is no doubt going to get you plenty of attention.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:21:08 PM   
pinksugarsub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1

I have finally lost my patience with this. You subs and slaves "demanding" more than one word in the initial email from a Dom. Lets not mince words here. Your wasting alot of peoples time. The fact is why would I, why should I waste my time and energy on the 50/50 shot of a response from anyone. The fact is regardless of what my or anyones email says, your going to first look at their pics, and then maybe the profile. And your deision to respond will be based on that and that ALONE. Spare me your self induced righteousness about someone actually showing real interest or being intelligent enough or creative enough to write a good intro email. When you know even if Byron himself wrote a novel as his intro, if his picture looked like buckwheat, your deleting and moving on. So shut your mouths, dont waste our time. I will email as many words as I damn well please. And you will look at my picture and then my profile, and decide from there wether or not you want to try to become my slave or sub. Be honest with yourself for once, we all know it is about attraction first before anything else can even begin.

CK


i don't know if i agree 100% with what You said, but i do answer one-word emails.  To me, it's complimentary and polite to say "hi" and nothing else in a first email.  (The compliment being that They took the time to write to you in the first place.)

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:26:48 PM   
lighthearted


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Status: offline 		frankly, the negativity spewing from this post would make me want to avoid you at all costs.

and, I know something you don't know:  a lot of guys aren't photogenic, no matter how good they may look in person, they can still take a rotten photo.

so there.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:34:54 PM   
HutchGarahl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1

I have finally lost my patience with this. You subs and slaves "demanding" more than one word in the initial email from a Dom. Lets not mince words here. Your wasting alot of peoples time. The fact is why would I, why should I waste my time and energy on the 50/50 shot of a response from anyone. The fact is regardless of what my or anyones email says, your going to first look at their pics, and then maybe the profile. And your deision to respond will be based on that and that ALONE. Spare me your self induced righteousness about someone actually showing real interest or being intelligent enough or creative enough to write a good intro email. When you know even if Byron himself wrote a novel as his intro, if his picture looked like buckwheat, your deleting and moving on. So shut your mouths, dont waste our time. I will email as many words as I damn well please. And you will look at my picture and then my profile, and decide from there wether or not you want to try to become my slave or sub. Be honest with yourself for once, we all know it is about attraction first before anything else can even begin.
CK


Another arrogant ass in the making. Just because you may look good, you automatically think someone owes you more than a one word response? Get real dude. Even if I was a sub/slave...it would not be your picture that would draw me....it would be your mailing. Showing some intelligence and a decent personailty would catch me much faster than a photo of someone.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:43:28 PM   
CK1


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Status: offline 		Easy Hutch. ONE. I am an arrogant ass, was born that way. TWO, who said anything about wanting more than a one word response? I only commented on the annoyance of others wanting more than a one word INTRO email. The responses I may or may not get are irrelevant. Im not trying to seduce or Dom the world, just that girl or maybe couple girls that find me to be what they want. Im not offended or hurt if they dont.

To be clear this is about my opinion on the illusion that that wether there is one oword or a thousand on an intro letter, a person will respond based on their attraction, wether to their photo or profile first and foremost. So why should I or anyone waste their time typing a great intro if more often than not it is going to be a waste of time?


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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:47:01 PM   
fadedlace


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1

I have finally lost my patience with this. You subs and slaves "demanding" more than one word in the initial email from a Dom. Lets not mince words here. Your wasting alot of peoples time. The fact is why would I, why should I waste my time and energy on the 50/50 shot of a response from anyone. The fact is regardless of what my or anyones email says, your going to first look at their pics, and then maybe the profile. And your deision to respond will be based on that and that ALONE. Spare me your self induced righteousness about someone actually showing real interest or being intelligent enough or creative enough to write a good intro email. When you know even if Byron himself wrote a novel as his intro, if his picture looked like buckwheat, your deleting and moving on. So shut your mouths, dont waste our time. I will email as many words as I damn well please. And you will look at my picture and then my profile, and decide from there wether or not you want to try to become my slave or sub. Be honest with yourself for once, we all know it is about attraction first before anything else can even begin.

