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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 4:20:15 PM   
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((follows in suit and waits for LA to appear with a list longer then she is of threads on this exact thing from the last week along))

edited to add: wait I missed it LA already did it

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 4:24:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think age has much to do with it.  When I was looking, the age thing really didn't come in.  I met younger than were really mature, and older that were the opposite.  What I did look for was maturity of the mind, life experience, and things we had in common.  I never thought about M's age when we got together...I just got to know him and went from there.

Chances are if you keep looking long enough and continue to grow as a person in the meantime, you will find the right sub for you.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 4:38:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		It cuts both ways. Many men have a fantasy of 20 year old Mistress in thigh boots and a double D corset who "compels" them to have wild sex with them - they won't look at an older Domme....
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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 4:45:21 PM   
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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 4:46:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think some of it is personal preference. I think some people do associate maturity with age. Just keep looking for the right one.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 4:54:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		1) As a general rule, I don't find young men sexually attractive (they look like kids to me.)
2)MOST of the time, older doms are more likely to be financially stable (I'm not into being a sugar-momma-slave).
3)MOST of the time, older doms are more likely to be wise and experienced in life matters and able to help guide me in my choices.
4)MOST of the time, an older dom has more experience in kinky sex and is a better lover and a better top
5)MOST of the time, an older dom has had several subs and is more knowledgeable about subs in general and how to handle their emotions and issues.
6)I seek a daddy dom, and I just can't call a young 20-something "daddy". It doesn't work.


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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 5:01:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I also believe it is how you conduct yourself. I have seen people in their early 20's act mature, some even own their own business, and some 50 year old guys act like teenagers. 

I would want to be taken seriously as a sub and not have some younger dom tell me that he selected me because that was his fantasy of having an older sub...I seek better qualities from a dom than just a mere desire.

There might be some older subs wishing to seek a younger dom but as they state, it is the experience that is important and that might carry over to that learning curve.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 5:03:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: aggressiveblkdom

Lately I've been wondering more and more about this. Being a younger Dom, I've often faced the frustrating words "sorry, you're not old enough". Why do so many women not even bother to consider a person due to their age? Is it because age is automatically associated with maturity? If so, isnt this jumping the gun because many people are middle aged, etc and still act worse than some little kids. Just thought I'd get some feedback on this to help me to understand this a bit better.



in this particular instance, experience matters. i don't want to be dominated by someone who doesn't know what they're doing, and can cause injury.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 5:06:23 PM   
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And some tylenol!!!
 
To the OP,
 
some of us do enjoy younger men as well as older so keep your chin up and do as SimplyMichael says and get out into your local scene

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 5:18:18 PM   
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If your open minded be a sub.


this is ignorant...being openminded has nothing to do with your orientation...perhaps a Dominant can bottom for a certain amount of time, but you can't will yourself into changing from Dom to sub or sub to Dom any more than you can make yourself gay or straight...

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 5:26:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: aggressiveblkdom

Lately I've been wondering more and more about this. Being a younger Dom, I've often faced the frustrating words "sorry, you're not old enough". Why do so many women not even bother to consider a person due to their age? Is it because age is automatically associated with maturity? If so, isnt this jumping the gun because many people are middle aged, etc and still act worse than some little kids. Just thought I'd get some feedback on this to help me to understand this a bit better.


Well Chris, let me say...it is true there are more than a few 40 (and older) year olds that I consider far too immature for my tastes.

I've also, as a sub (48), been approached by several 25, 29, and 33 year old Dommes (I being a male sub), a few of which wanted very much to move in with me, and no offense meant to any of them...they were all fabulous people, all highly attractive...enough such that if we were to have become a couple, most of the world around us would surely have been asking how "they" ended up with me (and not the other way around), but consider...

When she was 25 (turn this into your question), I'd be 48...still workable (and certainly in MY favor as to social circles).

When she was 40...I'd be 63 (not all that attractive in her social group I'd imagine).

When she was 55...I'd be...

Well....dead.

And she might be with (hopefully my) children by then.

With no Father.

When you're 25 (as you are), things look rosey, all things are possible, and the only limitations to your world are...well...there are none.

When you're 40, things start to look a little less limitless.

It's not by any stretch the end, not by any measure at all, but in our case, we prefer to be around people that actually know who Lucy and Desi were.

As to my taking instruction from a 25 year old...well...frankly (no offense bud)....but even Seinfeld wasn't that funny.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 6:41:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm wondering if some of these answers were just cut and paste from the other board.  More than one seemed awfully familiar. 
 
