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ebonyslave2u -> Photos please (5/21/2007 10:54:51 AM)

I think collarme is a wonderful site. I do hope to meet a Mistress here. But is a photo always neccessary? To talk after an initial contact, then meet will tell you more about a person then any photo. But I find it quite difficult to meet  a Mistress without one. It is frustrating. I know there must be a lot of fakes and wankers, but it does make it excessively hard for the serious. I just wanted to put that out there for feed back. Thank you for your time. 



MsCameron -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 11:29:51 AM)

What's the big deal about sending a photo?

I'm in the camp of  I wouldn't meet someone without it. I want to know what they look like first.
Yes, it could make a difference on meeting at all.

I'm reminded of the photo I recieved from someone who said they were 40. The pic? Well over 60! Sorry.
Or the other one that showed the wedding ring on his hand. Oops, forgot to tell me that little gem.

MC



MsKatHouston -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 11:49:47 AM)

I won't meet someone without a photo.  How do I know who would be walking in the door?  How would I know if I want to meet the person at all?  While looks are not everything, I do want to know what someone looks like before I meet. 



LaTigresse -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 11:52:32 AM)

I will even go a step further. I will not even comunicate for any length of time if they cannot send me a nice photo or two. Nothing pornographic or anything like that, just a nice clear face photo will do.



MstrssPassion -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 11:53:05 AM)

tell me this... do you pay any attention to the profile of the dominant that shows no picture?

I'm sure you make it a point to look for all the pretty ladies & email them first & those without a profile will most likely be contacted when all else fails.



MissHarlet -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 11:56:32 AM)

Photos ... G rated ones help me put a face with the emails of the person Im talking to.  Rarely have they ruled anyone in or out .. cept with blatant lies .. like the wedding ring or age.

How am I to know whom Im meeting without a photo .. and if I trust you enough to meet you .. you darn well better trust me enough to send me a face photo.!

I do not require a photo to begin chat however .... only if it seems we may meet.



MstrssPassion -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 11:59:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCameron

What's the big deal about sending a photo?

I'm in the camp of  I wouldn't meet someone without it. I want to know what they look like first.
Yes, it could make a difference on meeting at all.

I'm reminded of the photo I recieved from someone who said they were 40. The pic? Well over 60! Sorry.
Or the other one that showed the wedding ring on his hand. Oops, forgot to tell me that little gem.

MC


I met a couple of people without photos but those were the days prior to the internet & cheap digital equipment.

Let me tell you... I met some guys that flat out LIED. One lied so badly that when he walked up to me I had no idea who he was & it wasn't until he identified himself I was like WHOA! Some might consider my next move as rude but I looked him right in the eye & said NO & walked out of the place.

I'm not shallow but if someone is going to lie about things that can be proved as a lie in less than 1 second... I wonder how many other things less obvious they would be capable of lying about.

Back to the OP, no one is saying that you have to place a photo up there for the entire world to see but you better be prepared to offer one after an email exchange or 3 because once the lady is of the mind that she wants to know what you look like, she will expect a photo promptly.



kittiekatt -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:04:18 PM)

People demanding a webcam/digital cam is excessive if u ask me.. but i mean.. you need to have pictures.. :-/



LaTigresse -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:08:54 PM)

Thinking about a webcam or digital being excessive......I am not sure how it would be.

They can be quite inexpensive and if a person hasn't the money for something so inexpensive they probably cannot afford to come see me anyway. I made up my mind that anyone online that should have an interest in me will have to travel to me first. My time is valuable and I cannot afford to be bopping all over the world to find the same thing I have found when meeting people within my own area.......bs and more bs. 



MsCameron -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:10:07 PM)

quote:

Let me tell you... I met some guys that flat out LIED. One lied so badly that when he walked up to me I had no idea who he was & it wasn't until he identified himself I was like WHOA! Some might consider my next move as rude but I looked him right in the eye & said NO & walked out of the place.

I'm not shallow but if someone is going to lie about things that can be proved as a lie in less than 1 second... I wonder how many other things less obvious they would be capable of lying about.


