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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 5:02:55 AM   
favesclava


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Status: offline 		very true. i knew i was his when he said hello girl. he never raises his voice. and after five months i who used to cum anytime anywhere, now can only do it to his verbal command. but we are all different and a look from the right person is equal to a speech by anyone else. i wonder if its possible ?

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 5:19:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

I seek the one that can command without speaking. Can that be a reality?


Yeah...its often called the Aura of Dominance.

BUT...

One can only acquire it once they have achieved lvl 20 as a non multiclass Paladin or Barbarian. Warriors, Monks, Rogues, and Rangers cant get it.

Now...pay attention...because this is the really important part...

I would write this down...

Once reading lvl 20...you have to slain the dragon in the Swamp of Lost Fakes and Wannabes, NOT the dragon on top of the Unreachable Mountain of Unrealistic Domly Expectations.

If you reach the Endless Void of Submissive's Fantasy Ideals, you've gone too far.



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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 5:38:12 AM   
MadRabbit


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Status: offline 		Okay now...that I am done being a jackass.

I find people have the ability to influence our behaviors and attitudes all the time in normal everyday life.

How often do you look in the rear view mirror, see a police car, and instantly check to make sure your speed is within the limit while making extra sure you are not swerving?

How often do you see co workers lounging around, slacking off, only to instantly jump back to work and change the tone of their conversations when they see a middle level manager coming there way?

In both of these examples, both parties had some form of authority or influence present threw station in society. I find that people on an equal level can exert a degree of influence based on their character.

The two most often cases I see are someone with a strong overbearing and domineering personality who influences threw intimitation and the confident, self assured, wise personality that makes people naturally defer to him/her for advice or decisions.

However...none of this is really anything I really worry too much about, because its based on perception.

Someone who has this "Aura of Dominance" according to one person might viewed as a complete idiot or advesary by another.

Without tootign my own horn, I've had a degree of influence over certain young women my age or younger by simply being myself and with polite requests. However, to someone twice my age, I can easily be perceived as someone to young to know anything and not worth listening to at all.

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 5:43:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Although I guess it can be done why would you want that?  Don't you want to hear the sound of his voice?  A dom doesn't have to bark orders, hell, just a simple whispered "do it" or even better,"do it for Me". What's better than that?


~body frenzy~ Yeah yeah! "Do it for me" works amazingly well.

As for unspoken commands, good lord yes it can happen. A specific look works, as does my knowing the rules, breaking the rules, and seeing Master's blank expression. Silence works well (with me) - I hate it. Barking orders works too. It's a blend of styles and moods. Bottom line is I know who I answer to and I answer to him because he has me pretty well figured out, our chemistry is good, and he mixes in plenty of affection and attention (which is very important for me).

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 5:59:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		The ability to level me with "the look" is certainly a characteristic I am seeking in a Dom.... softly given, or unspoken commands are definitely going to garner respect and compliance from me moreso than a raised voice or anything in the way of verbal abuse (unless its understandably playfully given) ever will.
 
But I have a question relating back to the cigarette lighting thing..... Do all Dommes smoke for crying out loud? Is that some pre-requisite for them? If they're not a smoker, what the hell else are they going to use in that crowded room? The dropped hankie? Just curious!

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 6:09:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Barking orders doesnt make a Dominant, but its a turn on for me to bark them in rapid sucession before a sub can complete the previous command.  I enjoy seeing them scramble, the look of confusion and the fear of making a mistake.  I do this for two reasons: to have fun, and to preamble a discussion on micro-management, which incidently is not my style, and how to prioritze tasks that are assigned to her.

Of course, there is more to Domination. We hold another person's welfare in our hands as well as all the responsibilties and not just the benefits.  Any Dominant who fails to do this, is nothing but a control freak, expecting everything and giving nothing in return.  In my estimation, this person wouldnt meet my definition of dominance, at all.

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 6:09:40 AM   
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You mean one that can take you by your hand, look you in your eyes, press his fingers to your lips (meaning don't speak), gently lead you by the hand to where he wants, look you deep in the eyes, place his hands upon your shoulder (press downward so you know to kneel), postition your head in front of his crotch, grabs you by the hair on the back of your head, unzips his pants, tracing fingers around your lips, slowly inserts finger into your mouth, pulls finger out, traces around your lips again.. repeats process using his cock instead of fingers  Type of stuff?  Is that what you are talking about?
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holy mackeral reading that made me twitch.......been too long since i did that one i reckon

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 7:15:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Whiplash, you and I would be a challenge.  I will say this.  I have yet to meet the man who didn't light My cigarette.  In some cases, they will dash across a crowded room just to do so.


Certainly I will light a cigarette... But will not do so on bended knee. More likely It will be done while looking down your blouse.

That being said I am curious why someone lighting your smoke would indicate you have a power over them.

JSin

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:00:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Then there's also the section of people who think that saying no/denial equals being dominant.

