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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/18/2007 12:55:59 PM   
onmykneesforhim


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ORIGINAL: goodpet

I started to write out the 10 personality traits i wanted in a Master. "The list of 10".  But i soon realized those were the 10 traits i sought to possess within myself and I was really seeking someone to match my standards in those areas and even inspire me to raise my standards in those traits.


I also started this, but more than half of those traits started to be opposite of my personailty. I imagine this will be something to think on. And with the one that said beauty not being listed, I had thought a Master would have to have a nice co........ well never mind.

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/21/2007 12:14:11 AM   
subitodolce


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Status: offline 		What I love most about my dom is the fact that he is such a protector. :-) Granted, since we have begun our partnership, he realizes a little more than I can protect myself in an emergency (we'll get silly from time to time, and I'll break out of his hold or make it impossible for him to turn me over). He doesn't get so nervous about me leaving his apartment when I come to visit (I like to go walking), but his ultimate concern is for my safety...and namely, my health/comfort.

I also love the fact that despite our dom/sub relationship, we are still the best friends that we started out as, and will burst into a random pillowfight or bodily-noise giggle fit. There is just as much satisfaction in lying on our backs, laughing so hard that our sides hurt and tears are streaming down our faces, and realizing that all of the pillows are now on the floor, as there is in my serving and honoring him.

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/21/2007 1:29:15 AM   
JerseyKrissi72


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Status: offline 		What I look for the most is someone who stands behind his words and doesn't give in ..someone who is honest, loyal - that person you can trust with your very soul.

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/22/2007 9:37:04 AM   
stop352


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Status: offline 		When u chat with someone u can make out whether the person is genuine or  just in there for kicks. So i think a genuineness comes thru and over a period of time with experience u can make out teh fakes and can drop them. There will always nbe tiumes when u have not so good relationship. Most of us dont talk about it  , but it would actually be a learning for themselves as well as for others.

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/23/2007 5:12:57 AM   
macy


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ORIGINAL: Kitte9

If you are not collared, what kind of personality/traits are you looking for? If you are collared, what attracted you to your Dom/me?

Humor, intelligence, kindness with a bit of cruelety thrown in , willingness to be completly honest even if it's painful to me, and yes, I have to be physically attracted to him also.

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/23/2007 1:26:30 PM   
DeviantlyD


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Status: offline 		What I would look for (I say would because I'm not in a position right now to find someone) is a man who is confident, without being cocky...who has a good sense of humour (as opposed to a dumb sense of humour...it's hard to describe)...who is intelligent...who either isn't entirely cynical or at least appreciates my sometimes Pollyanna type of hopefullness...a man who I am physically attracted to (that doesn't mean an Adonis - if you could see some of the guys I've been attracted to, you would understand that statement)...a man who is capable of being loving and caring in addition to his dominant traits...a man who is protective...oh...this is a big one for me...monogamous...uhm...experienced in bondage with ropes...a man who has enough control to not lose himself in "play"...and....I'm sure there are more things...these are all just off the top of my head. I've never sat down and made out a list.

I may edit in the future to add more.

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/24/2007 5:32:31 PM   
Kitte9


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Status: offline 		Bliss, I just have to say I love your avatar!

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/26/2007 1:18:04 PM   
lovegirlshoes


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Status: offline 		what i look for and have found is a dom woman who enjoys using me, seeing the twinkle in her eyes as she uses me as her maid knowing i am pleasing her is so worth it all the while i wear her lock on my chastity cage knowing i shall get nothing in return

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/27/2007 12:38:08 AM   
slaveofKaos


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Status: offline 		I look for a Master who is smart, caring, strict, creative, someone who disiciplines, is well rounded, a good teacher, someone who knows what they want and isnt afarid to get it, one who wont back down, a Master that is confident, a good listener, one who shares the same ideas and wants as myself, he should have a sence of humor, someone who will use me fully, someone who will test and push me. After that it's connection lol. I was lucky to find Master.

< Message edited by slaveofKaos -- 6/27/2007 12:40:07 AM >

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/27/2007 3:23:01 AM   
CuteIrishM4F


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Status: offline 		Hi. I am not collared, but I hope to be ! Guess he most important things are honesty, responsibility, humour and compatability. everything elso is a bonus.
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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/27/2007 9:25:13 PM   
k8trix


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Status: offline 		Honesty and consistancy are high on my list.

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RE: What do you look for in a Dom/me? - 6/28/2007 4:35:04 PM   
Lewcifer


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Status: offline 		I'm going to chime in here because there are other dynamics which you can't necessarily "see" in a Dom but which, nonetheless, might be there.

I have "hidden" criteria that apply to any sub living with Me - which I never disclose to the sub/slave, but they become obvious once she is under My wing (and under My roof).  In My case, any sub living with U/us shall be provided with food, clothing and shelter at My expense.  If W/we don't want her living full-time with U/us (Me and my slave wife), but want her to play exclusively with U/us, the same applies except the shelter becomes a rented apartment for her.  she is also provided with a car, but she has to pay her own insurance (to encourage responsible driving).  If she wants to go to school, her tuition and books shall be paid for by Me... but I expect her to do well on exams and study.  If she's satiated my desires extra well that week, she'll also be provided with a weekly allowance of a few hundred dollars.

But these are all things that I would not tell a sub/slave, and hence that she would not know until she began living the committment.

Hope this helps in adding perspective - often times decisons are not just black and white, and are full of hidden consequences.


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