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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:17:54 AM   
CK1


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ORIGINAL: softness

sees it like this ... i took care and effort over my profile .. and i posted a pic with lots of skin ...
if the first email i get from somebody shows me they couldn't see past the skin to the profile just under it ... then they just aren't going to get more than a polite reply

would you walk up to a beautiful woman drop you pants and say "Whaazuuup!!!!" and expect her to fall in love with you? ... nope .. so why would it be any different introducing yourself via email?

*shakes my head* ... ignorant arrogant fuckpig bus arrived then



No softness, I would not walk up to a beautifull woman and drop my pants and say "Whaazuuup!!!" I would also not say "Hello beautiful woman while you were in the bathroom I took the time and patience to read all the contents of your purse and I must say I like what you had to say on your liscense, and the diary you left showed me your personality spoke to me on a different level....."

I would walk up to her, look her directly in the eyes and say "hello" a powerful simple introduction, She will look at me and decide if saying hello back is in her interest. Based on what? Oh yes phsyical attraction. This was my point. I should be able to do the same introduction here without wasting alot of time and verbage on someone if they will not even return the discussion based on their assesment of A. My Looks and B. My Profile. But I will say this again, the girls on here made a few valid points regarding the sheer quantity of messages they recieve. And without having the benefit of being in a face to face real life environment it behooves us and them to take the extra time to say more than hello.

Now if you dont mind I will get back on the uglier than shit, ignorant, arrogant fuckpig short bus becuase the beautiful woman I just met is about to become the cheap slut she always wanted to be.

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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:20:50 AM   
CK1


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Status: offline 		Redskins katy Redskins. So make that a banana strawberry jello shot for me.

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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:31:30 AM   
softness


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Status: offline 		a) if you approach women in a bar purely based on your reaction to their looks .. and that works for you ... great ...when i pull beautiful women in bars its usually because something they have said has caught my attention and i have used that as a way of making sure I catch their attention. I have lots of success with this approach .. how is your sex life shaping up?

b) "Based on what? Oh yes phsyical attraction" .. hmmmmm actually no, it will probably be based on what she gets from you in the form of non-verbal communication. or she is attracted to the .. errr,,, unimaginative approach type maybe? granted the fact that you are not *physically* repugnant might help ... might.

c) "I should be able to do the same introduction here without wasting alot of time and verbage on someone if they will not even return the discussion based on their assesment of A. My Looks and B. My Profile. "  You consider it a aste of time, that says more about you than about the girls you are emailing, if you put minimum effort in at the stage where you should be making a good first impression, again .. how is that working out for you?

d) " the beautiful woman I just met is about to become the cheap slut she always wanted to be. "  ... am sure you will make her very happy, because obviously one can be transformed by someone we have "just met" .. they are so well versed in our thoughts and wants and needs ... especially after taking care and attention over those few initial greetings.

and by the way "uglier-than-shit" ... and "short bus" were your embellishments .. but then little slips of the tongue when someone is worked up are very revealing about how they view themselves ,,, dont you think?


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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:34:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: softness

a) if you approach women in a bar purely based on your reaction to their looks .. and that works for you ... great ...when i pull beautiful women in bars its usually because something they have said has caught my attention and i have used that as a way of making sure I catch their attention. I have lots of success with this approach .. how is your sex life shaping up?

b) "Based on what? Oh yes phsyical attraction" .. hmmmmm actually no, it will probably be based on what she gets from you in the form of non-verbal communication. or she is attracted to the .. errr,,, unimaginative approach type maybe? granted the fact that you are not *physically* repugnant might help ... might.

c) "I should be able to do the same introduction here without wasting alot of time and verbage on someone if they will not even return the discussion based on their assesment of A. My Looks and B. My Profile. "  You consider it a aste of time, that says more about you than about the girls you are emailing, if you put minimum effort in at the stage where you should be making a good first impression, again .. how is that working out for you?

d) " the beautiful woman I just met is about to become the cheap slut she always wanted to be. "  ... am sure you will make her very happy, because obviously one can be transformed by someone we have "just met" .. they are so well versed in our thoughts and wants and needs ... especially after taking care and attention over those few initial greetings.

and by the way "uglier-than-shit" ... and "short bus" were your embellishments .. but then little slips of the tongue when someone is worked up are very revealing about how they view themselves ,,, dont you think?