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:27:27 AM   
JSin


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Status: offline 		I guess that is where I am curious about it

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:29:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

I spoke with someone not to long ago that thought commands =Dom . I laughed to myself because so many "men" think if they can bark a command to someone then that must mean they are a Dom.......

I seek the one that can command without speaking. Can that be a reality?


Sure.

In a limited scope. It's pretty hard to tell you to get a soda when you are in another room without talking.

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:34:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Then there's also the section of people who think that saying no/denial equals being dominant.


Yeah, its so cute when they do it whilst stomping feet..
"No, no no!"

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:39:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: octavia

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Then there's also the section of people who think that saying no/denial equals being dominant.


Yeah, its so cute when they do it whilst stomping feet..
"No, no no!"



*snicker*

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:41:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

I spoke with someone not to long ago that thought commands =Dom . I laughed to myself because so many "men" think if they can bark a command to someone then that must mean they are a Dom.......

I seek the one that can command without speaking. Can that be a reality?


I think i am understanding your question, but maybe i am wrong...

my Master/Daddy does this almost excusively with me...inititally it was the way he got me to not be a brat without mentioning it or having to beat me over and over to make it happen....it JUST happened..

He does this in alot of ways....for example when i went to his house the first time he was making me dinner but then had me assist with the salad...lo and behold he got me comfy in his kitchen FAST and the next thing i knew i was cleaning the dishes and offering to clean the rest of the house because he had made me comfy just like that *snap*

It is kind of like a dance and as long as i don't fight to lead he takes me all around the dance floor of life without having to bark a single command

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:42:29 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

I spoke with someone not to long ago that thought commands =Dom . I laughed to myself because so many "men" think if they can bark a command to someone then that must mean they are a Dom.......

I seek the one that can command without speaking. Can that be a reality?



I've experienced "barkers" and "mutes" for years at public events... both have gotten the same response out of me... quite a few years ago I had a guy walk up to me and bark at me "Drink Now!... My response... blank stare... he yelled at me two more times before turning around and walking away... Just last fall I was standing with a group of friends watching a few scenes when I noticed a guy across the room staring at me.... My response.... to stare right back at him.... after about a minute he turned his head... a friend in my group asked me what that was about... I just shruged my shoulders and told him... I guess it was a staring contest, and I won....

Barking commands... does it work... sure
Silent commands... does it work... sure again
But unless you have the right person giving the commands to the right person to respond to them... it doesn't work out so well.


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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 8:43:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		I prefer verbal commands, but my Dominant can give me a look or a touch and I know exactly what he wants from me.

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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 9:44:47 AM   
Shantra


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Status: offline 		I guess none of the Dominants read the submissives rule book.

1. If they give commands without being very polite and saying please and thank you every single time because you are really special and deserve it - they are not Dominant.

2. If they do not have a 'training' program complete with an acronym for it - they are not Dominant.

3. If they speak sharply, directly, bluntly, with passion, they are out of control and clearly not a Dominant.

4. If they do not please 'YOU' first without any thought for themselves 'YOUR' way - heck they are not Dominant - they cannot take the responsibility.

5. If they expect respect from submissives around them at lifestyle events whether collared to them or not - they cannot possibly be Dominant.

After all - all of the above and many more are in the basic Submissive Bible 101.

On the cigarette lighting, men have always lit my cigarettes and I am a slave, I never viewed it as any form of submission to me, just that they were attracted to me and it was part of the 'ritual', the first step on the way to 'will you have sex with me?'.  I thought it was merely the gentlemanly thing, hmmm, but when my Master did smoke he would get very offended if I tried to light his cigarette.

All jokes aside and the rules I put just encompass things that have come to irritate men I believe that those who said it is in the 'match' between Dominant/submissive whatever 'style' of Dominance is employed.

I wish everyone a peaceful and fun weekend.


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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 10:26:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

I seek the one that can command without speaking. Can that be a reality?


Of course it can.  It happens when you have bonded enough where you know what the raised eyebrow means, the simple change of expression.  However, there really has to be a whole lot of speaking (communication) done before the non-spoken commands are understood.  If unspoken commands were simple to understand charades would be really easy.


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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 10:37:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

quote:

ORIGINAL: simplewhispers

I seek the one that can command without speaking. Can that be a reality?


Yeah...its often called the Aura of Dominance.

BUT...

One can only acquire it once they have achieved lvl 20 as a non multiclass Paladin or Barbarian. Warriors, Monks, Rogues, and Rangers cant get it.

Now...pay attention...because this is the really important part...

I would write this down...

Once reading lvl 20...you have to slain the dragon in the Swamp of Lost Fakes and Wannabes, NOT the dragon on top of the Unreachable Mountain of Unrealistic Domly Expectations.

If you reach the Endless Void of Submissive's Fantasy Ideals, you've gone too far.



i have + 100 to sexual enticement and + 100 to chance of crit on hit...so i'm golden....LOL


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RE: Commands - 6/9/2007 10:38:00 AM   
Shantra


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