LOL.. I've had that happen too. When I met this one "submissive" it was obvious right away that the pics he had sent me were 60 pounds and at least 15 years ago.

I was pissed!!!

I don't understand why people do this. All it takes is one meeting to find them out.

Sigh.. one of the many reasons I have so soured on the on-line search.

MC



MissHarlet -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:22:01 PM)

Pictures I require as I said .. I do not have a web cam by choice and do not require one of people  I talk to as I find them boring .

I also require people that are long distance travel to me the first time we meet .. and I assure them there will be NO play the first meeting .. that sure weeds out the players .. lol



kittiekatt -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:22:25 PM)

It has nothing to do with price. If a submissive is not comfortable with that then why force them? If they aren't willingly doing something then it isn't right.



MsKatHouston -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:28:35 PM)

I am curious what the difference would be in comfort level between a cam and a pic.



MHOO314 -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:30:50 PM)

I prefer to talk a bit before a picture, I find that when people ask for a picture, its to eliminate ( not everyone is like that however, I find ALOT are)--to Me if the language, the approach, the intent, the conversatins flows, I dont need a pic for a while--after all we all eventually grow old and change, and that pretty boy look or that hot barbie look won't last. IMHO



LaTigresse -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:31:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittiekatt

It has nothing to do with price. If a submissive is not comfortable with that then why force them? If they aren't willingly doing something then it isn't right.


You are correct and I wouldn't force anyone......how could I? I can, however, choose to end contact with someone if something about them raised a red flag and I requested a cam and they refused. That would tell me that they were trying to hide something.



MissHarlet -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:37:29 PM)

For me the cam means I need to be out of comfy jammies and have makeup on if I sit at the computer lol a pic shows me at my better self .




LaTigresse -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:40:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

For me the cam means I need to be out of comfy jammies and have makeup on if I sit at the computer lol a pic shows me at my better self .




Oh I agree! I know that somewhere in my house there is a brand new webcam in a box that has never been used. IF I ever requested it of someone AND they actually followed thru......I would dig it out, turn it on, and scare the HELL out of them!!!!!!

(evil laughter echoing thru the halls of collarme........)



MsKatHouston -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:41:18 PM)

What?  You mean you are not in full fetish attire, perfectly coiffed with full make up on every time you get on the computer?  The dreams of many are now shattered :P

Seriously, I do get that and I am the same way but if you have a cam, you can always arrange a time to get on for a second just to show your here and now self that a pic can sometimes skew, especially if it's a decade old.



LaTigresse -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 12:46:30 PM)

Just once I would like to do the........thumbs in ears with fingers waggling, tongue out, eyes crossed......bit.

Kinda throws em off I imagine.



xragrl -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 1:02:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCameron

What's the big deal about sending a photo?

I'm in the camp of  I wouldn't meet someone without it. I want to know what they look like first.
Yes, it could make a difference on meeting at all.

I'm reminded of the photo I recieved from someone who said they were 40. The pic? Well over 60! Sorry.
Or the other one that showed the wedding ring on his hand. Oops, forgot to tell me that little gem.

MC


I met a couple of people without photos but those were the days prior to the internet & cheap digital equipment.

Let me tell you... I met some guys that flat out LIED. One lied so badly that when he walked up to me I had no idea who he was & it wasn't until he identified himself I was like WHOA! Some might consider my next move as rude but I looked him right in the eye & said NO & walked out of the place.

I'm not shallow but if someone is going to lie about things that can be proved as a lie in less than 1 second... I wonder how many other things less obvious they would be capable of lying about.

Back to the OP, no one is saying that you have to place a photo up there for the entire world to see but you better be prepared to offer one after an email exchange or 3 because once the lady is of the mind that she wants to know what you look like, she will expect a photo promptly.



I agree. I have it posted in all caps on my profile to please send a CLEAR FACE  pic with all emails. Its true looks arent everything but how else are people attracted to each other. I mean all the similarities and good conversations dont mean a thing if you finally meet face to face and there is no chemistry. I will not even speak to someone who doesnt have a face pic. I am kind enough to have atleast 10 pics that show my face and are less than a yr old some only a month. I expect the same courtesy.



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