CK


Hmmm...you mean PHYSICAL attraction?  As in pretty boy or hot babe?  Initial attraction for some is not (only) physical, and in initial emails, looks matter little to some as well.

You may well be intelligent, but I did notice a few errors in your post aside from the "I'm above you so deal with it" attitude.  Spellcheck doesn't usually catch misuse of "your" for "you're" - personally, a man who knows spelling, punctuation, grammar, and proper use of participles (don't let them dangle!) - and who knows that people rarely respond to being targets of anger and egotistical rants, gets me hot...LOL

But hey, good luck with that search.

*Wandering off to a more interesting topic*

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:51:41 PM   
maybemaybenot


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1


. So why should i or anyone waste their time typing a great intro if more often than not it is going to be a waste of time?



This is just such an easy question. Answer:

Don't ! Do as you please. it's a public site.
If others want to waste their time writing a decent e mail, what business is it of yours? Let them do as they want.

As for we subs and slaves, we will answer or not answer. It's our perogative. We have ours, you have yours. If you don't like the answer you get, ignore and delete. Pretty simple, no need to get your boxers all bunged up.

See, CK that was easy, your problem is solved.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:51:52 PM   
EvaLass


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Status: offline 		First, you need to go back to school and take a basic grammar course. You are lacking in basic communication skills.  Second, the purpose of your email should be to engage someone's interest. Do us the courtesy of saying something funny, wise, intelligent, perceptive, heartfelt, sincere, or interesting. Or, flatter us by telling us you read our profile and we really appeal to you. Or, tell us that you are sitting at home watching TV and eating popcorn, and you are getting awfully lonely. Anything besides a one-word greeting. It appears often that you guys send out random emails as if you are fishing. Why should we waste our time if your approach is entirely off the cuff? Many of us are going to look at what you say BEFORE we rush to your photograph. Some of us are going to judge you based on the qualities you project in your email and your profile. I have sent substantial replies to potential Doms who sent me an interesting email even if they didn't have a photograph posted. Finally, you have a long journey ahead of you. You are going to have to be patient. Anger and resentment will only suggest to others that you should be avoided.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 2:55:20 PM   
DrkJourney


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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 3:01:39 PM   
LookiLoo


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Status: offline 		WOW!
And here I thought you were all about being in control!
Look, the fact is this is neither the easiest nor the best way to meet people so frustrations and confusions abound! You seem like a butch kinda guy, but you have to remember you are a guy and we are girls/women/ladies which means we don't think like you. Most of the women I know, both bi, gay and straight, and kinky or vanilla look for the whole package. We can be as ruthless as guys when it comes to sex but for a partner/lover/husband or in this case Dom we are looking for more than how the jeans hang!
Getting pissy and declaring an arrogant and insulting diatribe about all "subs" is meaningless and frankly shows that you are far from Alpha and far from in control. If you really seek the things your profile suggests then work a little more on being the "thing" you claim to be and a little less time stamping your feet because the big bad subbies won't play with you!

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 3:19:16 PM   
CK1


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Status: offline 		Well, that explains alot. If my message has conveyed that tantrum, nagative, hostile image to obviously everyone, then I failed to communicate my feelings properly to my audience. Regardless of the reason, poor grammar skills, etc. Suffice it to say I was simply stating an annoyance and nothing more. Be defensive or not, I have heard a few reasonable responses and good arguments that are actually applicable to the topic, as silly as it may be. Thank you for the great criticsm though, I appreciate your candor and will take from that what I can.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 3:21:07 PM   
missfrillypants


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1

When you know even if Byron himself wrote a novel as his intro, if his picture looked like buckwheat, your deleting and moving on.


i'm sorry, but if you can write like byron it doesn't matter as much what you look like... byron himself was kind of average in my oppinion, but he did very well with the ladies, didn't he?

the fact that you are not a literary genius comes into play here, but you could at least try to say something.

i may be alone in this cuz i'm a writer, but women are suckers for a good line of dialouge.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 3:26:57 PM   
SDFemDom4cuck