To the OP, the simple answer is that age is a factor because it relates to a lot of things.  Do you have years of experience in the lifestyle?  How's your financial stability?  Are you settled?  Are you well read?  The short answer lies in a question.  Exactly why should a submissive chose you (and trust Me, that is the case) over a Dominant who has a few more years and more to offer? 
 
I'm not saying you have nothing to offer, and I'm not saying don't keep looking.  Just realize that female submissives have a lot of choices.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 7:07:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: aggressiveblkdom

Lately I've been wondering more and more about this. Being a younger Dom, I've often faced the frustrating words "sorry, you're not old enough". Why do so many women not even bother to consider a person due to their age? Is it because age is automatically associated with maturity? If so, isnt this jumping the gun because many people are middle aged, etc and still act worse than some little kids. Just thought I'd get some feedback on this to help me to understand this a bit better.


Why is weight, hair color, breast size, family background, education level?

It's all personal preference.
I agree with this statement.. adding to the fact that you also have criteria to be met..one of which you have stated..You seek an open minded submissive, where age is not a factor...that is your preference..see how that works?...there is always a glove for that particular hand..patience..Tempting

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 7:22:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		age maybe just a number however i'm a woman looking for more stablity in a relationship than someone your age could provide ...beside i could never be a submissive to anyone close to my brothers' ages.  you might have the experience yet probably lack the maturity or vice versa.  sorry to be blunt but it's my personal preference.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 8:46:23 PM   
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Age is an issue online, it is not such an issue in real life.  If one carries themselves with grace and maturity, your reputation will mean more than your age.


I think I have to agree with you on this. Online the number is right there in black and white so the choice is usually made right then and there. Whereas in real life there is no number attatched to you until someone asks. After reading many of the replies I definitely agree that alot of it comes down to personal choice. But I'm also noticing that with alot of people it's age association. When they see the age they automatically equate it with their son, younger brother, etc. Then you become nothing more than a number, not a person.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 9:01:31 PM   
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But I'm also noticing that with alot of people it's age association. When they see the age they automatically equate it with their son, younger brother, etc. Then you become nothing more than a number, not a person.


I don't think that's fair. I think people have raised valid points about not dating someone much younger than them. If single, I wouldn't want to date someone my Dad's age because I don't want to deal with all the junk that goes with it. Now if they are uber-special, I would give it a shot. But I also don't want to date someone who is 80 or even sixty.

This really goes both ways and both have valid reasons.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 9:04:10 PM   
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But I'm also noticing that with alot of people it's age association. When they see the age they automatically equate it with their son, younger brother, etc. Then you become nothing more than a number, not a person.


I don't think that's fair. I think people have raised valid points about not dating someone much younger than them. If single, I wouldn't want to date someone my Dad's age because I don't want to deal with all the junk that goes with it. Now if they are uber-special, I would give it a shot. But I also don't want to date someone who is 80 or even sixty.

This really goes both ways and both have valid reasons.



Hmmmmmm, you do have a good point there.

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 9:07:38 PM   
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But I also don't want to date someone who is 80 or even sixty.



unless they are really rich

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 9:15:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		You've had a lot of good replies and it really does come down to personal preference. It's not so much that associating Your age with family members reduces You to a number ... it's more the tacky social associations that this creates (mutton dressed as lamb, cradle snatcher are unkind expressions applied to older women with younger males!). I would think You might have a hope with ladies from about 20-30 ... but I also realise there aren't so many of them awake to their submissive selves. So You might have to be patient a bit, perhaps try for some experience rather than a full on relationship. To be honest, what would mostly put my sub side off You would be the word "aggressive" rather than Your age! That's a big red flag to me! So are You SURE it's Your age that's the main problem?

I am both sub and Domme, my sub side is happily collared to a 35-yo Master and i have just turned 51. Yes W/we have talked about the "what will happen when He is 60 and i am 75/76" ... the feeling is W/we'll cope! But then, He has always liked women older than Himself, always felt more in common with them. And I am simply open-minded ... I didn't set out to find a younger Master ... I simply found the PERSON ... and He happened to be younger! So have hope, maybe that will happen to You too somewhere down the track!

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RE: Why is age such a deciding factor for many women? - 6/13/2007 9:24:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some women tell men that they are the wrong age, the wrong bank balance, the wrong house or car, the wrong career, etc...

Some men tell women they are the wrong age, the wrong weight, the wrong breast size, the wrong body type, the wrong limits, the wrong needs, etc...

You can't please all of the people all of the time. Perhaps as you get older, you will not take it personally. LOL!

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