This dominant quickly and willfully bows to the intelligence and articulating abilities of softness. 

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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:35:47 AM   
softness


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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:41:09 AM   
soultoshare


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Status: offline 		SD, i ABSOLUTELY love your posts!  and damn...i forgot and brought the pepsi in with me this time......

Ok, now that clean up is over, CK, at first, when i read your post, i was gonna go postal, too, ( no pun intended), but reading your responses further down sort of soothed the feathers a bit.  The whole one-word e-mail thing is just plain stupid.  First of all, i read profiles without pics just as often as i read them with pics....pics don't mean a damn thing to me, for one thing, how do i know it's really you?  (Figuratively speaking, here!).  Second, i have met all sorts of handsome men who are dumber than a box of rocks.  Give me someone who is capable of carrying on an intelligent conversation over some pretty boy anyday!  i believe that there must be more to any relationship than just the scenes, sessions, whatever your word of choice is.  After all, you can't keep someone tied up all day, can you?  Oh, wait.....wrong example.  Give someone something to work with as far as starting a conversation with them, especailly if you are serious about following thru!  If you don't peak someone's interest, then don't be surprised when nothing comes of your one word shot.  This is a tough enough medium in which to communicate through, why shoot yourself in the foot from the start?

Anyway, welcome to the boards......lots of great people here, and even more laughs!

m


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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:42:22 AM   
CK1


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Status: offline 		Now this is fun. For the record softness, I think your quite intelligent, and love the banter.

"and by the way "uglier-than-shit" ... and "short bus" were your embellishments .. but then little slips of the tongue when someone is worked up are very revealing about how they view themselves ,,, dont you think" - No I was simply adding in reference to the other things I have been referred to since the start of this wonderful forum.

Your point a) I am glad you take the time to listen to something she says. My question here is why were you listening to begin with. I am sure you do not listen to all the women speaking in a bar to find the one who has the most interesting thing to say. Why did you pick her to listen to? This ties into b) very niceley no?

And as to your point c) I realised my error in judgment here already didnt I? I have already posted as such.

and d) I was joking. Though you seem to think you are well versed in all that makes me tick in these first few moments we met. Could it be your just angry at the type of person you think I am, that you refuse to see the person I really am?

By the way my sex life is amazing, thank you for asking. However you are welcome to find out personally after the show. *wink*

< Message edited by CK1 -- 5/19/2007 10:21:50 AM >

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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 9:52:12 AM   
fairerthanshe


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Status: offline 		When I receive a one word email, I reply with the same word.  If the person is actually interested in continuing the conversation then they will do so.  My concern is that the person sending the one word intro is sending it to 100 females and really has not taken the time to learn anything about me.  I post frequently, though my profile is deliberately brief, and anyone who cares to know more can do so by reading my posts.

Intelligence was one of the key things I used to look for.  Now, because some people can appear intelligent simply by being good communicators, I am becoming more hardened to this type of troll.  The fact is that until you spend some time with someone and learn if their words are in accord with their actions, you will never know them.  All the beautiful words and flowery speech in the world cannot compare to spending time in real life.

Just my two cents worth ~ fairer


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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 2:36:12 PM   
SDFemDom4cuck


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quote:

SD, i ABSOLUTELY love your posts!  and damn...i forgot and brought the pepsi in with me this time......