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1

I have finally lost my patience with this. (It's barely been a month...he might go all explodey after a year or so)You subs and slaves "demanding" more than one word in the initial email from a Dom. Lets (Let's) not mince words here. Your (you're) wasting alot of people's time. The fact (question) is why would I, why should I waste my time and energy on the 50/50 shot of a response from anyone.? The fact is, regardless of what my (or anyone's) email says, your (you're) going to first look at their pics, and then, maybe the profile. And (bad form, and is unneccessary) your decision to respond will be based on that and that ALONE. Spare me your self induced (induced is unneccessary)righteousness about someone actually showing real interest or being intelligent enough or creative enough to write a good introductory email. When you know that even if Byron himself wrote a novel as his intro,; if his picture looked like (B)buckwheat, your (you're going to delete it) deleting and moving (move) on. So shut your mouths, don't waste our time. I will email as many words as I damn well please. And you will look at my picture and then my profile, and decide from there whether or not you want to try to become my slave or sub. Be honest with yourself for once, we all know it is about attraction first before anything else can even begin.

CK


Well, you do know what they say about first impressions...You've certainly made a hell of a one with your first posting. Congratulations! Hopefully your spelling and grammar on a one word introduction are better than has been shown here. 

I think Oliver Wendell Holmes may have said...
The mode by which the inevitable comes to pass is effort.

Cute face, such a shame there isn't a brain behind it....but that's just my first impression. Welcome to the boards!

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 3:36:23 PM   
HydroMaster


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Status: offline 		Personally I write my intro emails based on what's presented in the profile of the woman I'm writing to...commenting on what they've told me.   So one word emails are pretty much non-existent as I don't write if there's insufficient information there for me to base an opinon.  Here is what I've noticed given the tools at my disposal.  Most of my emails show up as read.  Many more than show up as deleted unread.  So most subs and slaves are in fact reading the emails.  Using the times whos viewed my screen and comparing the m to the times the emails are read, the emails are being read first before they look at my profile. 

I think part of the reason for them not wanting a one word email is the amount of garbage that floods their inboxes.  If you're getting 200 emails a day and all they say is hi...doesn't give them much to go on does it?  Having more information in the email shows them that it isn't a canned email you've copied to 500 other subs and that you may actually have the ability to start a conversation or that you even bothered to read about them a little.   


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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 3:45:46 PM   
NakedGirlScout


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Status: offline 		I don't know if the OP has the right impression. I don't look at anyone's photo or profile usually until I'm somewhat interested in him, which would probably be around the second or third meaningful letter exchanged between us. It wouldn't even get to that point if he said "hi" and nothing else. I might be polite and say "hi" back to him, but there would be nothing to go on to see if I was interested until he said something of substance.

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RE: The First Email - 5/18/2007 4:21:10 PM   
HutchGarahl


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ORIGINAL: CK1

Easy Hutch. ONE. I am an arrogant ass, was born that way.

Wow, he admitted it. Guess ya earned credit on that one.

TWO, who said anything about wanting more than a one word response? I only commented on the annoyance of others wanting more than a one word INTRO email.

And what's wrong with that? How can a person get a feel for another, if all they do is simply say hi? Yea...i've gotten several one word mails...so? Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Least they took the time to at least say hi. And if that's all they say and I get no further response after sending another mail to them, then I know they aren't interested and move on. It's not that hard ya know.

The responses I may or may not get are irrelevant. Im not trying to seduce or Dom the world, just that girl or maybe couple girls that find me to be what they want. Im not offended or hurt if they dont.

To be clear this is about my opinion on the illusion that that wether there is one oword or a thousand on an intro letter, a person will respond based on their attraction, wether to their photo or profile first and foremost. So why should I or anyone waste their time typing a great intro if more often than not it is going to be a waste of time?

Why? Simple....you get a one word response to your mail..if you take the time to send a more filling mail to them, they might actually respond with a mail that says a whole lot more. If you just go ahead and send a good intro mail with more than one word in it, that would more than likely increase your chances of  finding what your looking for.

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