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RE: Just asks the question but doesn't expect any answers - 6/25/2007 8:30:31 AM

littleone35

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I know it hurts and this may sound trite but it will get better. Almost the same thing happed to me before i met Master. I was talking to this Dom online we met and we liked each other and everything seemed to be going great. After we met we talked for 2 weeks again on the computer then he disappered no goodby no nothing,.. So take heart you are not the firrst one this happend to and you won't be the last. Good luck in your search.

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RE: Just asks the question but doesn't expect any answers - 6/25/2007 8:55:32 AM

RaynaSub

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I don't want to sound harsh, but I read your online journals.
Did you ever meet this man in person, or even talk to him on the phone?
Did you ever get his address or work location?
Many online live in fantasy land, and fantasy land can be fun.
Try not to get to emotionally involved, until you have met the person in real life.
Even meeting in real life is not enough, because people can lie.
Relationships take hard work and real time spent together.
I hope you find the relationship that you seek.

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RE: Just asks the question but doesn't expect any answers - 6/25/2007 5:14:11 PM

SeeksOnlyOne

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i want to offer words of encouragement, but i keep hearing this voice in my head screaming "it was words on a screen"..........its not real until you meet someone, several times. my advice is to remember this so this doesnt happen to you again in the future.

you cant get played unless you hand them them the instrument.......

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RE: Just asks the question but doesn't expect any answers - 6/25/2007 7:09:07 PM

LadyHeart

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Here's a little scenario to ponder. A man is bored with his marriage. He doesn't really want to leave his marriage, but he would love to talk to another woman, to get a bit of interest and excitement in his life and feed his parched ego. But he doesn't want to be found out, so it needs to be on his terms - someone who will be waiting when he wants them, never criticises him (or can be put in her place when she tries it) and will do some of the sexual things his wife won't even talk about. Where could he find such a fantasy person? As luck would have it, while he is surfing the net one night, he stumbles into a site called "ChainMe" or some such, and clicks on the Chatrooms link. He wanders into a world he's never heard of before, where women do all the things he's only dreamed of. His first few attempts at "Kneel down before me and worship me!" meet with derision, but he reads a bit more, gets a bit better at it, and before long, he has the woman of his dreams at the other end of his web cam. And when her attraction fades, or it's all getting a bit intense, well there are plenty more fish in that particular pool...

Does it sound familiar? Who WOULDN'T try it, if it appears to be exactly what the other person wants too. Self justification is something most people are good at. It's not surprising that it happens. What is surprising is that it doesn't happen more.

Hugs to all those who have been drawn into his fantasy. We've all been down that rabbit hole a time or two, with a few variations.
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