Thanks, soutoshare. I admit it, I'm a bit of a grammar/spelling Nazi. It just irks me to no end and I have more than one journal entry that testifies to that fact.

quote:

Second, i have met all sorts of handsome men who are dumber than a box of rocks.  Give me someone who is capable of carrying on an intelligent conversation over some pretty boy anyday!  i believe that there must be more to any relationship than just the scenes, sessions, whatever your word of choice is.  After all, you can't keep someone tied up all day, can you?  Oh, wait.....wrong example.  Give someone something to work with as far as starting a conversation with them, especailly if you are serious about following thru!  If you don't peak someone's interest, then don't be surprised when nothing comes of your one word shot.  This is a tough enough medium in which to communicate through, why shoot yourself in the foot from the start?


I have to applaud you on this. you're spot on! Although combine attractive Greek Adonis looks with an intelligent mind and the ability to have an intellectual conversation and personally I melt. LOL it's the combination of it all. Not simply one of the attributes by or of themselves.


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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 6:09:12 PM   
maybemaybenot


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1

Redskins katy Redskins. So make that a banana strawberry jello shot for me.


Banana-Strawberry it is ! However, I just don't hand them out like chicklets. You need to meander on over to the NFL thread and make yourself known. I believe if you check your mail, you will find directions.

As for your ohhh so kind offer to let me be on your " practice squad", ummmm... errrr... well... I'll get back to you on that one.

hey, btw, I grew up not to far from you. Audubon, Pa  Are you familiar with it? Fond, fond memories of a great woodsy,earthy childhood with plenty of trips to Vets Stadium to watch the Eagles, my second fave team.

                      mbmbn

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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 7:19:38 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

So make that a banana strawberry jello shot for me.


Mbmbn will be on that, I promise you.  But you do have to make a courtesy post in the NFL thread first.  It can be about anything football related.

You have Randle El, I hated to see him leave Pittsburgh.



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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 7:35:09 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: softness

sees it like this ... i took care and effort over my profile .. and i posted a pic with lots of skin ...
if the first email i get from somebody shows me they couldn't see past the skin to the profile just under it ... then they just aren't going to get more than a polite reply

would you walk up to a beautiful woman drop you pants and say "Whaazuuup!!!!" and expect her to fall in love with you? ... nope .. so why would it be any different introducing yourself via email?

*shakes my head* ... ignorant arrogant fuckpig bus arrived then


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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 7:36:13 PM   
softness


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RE: The First Email - 5/19/2007 7:54:20 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CK1



No softness, I would not walk up to a beautifull woman and drop my pants and say "Whaazuuup!!!" I would also not say "Hello beautiful woman while you were in the bathroom I took the time and patience to read all the contents of your purse and I must say I like what you had to say on your liscense, and the diary you left showed me your personality spoke to me on a different level....."

I would walk up to her, look her directly in the eyes and say "hello" a powerful simple introduction, She will look at me and decide if saying hello back is in her interest. Based on what? Oh yes phsyical attraction. This was my point. I should be able to do the same introduction here without wasting alot of time and verbage on someone if they will not even return the discussion based on their assesment of A. My Looks and B. My Profile. But I will say this again, the girls on here made a few valid points regarding the sheer quantity of messages they recieve. And without having the benefit of being in a face to face real life environment it behooves us and them to take the extra time to say more than hello.

Now if you dont mind I will get back on the uglier than shit, ignorant, arrogant fuckpig short bus becuase the beautiful woman I just met is about to become the cheap slut she always wanted to be.



I would say hello back to you because you spoke to me...who cares what you look like.  I have had conversations with strangers I had no attraction to what-so-ever because I like talking to people.  And what difference does a pic make any way?  Some of the pics here are fake ...so I usually wait until I meet them.  I've had some that accuse me of not considering them any longer because they are not a model like in their pic, I stopped considering them because they lied, pure and simple.  And in some cases, the actual person looked better, in my eyes anyway, than the fake pic that they sent.

The difference between and email and in person....when you meet someone face to face and say "hello" a conversation can start right then and there, and you will know "then" why the person is talking to you. (just being nice, interested, can you pass the salsa, etc.)

With emails, you have no idea why they contacted you...do they want coaching? do they want to start a friendship, do they want consideration? do they want to just "get off"?, etc.   some don't respond back or they respond back in days or weeks...this gets old.

I, more than not, reply with a simple "hello" as well, basically throwing the ball back in their court.  I know that some people just dont' know what to say, so I try to be tolerant, but if I am slammed with emails, no, I"m not going to take the time from someone else to email this guy who, more oftern than not, has the attitude that he "didn't think I was worth it" to even put one sentence together.

CK1, I do offer my hand in a welcome....welcome to the boards....at first I wasn't sure, but you are man and adult enough to realize that the original post was a bit much, and you ammended that.....good for you.  

< Message edited by DrkJourney -- 5/19/2007 7:55:10 PM >

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RE: The First Email - 5/20/2007 1:42:53 PM   
msunperfectslave


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Status: offline 		ok seeing as how im the one that started this whole rant of his let me explain. i am a submissive woman but through this site i am receiving hundreds of messages which i do read and respond to the ones that catch my attention. all im asking for is someone to write a little more than just hello because within this lifestyle it takes a lot of creativity. by saying hello to me it is polite but it doesnt show your creative side i want to see of why i should write you back.

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RE: The First Email - 5/20/2007 1:57:34 PM   
SDFemDom4cuck


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check your bulk mail file.

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She dealt her pretty words like Blades -
How glittering they shone -
And every One unbared a Nerve
Or wantoned with a Bone -

I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.

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RE: The First Email - 5/20/2007 1:58:12 PM   
MasDom


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Status: offline 		I say one word them.

I could play out the most profound thing to say.
   But thats just not my style obviosly...

Look for all the intellectual prowless a man can have.
In life its no garantee on how he would treat you.
       How emotionally respondent or caring he is.

And to that I say one word em.
  Let them meet you, and find out in person...


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RE: The First Email - 5/20/2007 2:05:55 PM   
RandomGAGirl


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Status: offline 		Goodness that was a rant to remember ;p.

Seriously though I love the way all us subs/slaves were grouped together.  To be honest if I had come across your profile on my own I would have sent you a message and I CERTAINLY would have responded to any message you sent because your interests/profile and pictures all appeal to me.  But that might not hold true for the girl next to me..

When I send messages to people I don't always expect to get a response I appreciate them and look forward to them but I know it happens.  I don't consider it a waste of time to take that first step because nothing ventured nothing gained.  I tend to send first short messages if I am asking a paticular question that sprang to mind after reading a profile or if I notice the person hasn't been very active on the site recently.

If I get a one liner or short message that I don't respond to it is usually because the message was in my opinion rude, pointless, or the persons profile is gone by the time I get a chance to respond (it happens).  Honestly if you got a message from one sub who said "why do ur pics suck" versus one that actually takes time to ask questions and show that they read your profile who would you want to respond to first.  Not saying that is the type of message you are sending I'm just saying that a lot of people tend to invest their response time in the person who put more into that initial message.


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RE: The First Email - 5/29/2007 2:36:31 PM   
CK1


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RE: The First Email - 5/29/2007 4:26:32 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub
i don't know if i agree 100% with what You said, but i do answer one-word emails.  To me, it's complimentary and polite to say "hi" and nothing else in a first email.  (The compliment being that They took the time to write to you in the first place.)


In my book, less than 2 or 3 intelligent sentences = trollmail and it gets deleted without a response. Anyone can send 'hi' to 500 people, it shows that a person has actually READ or put effort into an intelligent {no form} email, THAT is the person who would get a response from me.

'Hi' is NOT complimentary, its trollmail. If you want an intelligent response, send an intelligent email.

Hell, what do I know. I have been on here for over 4 years and have maxed out how many people I can block a few times over. I don't put up with trolls or trollmail, just ask anyone who has contacted me with one or two words or with a form-email [trollmail] or obviously did NOT read my page, its insulting.

If we are friends, then sure, send me a 'hi' to get my attetnion, no prob, until then; I do NOT reward laziness or lack of intelligence.

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